We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I hope you will answer my letter. I beg you to. There is a man I have been seeing for 9 months. He works at the same office but in a different department. The problem is that he is still married. He keeps on extending the date to separate from his wife saying he has to do it because of his kids. I do understand his situation, but sometimes I feel like I am getting used unintentionally. I know he wouldn't purposely hurt me. I live alone. And it's so lonely without him. At work he is such a distraction, because I always think about him.
I love him very much, but my life was turned upside down because of him. I am emotionally very unstable. Could you please advice me if I should pursue this any more. I am thinking of finding another job, since it would be easier to forget him that way. His date of birth is 08/13/1954 6.45pm and mine is October 4, 1971, at 10:25 PM. Please I beg you to give me some advice.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
Yes you do match up to your Leo friend but he is in a situation that is not healthy for you. I believe that you should back away, change your job if necessary and get on with your life. If he is serious about you and leaving his family he will do so. As for you sitting around and waiting you should stop doing so immediately. Whether you think he is using you or not, he is. Right now he has two women in his life that he is hurting along with his son. You are going through your Saturn return this year and that will make you depressed as well as cause you to reevaluate your situation. This year is a make it or break it period for you. As for him, I would have thought that if he was planning to leave his family he would have done so a couple of years ago. If you continue to wait around for him he will have no desire or need to make the necessary changes. His chart indicates that he is extremely changeable regarding his feelings and his relationships. He is wishy-washy about love and can be a bit of a player. Be careful what you wish for. If he can cheat on his wife and son he will certainly be able to cheat on you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am a Cancer, born 7/15/70 at 12:03 p.m. Currently I am having an affair with a Libra born 9/29/73. I do not know the time of his birth. Everything I have read states that I am not compatible with a Libra and that we should not be attracted to each other. If this is true how come the attraction to this Libra is so strong?
Sincerely,
Curious Cancer
Dear Curious Cancer
Astrological compatibility is often misinterpreted due to Sun Sign astrology. Although matching up Sun Signs can be fun it isn't accurate. In your case you have Libra rising with two planets in that sign and the Sign Aries in an area of your chart that deals with relationships making you compatible to both Libra and Aries. In the case of your Libra friend he has his Moon in Scorpio compatible to your Cancer Sun and natal Mars. His natal Venus is in Scorpio another water sign compatible to your Cancer Sun and Mars. I must caution however that the entire comparison isn't favorable. Like all relationships problems exist. Although I believe that you are both being honest with one another you are obviously having an affair and you aren't being honest with your other partners. You should back up and get your current relationships in order before you go any further.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
My birth is 07/12/1968 I was in a relationship for about 2yrs we got engage and broke it off because we couldn't touch ground with each other so we decided to brake it off in 2006. His birthday is 01/2/1968 and we work at the same job we don't talk to each other any more and it hurts me because I still have feeling for him but I don't no if he still cares for me. I won't go to him and talk to him because I'm scared that he will reject me. Sometimes I think he is my soul mate or I don't no what to think anymore we had such a mad brake up with no closure and I need that in order to move on. Can you tell me was he the man for me or will somebody else will enter my life and if so please tell me when. ...HELP
Cancer
Dear Cancer
Although your comparison with your Capricorn friend wasn't bad, emotional deception is present and this is what caused the breakdown. I believe this relationship is karmic and feel that you may both be learning a lesson. That lesson could very well be an inability to communicate about the way you feel. If you cannot come to terms with this it will probably be difficult in the future for either one of you to express your true feelings in subsequent relationships.
Even though you may face rejection it is vital that you approach your Capricorn friend and clear the air regarding how you feel if you ever want to form a lasting and loving relationship with anyone in the future.
You are in a high cycle this year regarding love and you must take care of your past relationship once and for all in order to take advantage of moving forward with someone new. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Virgo, Capricorn, Aquarius and Pisces.
Eugenia
April 25th 2026
Happy Birthday: Express yourself. If you don’t share your feelings or talk about what you want, nothing will change. Speak from the heart and be the spokesperson who can turn your dreams into a reality. Don’t sit back and wait for someone to come to your rescue. It’s your turn to rise and to force issues, to join in, and participate, to stop complaining and bring about the changes your happiness depends on. Your numbers are 5, 16, 21, 29, 32, 37, 43.
