We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I hope you will answer my letter. I beg you to. There is a man I have been seeing for 9 months. He works at the same office but in a different department. The problem is that he is still married. He keeps on extending the date to separate from his wife saying he has to do it because of his kids. I do understand his situation, but sometimes I feel like I am getting used unintentionally. I know he wouldn't purposely hurt me. I live alone. And it's so lonely without him. At work he is such a distraction, because I always think about him.
I love him very much, but my life was turned upside down because of him. I am emotionally very unstable. Could you please advice me if I should pursue this any more. I am thinking of finding another job, since it would be easier to forget him that way. His date of birth is 08/13/1954 6.45pm and mine is October 4, 1971, at 10:25 PM. Please I beg you to give me some advice.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
Yes you do match up to your Leo friend but he is in a situation that is not healthy for you. I believe that you should back away, change your job if necessary and get on with your life. If he is serious about you and leaving his family he will do so. As for you sitting around and waiting you should stop doing so immediately. Whether you think he is using you or not, he is. Right now he has two women in his life that he is hurting along with his son. You are going through your Saturn return this year and that will make you depressed as well as cause you to reevaluate your situation. This year is a make it or break it period for you. As for him, I would have thought that if he was planning to leave his family he would have done so a couple of years ago. If you continue to wait around for him he will have no desire or need to make the necessary changes. His chart indicates that he is extremely changeable regarding his feelings and his relationships. He is wishy-washy about love and can be a bit of a player. Be careful what you wish for. If he can cheat on his wife and son he will certainly be able to cheat on you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I went on a first date with a fellow two days ago and I'm finding myself head over heels for him. His birthday is Jan. 22, 1974. He is 27 now, so I think that birth year is correct. I was born May 21, 1979.
My question is, should I continue to see him and try to start a relationship with him or should I get out before I find myself hurt by him. I've been hurt so many times in the past that I just want to protect myself from the heartache again.
Everything I've read so far has said that we are a compatible couple but I'm concerned with the fact that I am on the cusp of Gemini and Taurus and he is on the cusp of Aquarius and Capricorn. I'm ready to find my soul mate and want to know if maybe he could be THE ONE. PLEASE HELP ME. I just need to know if I should protect myself or open myself up for things to happen.
Sincerely,
Radogirl- Gemini.
Dear Radogirl- Gemini.
The comparison was pretty good. Have you ever heard the saying that it is better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all? You can't spare yourself hurt for that is the very essence that helps us grow and learn what it truly is that we want in a mate. To run away from someone that you would like to get to know better is not progressive, helpful or courageous. I'm not saying that this relationship will go the distance but I do feel that if you can learn from one another it is well worth the time and effort that you both put in. This man is bright, aloof and needs his space. He also shows traces of having a temper. He falls in an area of your chart that lends itself to having some fun together however you mustn't let him manipulate you. You must remain true to yourself and not become a yes person who does whatever he wants. This man needs a strong woman who can stand on her own two feet and contribute to the relationship intelligently and playfully. You could be up for an interesting period if you are ready to take on the challenges that he has to offer.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
It's taking me forever to type this because I got into a bad motorcycle accident last week. I expect to be in bed for months. Do you see why I have such bad (or good?) luck? What's my outlook for the rest of the year I was born June 5, 1979, at 1:12 am.
Gemini
Dear Gemini
Sorry to hear about your misfortune. Your chart has been extra accident-prone for a while now so it's really no surprise that you are in recovery mode. Your chart isn't that bad just a little careless. Out of all negatives you can find a positive and in your case the positive is that you should be learning over the course of this year and next. Although you may not want to do so it is obvious that you are being pushed in that direction. Being confined to bed can be a good thing if you are surrounded by books, correspondence courses and so forth. You can turn this period into gaining new knowledge and skills that will prepare you for a better future. You are young, the health areas of your chart are relatively clear - you should heal quickly but you must keep in mind that you were born with an aspect in your chart that does make you prone to injury so in the future don't take chances, be more defensive and slow down. There is an element in your chart that denotes that someone in your home is unusual or possibly takes too much medication, alcohol or drugs. If this is affecting you consider what you can do about it. If you have become addictive yourself get help.
Eugenia
