We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have to ask for *discretion*, because my situation is embarrassing to me. I feel like I've failed in everything I've attempted. My baby's 10 months old now (09-17-00 12:02pm. I'm living on just about every source of welfare that I could find, and I get no child support. Things are getting really rough. I cry at night because I didn't want it to be like this. Every time I try for a job, I get no reply. Do you see anything happening in my chart in terms of financial stability? I really wish to get off of public assistance. I wanted to write to you about love and my soul mate. I feel so alone, and I know my first priority is my son, but love. I have never really had that someone special without it breaking out into mental abuse. Can you tell me if I'm *ever* going to meet someone. I feel cursed. I feel like I'm reliving my moms past...and it scares me. I know you can't move the stars, but if you can give me some insight into what's going on or might happen it might help to be aware. Sometimes I don't know if I can continue living the way I am. I'm scared, and I want more for my son. His father (10-15-82 isn't around, no one knows where he is. I'm just so confused. I try to keep hope alive, but I can't get any breaks.
Sincerely,
Abandoned and alone
Dear Abandoned and alone
You are heading into a high cycle regarding work so don't stop looking. A job will be available if you continue to walk the pavement and go for interviews. Opportunities for educational pursuits are also present. That could mean that you will learn while on the job like an apprenticeship. Although you do match up to the father of your son he probably does not know how to handle the responsibility. If you can find him I suggest you do. He should be helping you out by paying support. I believe that you will be able to do something regarding this matter over the course of the next year so don't give up hope or stop trying to find him. You do have a habit of picking men who are irresponsible. Keep in mind that there is more to a good relationship then sex. Kindness, generosity, responsibility and the ability to share are also important. Long after the passion dwindles you still need to have common interests, beliefs and goals. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I know I've met my soul mate, but we keep having conflicts that end with me not wanting to deal with him. He's a Taurus born May 4, 1971 and I'm a Cancer born June 25, 1962. Nine months ago he came back into my life after a 5-year separation, and I believed he wanted a second chance and that he truly loved me. His actions say otherwise when it comes to my feelings. I've gone out of my way, once again, to make sure he is happy, comfortable, and to give all the support he needs. He's done nothing for me and he makes me feel that he has taken advantage of me again and only cares about himself.
I've just recently asked him to leave, because he had hurt my feelings again and that was the last straw for me. I miss him desperately, but I don't know if it's my self-destructive behavior that won't completely let go! I don't want to go through this back and forth emotional roller coaster with him forever. Am I lying to myself? My Cancer logic is slipping away...
Destined
Dear Destined
The comparison does lack some qualities that I would like to see and deception and disillusionment are present in areas of your chart that deal with the home and chores that you share with one another. The unfortunate thing is that once you do too much for someone it is hard to back off and stop doing without causing problems in the relationship. This person is taking advantage of you but you have allowed it to happen. Your chart indicates that you do have problems when it comes to relationships. Your natal Saturn opposite your natal Venus both adversely aspected by your natal Neptune can make it difficult for you to choose properly. It is important for you to have an astrological comparison done before you give your heart to someone. You are in a high cycle for romance right now and will also be during the first half of next year. It is important for you to move on and free yourself of this man who has little to offer you but grief. Keep in mind that as long as he is in your life it will be difficult to take advantage of the opportunities you have for meeting someone new. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have read some of your responses to the letters posted in your new advice feature, and I'm impressed with your knowledgeable and common sense advice. I am wondering if you can help me, as well. I am a professional Leo woman, who was born on July 25, 1962, 11:46pm. I have recently moved back to my home state for two reasons: I have just gotten a great job with a software company here and I am also looking for a fresh new start as I have just gotten a divorce from my ex-husband, born August 25, 1953, 5:55am. My marriage was never really great to begin with, but had gotten especially bad during the last two years, as my ex-husband became increasingly more and more verbally and mentally abusive. I left him when he started becoming physically abusive towards me and threatened my life. After I left him, I spent the next year and a half-alone trying to re-build my life and heal from my emotional wounds. I realized through therapy and self-examination that most of my relationships with men in the past have been emotionally destructive. Now that I am getting settled in my new home and job and am starting to feel better about myself, I want to start dating again. Just recently I've met a nice man through a friend and he and I just started seeing each other. He and I seem to get along well and have a lot in common; also my friend tells me that he is a genuinely nice guy. What worries me is that this man is a Virgo, like my ex-husband. I've noticed in my self-analysis that although I'm a Leo, most of my long-lasting relationships have been with Virgo men. This new man's birth data is Sept. 20, 1960 (birth time unknown). Is this new relationship destined to become destructive and emotionally unfulfilling like my marriage and past relationships were, or can I finally let the past go and look forward to new love, new life, and much better things in my future?
Wounded yet Hopeful Lioness
Dear Wounded yet Hopeful Lioness
A person's chart is as individualistic as a finger print. Your ex husband is really quite different from your new man and so is your comparison with both. You really matched up very poorly to your ex and I'm not surprised that it didn't last. Your ex only has his natal Sun in the sign Virgo and the rest of the planets in his chart are spread out between the signs Gemini, Cancer, Leo, Libra and Pisces. Your new man on the other hand has his natal Sun, Moon and Pluto in the sign Virgo with some planets falling in the signs Gemini, Leo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius and Capricorn. Your chart indicates that you do have a problem where relationships are concerned and that you are prone to picking poorly or for the wrong reason. You do match up far better to your new Virgo and I do believe that you can enjoy an honest and open relationship with him. You will be in an exceptionally high cycle for love during the later half of next year and the first half of the year 2002. This can mean that this relationship will develop into something very strong or you will meet someone new who will capture your heart. Please get a comparison done if you do decide to date someone new to ensure that you aren't picking the wrong partner.
Eugenia
