We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Abandoned and alone

Dear Eugenia,

I have to ask for *discretion*, because my situation is embarrassing to me. I feel like I've failed in everything I've attempted. My baby's 10 months old now (09-17-00 12:02pm. I'm living on just about every source of welfare that I could find, and I get no child support. Things are getting really rough. I cry at night because I didn't want it to be like this. Every time I try for a job, I get no reply. Do you see anything happening in my chart in terms of financial stability? I really wish to get off of public assistance. I wanted to write to you about love and my soul mate. I feel so alone, and I know my first priority is my son, but love. I have never really had that someone special without it breaking out into mental abuse. Can you tell me if I'm *ever* going to meet someone. I feel cursed. I feel like I'm reliving my moms past...and it scares me. I know you can't move the stars, but if you can give me some insight into what's going on or might happen it might help to be aware. Sometimes I don't know if I can continue living the way I am. I'm scared, and I want more for my son. His father (10-15-82 isn't around, no one knows where he is. I'm just so confused. I try to keep hope alive, but I can't get any breaks.

Sincerely,

Abandoned and alone

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Dear Abandoned and alone

You are heading into a high cycle regarding work so don't stop looking. A job will be available if you continue to walk the pavement and go for interviews. Opportunities for educational pursuits are also present. That could mean that you will learn while on the job like an apprenticeship. Although you do match up to the father of your son he probably does not know how to handle the responsibility. If you can find him I suggest you do. He should be helping you out by paying support. I believe that you will be able to do something regarding this matter over the course of the next year so don't give up hope or stop trying to find him. You do have a habit of picking men who are irresponsible. Keep in mind that there is more to a good relationship then sex. Kindness, generosity, responsibility and the ability to share are also important. Long after the passion dwindles you still need to have common interests, beliefs and goals. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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Article: From Aquarius

Hello Eugenia!

I'm a female Aquarian with a Sagittarius moon and Pisces ascendant. I'm wondering what to do with my life. I quit work last December because, while I was good at what I was doing, I wasn't happy. I'm wondering if I should push myself in a more creative direction, but money is tight. I'm actually terrified of what I think I want - my family and friends would not like it, also, I've grown accustomed to using hope as an excuse to look forward to the future: Maybe one day I'll be doing something I like and getting rewarded for it.

I think life would be much easier if we were born with little instruction books which told us our life expectancy, where to find our partners, how many children we might have - if any, what job we were designed for and a step-by-step breakdown of our destiny; maybe wanting instructions is laziness, but I'm exhausted from living. I probably think too much. I went for a reading recently and I was told that I need to take a break... but I am taking a break and it's not helping me figure anything out.

Any clues to what's eating me or where I should go, what I should do?

Aquarius

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Hello Aquarius

You aren't the only Aquarius who is confused right now but nothing so serious that a little creativity and following your dreams can't fix. We were all born with what I like to call a road map of our lives. That is what an astrological chart is. You my friend were born with a splash chart and that makes you quite capable of doing many different things. You are coming into lots of changes over the next few years especially where vocation, studying and traveling to distant lands are concerned. Your chart indicates many creative interests in which entertaining is one of them. You are the one who holds yourself back - no one else. You must be true to yourself and pursue the type of career that will make you happy. If you read my work on a regular basis you have probably heard me say many times that the prerequisite to happiness is doing the right thing at the right time for you.

You are coming into your first Saturn return next year and this is what I refer to as the maturing time in a person's life. It is very common for you to be reevaluating your life and your future direction. This is a pivotal period, a time to size up what you have done with your life up until this point and what the possibilities are for the future. This is your decision - no one else's and you have to make the alterations that will please you the most. If you want to pursue something creative the next couple of years is the time to do so. Don't look back too long or you will waste the opportunity to follow your heart. Take the plunge and give yourself a chance to find your niche. The worst case scenario is not trying to achieve your dreams and looking back in fifteen years when you go through your second half-life Saturn and you say to yourself could of, should of would of. Don't fall victim to having regrets because you didn't take the initiative - just do it - the time is right.

Eugenia

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Article: From Marie

Dear Eugenia

I have separated from my husband after 14 years of marriage and I have been seeing another man for 15 months now. My ex was very jealous and controlling and his selfishness killed all the love I had for him. He was born on November 5 1955.

My present lover was a longtime acquaintance and we got together as my marriage was ending. He was born on September 26 1966.

I have always had a strong attraction to this man from the first time I saw him and my ex could see it somehow and it caused a lot of frictions in our marriage. Nothing ever happened between the other man and me until I became desperately unhappy and sought him in the last months of my marriage. He brought back laughter and joy into my life and I feel happy in his company. He is divorced and has a teenage daughter. We have a very discreet relationship for many reasons but now I wish we could take it to another level.

Could you please tell me if this relationship will lead to a commitment or if there is another man for me in my future? I am very careful whom I mingle with because I have two children that I want to keep safe. My present boyfriend has known them from birth and has been good and caring towards them.

Hoping to hear from you soon.
Thank you.
Marie

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Dear Marie

Firstly, kudos to you for having the strength and courage to move on and getting away from a controlling and unloving marriage and for thinking of your children first.

The comparison with your ex showed signs of both mental and physical abuse that you and your children shouldn't be subjected to. His possessive obsession at an emotional level is something he was born with and shows clearly in his chart. In short he needs professional help to overcome this problem however he is the personality type that probably would never agree to that sort of therapy.

Your current relationship is not the best or most suitable match up for you long-term and is probably much better kept as a family friend. Unfortunately according to your astrological comparison with him there is evidence that he has the potential to be emotionally deceptive with you. I do believe that you have some karma with this man however and that it is likely he has served his purpose. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle regarding love this year and that it is important for you to get out and meet new people, however if you are tied up too tightly with your Libra man you aren't likely to experiment with potential partners. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Virgo, Libra and Aquarius. Should you want to give this relationship more time your next favorable cycle for love and romance will begin late next year and continue through the first three quarters of 2009.

Eugenia

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