
We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I really enjoy your column and find your replies eloquent and very interesting. I've written in before, and haven't gotten a response, so I figured I'd try again. I am in a strange situation right now. I've had an eating disorder for the past 3 years of my life, and just recently, got put into the hospital due to complications from the severity of it. I know what I'm doing is wrong, and I'm trying to change, but it seems like every attempt is half-hearted at best. I've read in several different books that individuals born on my DOB (March 9, 1985, @ 1:45AM) show a pattern of substance abuse and health problems. The year just seems to be getting worse and worse and I was wondering what my chart holds for the upcoming school year. I think I put up a front and have a difficult time letting others get close, in fear that I will somehow lose control of everything in my life. Will my life and relationships with others improve at all? Thank you for your time.
Pisces
Dear Pisces
You aren't a very strong Pisces only having your natal Sun in that sign. Your chart is predominantly Aries with your natal Mercury, Venus and Mars in that sign and Scorpio with your natal Saturn and Pluto in that sign. Your recent jaunt to the hospital does show up and it appears that if you don't use your Scorpio discipline to get back on track that you will end up in hospital again over the course of the next year. I urge you to take your health concerns seriously and stabilize your mental outlook before you start to worry about relationships. You have to learn to love yourself first. Your chart indicates that you have so much to work with but with your natal Neptune adversely aspecting your natal Mercury it is apparent that you are not always honest with yourself and this can lead to problems dealing with denial etc. However with your natal Mercury favorably positioned to your natal Jupiter it should help you to feel better about yourself. Problems with home, family or friends may occur if you don't take better care of yourself. It is obvious that you have people around you who care and who may be getting annoyed with the way you are handling your life. You are bright, creative and could help others with similar problems. You will probably be more attracted to people or partners who are older or younger and possibly at this stage of your life you aren't really meeting a wide enough variety of people. It is important for you to get focused and to keep active as well as to get your eating disorder sorted out once and for all. You are the master of your own destiny and no one else can make the adjustments for you. I believe that you have what it takes to change your life but the most difficult part is taking the first step. If you don't get started your educational pursuits will suffer over the course of the next couple of years, however if you can manage to pull things together you have the potential to do quite well. You should be meeting people over the next year that are good for you as well as those who can help you make the necessary life changes. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Virgo, Scorpio and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
My sun sign is in Cancer, I was born July 7, 1979, at 12:15 AM, and I've read enough on astrology to know that I should be compatible with both Virgo and Pisces. My past two relationships were with each, and although lengthy, they proved difficult.I think it may have something to do with my Aries rising. I'm afraid the aggressive nature so common in the ram is a bit intimidating, especially when the aggressor is female. My last fling was with an Aries male, and although at first there were sparks, it quickly diminished. I realize that other aspects affect astrological matchmaking, but I'd like to get your opinion on the matter. What male sign can handle both the Aries stubbornness, and the crab's ultra-sensitivity? My moon is in Sagittarius.
Thank you.
Aggressive Crab
Dear Aggressive Crab
Actually in your particular case the Sun sign match up doesn't work all that well. Normally you should get along well with both Virgo and Scorpio. However, the sign Scorpio falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects so it's unlikely to work. To add to this your natal Jupiter and Mercury are in the sign Leo adversely aspected to the sign Scorpio. The sign Virgo falls in an area that deals with work not personal matters such as relationships plus you have your natal Mars in Gemini and your natal Neptune in Sagittarius and that would clearly play havoc with a strong Virgo. Having your natal Sun in the 4th house adversely aspected to your natal Pluto in the 7th leads me to believe that you will have difficulty with relationships. Now that doesn't mean that you can't have a happy union. Especially with your natal Moon, Neptune, Jupiter and Mercury well aspected to the Pluto in your 7th but it does mean that you will have to choose your partner wisely and realize that relationships don't just happen, they require work, dedication, devotion and perseverance. You match up well to those born under the signs, Cancer, Libra, Capricorn and Aquarius. I suggest that you always run a comparison before you decide to get serious and intimate with someone. Although a person can be born under one of these signs it does not mean that they will have a lot of their natal planets in that sign and this could result in difficulties once again.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I know it's the third time I'm writing this letter and I hope I really don't disturb you but I want to know if the relationship I have with a good friend of mine is going to last. His birthday is 6 December 1981, 15:30 pm and mine is October 9, 1980, at 11:50 am. We have been friends since we were 6 years old and lately, he showed me that he wants something more than friendship. I wasn't in love with him but I had very strong feelings for him and so we had a relationship for a year. I am sad because it didn't work since I couldn't open up to him; I felt he didn't let me. Now he holds grudges because I asked him to break up because I thought that that was better for him and for me. I want to make things work again because I think that if we both want it we can make it work although it seems difficult and we hurt each other sometimes. I really don't want to lose him and I'm ready to fight for our relationship. So do you think it will work? Is it worth trying for? Please tell me because it's really very important to me.
Libra
Dear Libra
The comparison with your Sagittarius friend was really quite good. I believe however that you both need more time. You obviously hurt his feelings and he is definitely a very proud man. You must get your friendship back on track first and then let nature take it's coarse. You will both be in a better position to readdress your relationship in 2004/2005. Considering you've known each other since you were kids you should be able to talk things through and get your priorities straight regarding the way you feel about one another at that time. Physically and mentally you match up well but emotionally there are some problems. Your inability to open up especially regarding the way you feel about being intimate with him must be dealt with and the only way that will happen is if you communicate. I do believe however that the timing has not been right for this relationship as of yet and that if you wait for another year you will both be in a much better frame of mind to deal with the problems that you face.
Eugenia
September 3rd 2026
Happy Birthday: Make choices based on your needs this year. Trying to please everyone else before you please yourself will lead to mistakes, time management problems, and frustration. Put yourself first and go through the proper channels to ensure you avoid repetition. Scoop up what life has to offer and learn to enjoy the simple things. It’s time to relax, enjoy, and appreciate being you. Live, love, and laugh. Your numbers are 5, 12, 17, 28, 32, 36, 44.