We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.
For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I really enjoy your column and find your replies eloquent and very interesting. I've written in before, and haven't gotten a response, so I figured I'd try again. I am in a strange situation right now. I've had an eating disorder for the past 3 years of my life, and just recently, got put into the hospital due to complications from the severity of it. I know what I'm doing is wrong, and I'm trying to change, but it seems like every attempt is half-hearted at best. I've read in several different books that individuals born on my DOB (March 9, 1985, @ 1:45AM) show a pattern of substance abuse and health problems. The year just seems to be getting worse and worse and I was wondering what my chart holds for the upcoming school year. I think I put up a front and have a difficult time letting others get close, in fear that I will somehow lose control of everything in my life. Will my life and relationships with others improve at all? Thank you for your time.
Pisces
Dear Pisces
You aren't a very strong Pisces only having your natal Sun in that sign. Your chart is predominantly Aries with your natal Mercury, Venus and Mars in that sign and Scorpio with your natal Saturn and Pluto in that sign. Your recent jaunt to the hospital does show up and it appears that if you don't use your Scorpio discipline to get back on track that you will end up in hospital again over the course of the next year. I urge you to take your health concerns seriously and stabilize your mental outlook before you start to worry about relationships. You have to learn to love yourself first. Your chart indicates that you have so much to work with but with your natal Neptune adversely aspecting your natal Mercury it is apparent that you are not always honest with yourself and this can lead to problems dealing with denial etc. However with your natal Mercury favorably positioned to your natal Jupiter it should help you to feel better about yourself. Problems with home, family or friends may occur if you don't take better care of yourself. It is obvious that you have people around you who care and who may be getting annoyed with the way you are handling your life. You are bright, creative and could help others with similar problems. You will probably be more attracted to people or partners who are older or younger and possibly at this stage of your life you aren't really meeting a wide enough variety of people. It is important for you to get focused and to keep active as well as to get your eating disorder sorted out once and for all. You are the master of your own destiny and no one else can make the adjustments for you. I believe that you have what it takes to change your life but the most difficult part is taking the first step. If you don't get started your educational pursuits will suffer over the course of the next couple of years, however if you can manage to pull things together you have the potential to do quite well. You should be meeting people over the next year that are good for you as well as those who can help you make the necessary life changes. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Virgo, Scorpio and Pisces.
Eugenia
Please Eugenia.
I read your column religiously. I really need some advice. My ex-husband born 2-25-54 at 2:50 am and myself born April 8, 1963 at 4:20 am were married for 13 years and then in 1998 he met someone online and left me. He hasn't seen our children or really spoken to me since. Recently, I have been severely disabled. A severe flare up of MS that has left me bedridden. I requested an increase in child support, which my ex fought stating that he pays the mortgage payment. Within 1 month of his dispute of the child support I was contacted by the IRS telling me that I owed them over 10k because I never claimed the fact that he paid the mortgage as my income. H&R block did my taxes and they are going to pay the penalty because they realize that this has been their error not mine. However Eugenia, my tax consultant told me that my ex must have brought the issue up for the IRS too audit the years requested. Eugenia, my health is such that I'm not going to be able to care for our boys much longer. I can't believe that my ex is being so vengeful I have not done a thing to him not even tried to contact him. Please Eugenia, can you tell me if there is any hope that my ex will treat our sons decently........or maybe if you see any break for me financially or health wise. I'm really at the end of my rope :*( Thank you for your time
Aries
Dear Aries
