We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I hope you will answer my letter. I beg you to. There is a man I have been seeing for 9 months. He works at the same office but in a different department. The problem is that he is still married. He keeps on extending the date to separate from his wife saying he has to do it because of his kids. I do understand his situation, but sometimes I feel like I am getting used unintentionally. I know he wouldn't purposely hurt me. I live alone. And it's so lonely without him. At work he is such a distraction, because I always think about him.
I love him very much, but my life was turned upside down because of him. I am emotionally very unstable. Could you please advice me if I should pursue this any more. I am thinking of finding another job, since it would be easier to forget him that way. His date of birth is 08/13/1954 6.45pm and mine is October 4, 1971, at 10:25 PM. Please I beg you to give me some advice.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
Yes you do match up to your Leo friend but he is in a situation that is not healthy for you. I believe that you should back away, change your job if necessary and get on with your life. If he is serious about you and leaving his family he will do so. As for you sitting around and waiting you should stop doing so immediately. Whether you think he is using you or not, he is. Right now he has two women in his life that he is hurting along with his son. You are going through your Saturn return this year and that will make you depressed as well as cause you to reevaluate your situation. This year is a make it or break it period for you. As for him, I would have thought that if he was planning to leave his family he would have done so a couple of years ago. If you continue to wait around for him he will have no desire or need to make the necessary changes. His chart indicates that he is extremely changeable regarding his feelings and his relationships. He is wishy-washy about love and can be a bit of a player. Be careful what you wish for. If he can cheat on his wife and son he will certainly be able to cheat on you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I usually watch this web site for your advice. Your advice is always true. I am already married, but I don't want to have baby. I still cannot trust him. Maybe I am emotional but I certainly cannot believe him. I'm very tired. He always says "you should trust me'. But I wonder if he still loves me or not. I think we do not suit each other. Should we stay together? My husband was born in September 26, 1969,around 11:00p.m. I was born April 1, 1971, at 11:35 AM.
Actually, I had another boy friend before I got married. I hoped to marry this boyfriend. He was born in Jan 16,1971. Unfortunately we couldn't get married at the end. Finally, I left him. He is living in another country now.
I'd like to know would it better to divorce my husband before we have baby? If not, can I trust my husband someday in the future? I want to see the light of hope as soon as possible. Please give me advice.
Daydreamer
Dear Daydreamer
Your husband can be a player when it comes to love and romance. He can be a real charmer when he wants to be. His chart indicates that he will always be a bachelor at heart. Now that doesn't mean that he will leave you but it doesn't mean that he will be completely loyal either. Your comparison, although workable if he is willing to try harder, does show the major sign of sorrow in an area that deals with friends, relatives, communication, sexual needs, money and legal matters. This covers a lot of territory and you have to question if you have made the right choice in marriage. Regarding your past love, sorrow shows in that comparison as well and I feel that the only reason you are even thinking about him is because you are unhappy with the person you are with. Your chart looks favorable for love and romance next summer. Therefore I suggest that you make your move out of your current situation before that time. If however you decide to stay with your husband I believe that you could end up being pregnant and feeling even less secure in your relationship over the next few years.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am very concerned about my relationship with my daughter born on June 12, 1987 at 8:00 am. I was born on Sept 26, 1964 at 9:20 am. My daughter has been continually endangering herself for the past year and I am greatly concerned about her future, her relationship with me, her siblings and her estranged father. She has runaway from home repeatedly and her education is already jeopardized.Will we maintain the right direction for family life, getting her back to school and enjoying her childhood or must I be resigned to her making such drastic choices so early in her short life? My daughter and I are beginning to open up the doors to a strong bonding relationship but is it enough too late. Should I consider letting her be placed with family relatives or fight, as I have been to keep us together? I want my daughter to be strong where these shady characters don't play an influence in any further decisions she makes for herself but if a major part of the problem is me then I will do what is best for all of us. I realize you don't have a crystal ball but is there something in our charts that may help us understand, allow me to focus on some positive direction.
Out the door with negative
Dear Out the door with negative
The problem isn't you. You actually have quite a nice connection to your daughter but that isn't always enough. You can't be with her every waking moment and unfortunately she is making some poor choices for herself that I fear will get worse before they get better. The influences around her that you are referring to will continue over the better part of the next couple of years. She is very sensitive and can be swayed easily. Her chart also indicates moodiness as well and this can spark all sorts of stupid decisions. I don't know that moving her out will do the trick either. She will attract poor company no matter where she's living. Your best bet is probably to build as close a bond as possible with her and hope that you can instill some of your wisdom in her so that she can attempt to make better choices for herself. Sending her to a different school might help. An all girls private school may be the answer if there is one in your area.
Eugenia
