We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Forget Him?

Dear Eugenia,

I hope you will answer my letter. I beg you to. There is a man I have been seeing for 9 months. He works at the same office but in a different department. The problem is that he is still married. He keeps on extending the date to separate from his wife saying he has to do it because of his kids. I do understand his situation, but sometimes I feel like I am getting used unintentionally. I know he wouldn't purposely hurt me. I live alone. And it's so lonely without him. At work he is such a distraction, because I always think about him.

I love him very much, but my life was turned upside down because of him. I am emotionally very unstable. Could you please advice me if I should pursue this any more. I am thinking of finding another job, since it would be easier to forget him that way. His date of birth is 08/13/1954 6.45pm and mine is October 4, 1971, at 10:25 PM. Please I beg you to give me some advice.

Desperate

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Dear Desperate

Yes you do match up to your Leo friend but he is in a situation that is not healthy for you. I believe that you should back away, change your job if necessary and get on with your life. If he is serious about you and leaving his family he will do so. As for you sitting around and waiting you should stop doing so immediately. Whether you think he is using you or not, he is. Right now he has two women in his life that he is hurting along with his son. You are going through your Saturn return this year and that will make you depressed as well as cause you to reevaluate your situation. This year is a make it or break it period for you. As for him, I would have thought that if he was planning to leave his family he would have done so a couple of years ago. If you continue to wait around for him he will have no desire or need to make the necessary changes. His chart indicates that he is extremely changeable regarding his feelings and his relationships. He is wishy-washy about love and can be a bit of a player. Be careful what you wish for. If he can cheat on his wife and son he will certainly be able to cheat on you.

Eugenia

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Article: Leo Rising

Dear Eugenia,

I came across this website tonight and found myself hopeful in finding the answer to my question. I am a Capricorn (12/28/81) with the time approximately 6pm. Many times I have read about my sign that it is hard for me to have fulfilling relationships. The strange thing is that I never had any. My relationships with males such as my father, male friends, and boyfriends have always been tremendously turbulent. I recently started dated someone (08/13/79) who surprisingly turned out to be very important in my life. I'm scared that all the predictions about Capricorns and Leo's are true (they say our signs do not match well) and that this relationship will not go far due to the descriptions of my sign and my proof of past history. I would tremendously appreciate any information or advice you could give me.

Capricorn

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Dear Capricorn

You don't match up badly to your Leo friend. One of the reasons that you get along so well with this sign is because you have Leo rising. With your natal Venus and Moon in the sign Aquarius in your house of relationships you should do quite well with this relationship. With your Sun and natal Mercury in Capricorn and his Moon in Taurus you should also find some common ground. Your chart also indicates that you have a strong Libra and Sagittarius influence in your chart both sign matching up well to Leo as well. Don't be afraid, just enjoy this union, be fun to be with and see where it leads.

Eugenia

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Article: The Sweetest Revenge Comes from Letting Go

Dear Eugenia

Ok so its been a long couple of weeks (maybe I should say long couple of months) -- basically I've been out partying and having a lot of fun...But lately, I realized that everything around me ends up circling back to the person I "LOATHED" the most in this world. I can't seem to shake her. Every where I turn she's managed to already have been there or have done what I want...every one tells me to "let it go" however it is difficult to do so when she deliberately sticks her face where it doesn't BELONG!?

So my question is: How do I get over the fact that she's already had what I want? and how do I deal with looking at her everyday without wanting to tell her sorry "ASS" off? And how do I get over the one guy I want the most? I was born on July 20, 1975, at 5:00 AM.

Burnt

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Dear Burnt

Too bad you didn't include her date of birth. I would have liked to look at her sorry ass's chart. I can tell you regarding your chart that your friends are right. You are destroying yourself and holding yourself back because of the inability to let go of something that is not changeable at the moment. The sweetest revenge is always your own success and until you get that through your head you are not likely to move forward. Get a grip and get on with your life. No one is worth the aggravation that you are letting this person put you through. You are going through a high cycle regarding love and if you are hanging on to the past you won't be able to take advantage of any romantic opportunity that comes your way. You were born with your natal Mercury in Cancer and this makes it difficult for you to forgive and forget but an effort must be made to do so. You match up well to partners born under the sign Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. The greatest cure for your dilemma is your own happiness and usually a good romantic partner can help you forget and move on.

Eugenia

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