You didn't mention when your children were born so I can't tell you what the relationship between them and your husband will be in the future. I believe that your husband has always been in denial regarding the boys but if push comes to shove and you were no longer able to care for them he would step in. However he would also stop support for you at the same time. Your husband is a little full of him self and conceited when it comes to who he is and what his potential is. I believe that he is probably not in as good a financial situation as you might imagine. Although he can make money he can also let it slip through his fingers. He can be charming but he can also show his temper and he is one to exaggerate and blow things out of context. If I were you I would probably try to make a deal with him that when you can no longer care for the boys that he pay to bring help in to take care of the boys as well as you or that he must take the boys on himself as his responsibility. The ideal situation would be for you to have a family member or friend take on that position however that may not be possible. Your chart indicates that you will continue to experience more limitations due to your illness over the course of the next year but also that you may be given the wrong medication and this is what leads to the additional problems. Please keep on top of what the doctors offer you. Try to do your research for side effects etc. Financially you do appear to be in a better position over the course of the next several years. This could be due to subsidies that are provided by government or some other health care organization. It can also be that you come into money through a tax rebate, insurance surrender, winnings or a gift from someone who cares. Please don't lose hope; your boys need your input even if you can't do as much for them. You must not give up but instead try to provide an alternative to get the help you need. Your ex should pay for this assistance or do more to take care of the boys himself. Something tells me he will opt to let you take care of them even if it does cost him a little more to get you the help you need.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I was born Nov. 10 1971 at 6:18pm. My husband born Nov. 1 1960 at 8 am. Our son born Oct. 26 1996 at 3:12 am. 3 Scorps under one roof! I met my husband at 17 and have been with him since. We have been married for 6 yrs. I have gone through many changes in the past few yrs. I believe my Saturn in return at this time. I am questioning my relationship and feel unfulfilled. However I have built a life with this man and we are raising our son together. I am older now and more aware of what I need in a relationship. I honestly feel if I had met my husband now, I would have not wanted to start a relationship with him. We have gone through many tough times and I do care about him. We make an excellent team at times but we disagree a lot and it ends up being a heated debate. From how we should raise our son and our personal goals. My husband has problems with chemical abuse. He quit drinking at the beginning of our relationship but never gave up smoking pot. At times I feel pulled down by him and do things I feel are no good for me. I am completely faithful to my husband but feel guilt by the strong attraction I have to other men. I have been getting crushes, and I feel uncertain regarding my marriage. My cynical scorpion side takes over and I find myself picking my husband apart. He tends to exaggerate stories and embarrasses me when we go out on occasion. By offending someone with being physically crude or saying an off color joke etc. We have built a life together and financially we would have to sell our home if we broke up. He is a good father and my son adores him. I feel like I would mess up everyone's life if I chose to end the marriage. I work with a man and there has been an instant attraction from day one. His birthday is July 10 1974. This guy has a live-in girlfriend. I feel something very intense when I am around him and it seems like it is a mutual feeling. I do not intend to pursue anything outside my marriage, however the changes in me are causing me to reevaluate my life. I would like it if you could tell me what the charts say with the birth data I have given you.
Best Regards,
Confused Scorpio
Dear Confused Scorpio
Your comparison with your husband was lacking but workable. I never really mind same sign relationships however in your case although you were born under the sign Scorpio you have Mercury, Venus, Jupiter and Neptune in Sagittarius, Uranus and Pluto in Libra, Moon in Virgo, Mars in Pisces and Saturn in Gemini with Gemini rising. Now that doesn't make for a very strong Scorpio. With transiting Saturn sitting on your natal Saturn you are going through your Saturn return and this can cause you to reevaluate your life up to this point. It is a turning point that can be depressing, insightful and hurtful. You can either make the necessary changes that will in turn make your life better or you can settle and leave things the way they are. If you are going to leave your husband I believe that it will be over the course of the next year. However, do not leave him for your Cancer attraction. This man does match up to you but the sign of sorrow is present and it isn't likely that this relationship will be lasting even if you do get it off the ground. I believe that your attraction to him and to other men is due to your dissatisfaction with your own life and with your husband. It's time to start communicating with your husband. Consider seeing a marriage counselor. Both you and your husband have the planet Venus in the sign Sagittarius in your natal charts and this is usually indicative of someone who is a bachelor at heart. Your husband may be feeling the same way that you are.
Eugenia
