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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Ms. Last
I am a 47-year-old single mom born 2/15/53 at 3:47 PM. About 26 years ago I met a young man his birth info is 11/10/52 at 8:41PM. We just clicked, at first we dated, but soon became best friends. We remained so for the next four years. He returned to the part of the country he grew up in and we lost contact. Seven years later he called me. We were both married and had children born 2 weeks apart.
Because we were both married I was reluctant to renew our friendship. I didn't hear from him again until this past Dec. when he called me one evening. I was quite surprised that he found me as I live 1,200 miles away from where we knew each other and I have a different name.
At first things were friendly, but soon became romantic. He has flown me to see him and has visited me 3 times since Jan. We speak long distance once or twice a day. My kids love him and would like for him to live nearby. He enjoys their company as well and has told me they need a dad, and the chemistry between us is amazing.
My question is can this relationship remain as a romantic one or is this just one of those things that will fizzle out. Being together means one of us needs to pull up stakes and move 1,500 miles and right now not being together means lots of money for phone calls and travel that neither of us can really afford. Not wanting to be a fool for romance.
At a loss
Dear At a loss
The comparison is quite favorable. You should be able to make this union work as long as you are both realistic. Many factors will have to be taken care of before you can make a permanent commitment. I feel that it would probably be better for you to make the move, not him, however that may not be possible. You have a great deal in common and the area that deals with home and family in both your charts will be in a much stronger and positive position next year. If it takes that long to sort things out that's fine. This is a relationship that is well worth the effort and you should both be willing to do whatever is necessary in order to work toward a strong and lasting commitment. You can both make sudden moves at times that will backfire. Therefore it is very important that you take your time and do things right this time. Whoever decides to move should make sure that he or she has a job lined up. The chemistry between you is such that you may not make the wisest decision due to passionate reasons. I believe that if you are well organized and patient you can end up having a very long and fruitful relationship.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am at a very strange point in my life, which feels very chaotic--sometimes as though it is moving in a positive direction, and sometimes as though it is very stagnant.
I am entering my third year of university, studying art, art history, and German. I'm at a point at which I really need to figure out what it is I want to do long-term. I feel pressure from my family to make this decision (mainly on my mother's side, though my mother and I are almost entirely out-of-touch, as she is with her sister and parents). I also feel internal pressure, as though I may feel more confident and clear-headed if I can make a commitment and develop some sort of plan to pursue my education and career beyond this point. Basically, I am feeling directionless, confused, and as though I have no solid ground to fall back on. I worry a lot about my mother, but cannot stay in contact with her, as she is experiencing a time of sever financial difficulties and, as a result, has no phone line, disallowing contact by phone or email. (She was born August 11, 1950.) All I can say about my desires for the future is that I want to be involved in art --the only thing that is truly fulfilling for me. I would love to be a professional artist, but that is risky and I do not want to put myself into a situation of financial despair. I have seen both of my parents struggle throughout my entire life thus far.
In addition to these feelings, I am having a difficult time romantically. I have been seeing a man (born February 6th, 1977) for about 6 months. Though we connect very well intellectually, we are both very busy. I have a hectic work, school and homework schedule, while he is very social and constantly has plans to go out with friends, which he views as obligations. He therefore has little time to spend with me during the time I actually have free and is frustrated that I never want to go out and party with him and his friends. I think that, due to our different lifestyles, we may not be able to reconcile this, though I care for him very much and when we are together, he seems to feel the same way. My luck with men isn't too good and upon our initially getting together, I was excited to finally meet someone I could connect with, who was intelligent, observant, and who seemed to share so many interests.
Do you see any end to the constant stress, chaos and frustration resulting from my present life and relationships, as well as my attempting to sort out my future endeavors?
Please help! I am so confused and freaked-out by every aspect of my life right now!! I was born Oct. 22, 1981 at 1:45 PM.
Thank you so much,
M
Dear M
You are a strong Libra. All your natal planets in that sign are in an area of your chart that deals with higher education, travel, philosophy, immigration and different cultures. That being said it isn't surprising that you are waffling about your future and your educational pursuits. I believe however that you must get on with it and finish whatever you have already begun. Your chart indicates that you should be in school or at least in a learning environment for the next two years although I do believe that you will be able to pick up work in the field of your choice beginning next year. This could lead to an apprenticeship, learning on the job or working and continuing your education. I believe that it is important to follow your dream however it is also necessary to support your addiction to your art/dream/etc. You are still young and have time. Your chart indicates that if you finish school this next year that the following year will still be a learning experience for you - possibly a chance to move to Germany where you can put your second language to use while you pursue a position in at a gallery or in some other area that relates to the arts. Teaching is also something that shows prominently in your char
Dear Eugenia,
Hello. I was born in September 2, 1984 at 11:00 am. I would like to ask about my transit in academic studies. Will I pass the certificate examination in 2001? Can you tell me something about my characteristics and love affairs? My personal relationship is very bad. I have very few friends. What should I do? I don?t have any male friend, why? Am I too cool and detached for love? It seems that the boys don?t like me. In fact, I feel that both male and female classmates don?t like me and treat me bad. When will I get through this transit? Thank you very much for your help! Bye bye. Please reply. Thanks!!
Little worm
Dear Little worm
The area of your chart that deals with academics is quite favorable. Not only does it show determination and desire to get ahead but also that you have a good memory. Over the course of the past three years however there has been a transit that may have stood in the way of your capabilities. This transit moved off your chart early this year and that means you should be getting back on track. You will find the next several years much better regarding both lower and higher education. Regarding your friendships, you have had similar limitations because the same area of your chart represents your peers and classmates. Where a more romantic partner is concerned you are just entering a favorable period now and it will be with you until late spring of next year. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Sagittarius and Aquarius. When relating to other people you are not necessarily cool and detached but you sometimes will treat your friends in that manner. It is more to do with your own uncertainty. If you aren?t sure of the response you are going to get from others you tend to hold back. Once you get to know someone you are more outgoing and friendly. The problem is opening up in the initial stages when you first meet people. Keep in mind that you can only be yourself and if the person you are meeting doesn?t like who you truly are, maybe you won?t like him or her either.
Eugenia
