We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: What's His Problem

Dear Eugenia:

This is my second attempt to write you concerning this problem that seems to be overwhelming to me.I became reacquainted with someone (b/d 3/31/46 mine 9/8/47) from my hometown after 30 years. He lives an hour away and we have spent a year of his coming to visit weekends and numerous phone calls daily. We became one another's best friend as well as lovers. It seemed our progressing relationship was going well. We had a wonderful 3-day weekend, the next two days our phone calls continued just like normal. Then out of the blue he breaks it off. When he broke it off he said he didn't love me. He wanted to leave his personal items here for a while. I waited and was horribly depressed. Sent them back. He was upset and says it was his fault. He says he has been doing a lot of soul searching about why he got scared. He said it seems he never let anyone in and thinks it stems from a childhood problem. Now he says if I can give him a few more days or weeks he hopes he can resolve his issues. He continued to say we had something special.

What is going on with him? Can he resolve these issues? Will we be able to overcome these problems? How do I deal with this? He is a wonderful man but he has hurt me deeply and I care very much for him. It could be a great relationship for my part, his I don't know.

I am not able to cope with another loss in my life. I've lost too many people to death and I just don't have the strength to be hurt again.

TOO OLD FOR GAMES

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Dear TOO OLD FOR GAMES

The comparison is quite good but I do believe that there is something that your Aries man isn't telling you. It may not be something that will matter to you but it obviously does to him. Wait it out and give the guy a chance. You've got some time to spare right now. Later this year and the first half of next year are better for you where relationships and romance are concerned so if he doesn't make his move by the fall be prepared to get out and meet new and potentially better partners. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Leo, Libra Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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Article: From Perplexed

Dear Eugenia,

I used to read your horoscopes daily in the Kansas City newspaper. I wrote you around March to ask for your help regarding my situation with my husband (born November 17, 1976). At the time he was leaving me alone all of the time and telling me he no longer wanted to be married. You suggested that I leave him alone and concentrate on myself for a while because love would be more likely in the fall and either he'd return or I would find someone else. Right on cue he has returned asking to go back to how things were before. But now I've changed and I have met someone else (born May 7, 1973). Now I feel like I am being torn apart because I believe marriage is for life and I should be doing everything I can to make it work, but for so long I was trying so hard alone and was unwanted. I feel like there is too much that has taken place between us. The other person came into my life two months ago as a friend and something clicked between us. Now I don't know what to do. I am so hurt that all I want to do is run away from all of this. Please tell me who has the best comparison. In my heart I think I already know, but I really need advice. Thank you.

Perplexed

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Dear Perplexed

I can certainly see your dilemma after running an astrological comparison between you and the two men in your life. They both match up about the same. In the case of your Taurus friend I do have to say that there is some sorrow that shows up in the comparison so I believe that if you choose him you will have regrets or that it won't end up being any better with him than it is with your husband. With your husband I believe that you can't just let him come back with the intentions of having things be the same as they were before he left. I believe that you must set some ground rules. That you must talk about why your marriage wasn't working and what you both need from one another in order to make it better. Keeping things the same will only result in a vicious circle. The comparison with your husband is better physically and mentally and although that may not be apparent right now it is only because you have been with him so much longer than you have with your Taurus friend. I believe you owe it to yourself and to your husband to give it another chance. Please communicate this time so that things don't go array.

Eugenia

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Article: From Annabel

Dear Eugenia,

I hope I get lucky this time and you can answer my mail! I am sorry I cannot afford the confidential consultation right now. I'll try to make this as simple as possible given the world of questions I want to ask. Basically, I have been "in disgrace with fortune" all my life: I lost my childhood to anorexia, have been bullied very cruelly forever throughout my adolescence, and have always felt achingly alone. I have a very low self-esteem, which has led me to undertake breast augmentation surgery last year. Unluckily enough, I've developed capsular contracture (painful and deforming) on one breast, and have also contracted herpes (ironically enough, being a virgin). All this has kept me awake at night, seemingly a cascade coming from a destructive relationship I had last year with a boy (May 25, 1977, birth time unknown), my first "boyfriend" who? only used me and then treated me like nothing. I had never felt -and can never explain- such emptiness and desolation before, and given my timid, self-deprecating character, this shattered me. Will the stars ever shine on me one day Eugenia? I'm tired of trying to love myself and prove myself to others. By the way, as of now, there are two significant men on the horizon, one a Taurus (5.20.74), another Virgo (9.16.-, around 20 years older than me). And of course, the absence of He who hurt me so lingers ever present. Also, what do you see regarding my career? I work very hard. My dream has always been to be an artist - be it in the field of painting or writing.? I would appreciate it from the depth of my soul if you answered me Eugenia, and would think of your answer as one of the sweet miracles I often pray for. I was born March 6, 1982, at 1:18 pm.

Yours, Annabel

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Dear Annabel

Let?s start with career and prospects in that area of your life first. Your chart indicates that you should be focusing on learning, developing, picking up skills and definitely being creative in whatever you pursue. All that being said you may have to pick up a sales job or temp work in order to buy yourself some time to pursue whatever art you are drawn to. I have to say that music or lyrics also show up prominently.

Regarding your down and out attitude ? transiting Saturn has been largely responsible for that. It has been moving through a crucial area of your chart the past several years. First it affected your health and well being leaving you confused and feeling reclusive and then it moved on to an area of your chart causing depression especially when dealing with your personal life, the way you view yourself and dealing with relationships. Although this will continue to move through your chart over the upcoming year it is apparent that you should be handling matters a little better come the fall. Late September and October you will be in a high cycle regarding love, relationships and being with someone who understands you. Now this can also bring someone from your past back into your life so if you feel that you have unfinished business with your Gemini friend you may want to readdress that situation even if it is only to close the book, but don?t waste too much time on him because I believe you can do better. Now that is not to say that you didn?t match up to him but the comparison was a little iffy when it came to honesty. He has a lot of growing up to do and unfortunately I believe that he may never do so. He is erratic, fickle and probably a bed bouncer. The unfortunate thing is that he also captured your heart. Your Taurus friend matches up nicely however there is also a lack of honesty especially with regard to your philosophy, beliefs and values. He too is quick to change his mind and I believe he may have a hidden agenda that you are not aware of. You did not mention your Virgo friends exact year of birth so I can?t set up a chart or compare him to you but you can check out how well you match u

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