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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am in deep conflict over my relationship right now, and I would like to know if my chart can give me any insight into the feelings that I have right now, a course of action or whether this is just a temporary time of confusion.I have been in a relationship for over seven years. However, two years ago, about the time I turned 30, things seemed to change between us. I feel a restless desire to move on, that we are better off as friends than as partners, and that my relationship with him was a mistake. To complicate things, I cannot forget a past relationship (the person is not currently in my life) and the feelings of regret have been getting stronger over the same two years. The past relationship fell apart in late 1990 over a series of misunderstandings.I really don't know what to do. On the one hand, I feel terrible uprooting my partner's life. On the other hand, I just can't seem to give him what he needs in terms of love. While the past relationship was difficult, there was a passion and connection there that I miss intensely. It is getting to the point where both of us are unhappy due to my moodiness. I don't expect the person from the past to come back into my life, but I sometimes wonder if I would be better off alone than causing such turmoil.
My birth information is 8/21/69 3:30am, my current partners information is 12/10/69, and the past partners information is 10/21/66 (I don't know their birth times). Can you help?
Stay or Go
Dear Stay or Go
The relationship that you are currently in does compare more like a friendship or brother sister relationship and it probably is time to move on. I don't believe that this will be easy for you due to the friends and family connections that you have made over the past seven years. Next year you will be coming into a period that is great for both new romantic connections as well as hooking up with people from your past. My biggest concern however is that you will end up spending time with someone who may still be involved with someone else. If you can avoid this type of scenario I believe that you can find happiness and comfort with someone new. What you have been through is your Saturn return and that was the reason you reevaluated your life up until this point and have come to the conclusion that you are probably living a lie. Most people consider this a turning point in life. You now have a choice to make and it won't be all that easy. Do you stay or do you leave. I believe that you need to make the move even though it will be difficult. I also feel however that if done the right way you may be able to salvage some of what you've got. Communication, although not always easy to get a Sagittarius to talk about issues, is where you must start. If you can discover your relationship as being a friendship only you may be able to move on and yet stay in touch. There is never any harm in trying. If that's not the case get moving anyway. After all you do want to be free when your romantic opportunities start happening next year. By the way your comparison with the Libra from your past was quite good. You probably just met at the wrong time. I believe that when you are in your high romantic cycle that he will be in a cycle that is good for him mentally but not romantically or physically. Perhaps he will be in another relationship. If this is the case you are best to back off for the time being. There is a chance that the right time to get together with him will never occur however that is hard to tell without his actual birth time.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Hi, it is an honor to write to you. I receive hope from your site when I'm in need of help. The reason I am writing to you Eugenia is that this year, a lot of bad things have happened to me... My best friend committed suicide and I am having difficulty getting over the shock. This was only 3 months ago...My mind is so dizzy. I need to forget everything and face the reality but I don't know whether I'm too weak.
I love a guy. I have known him since I was young. We were friends in the beginning and became lovers later. There is a misunderstanding between him and me. As a result, he left me. I need to forget him but it is not easy to do so. Every day is a long day full of pains. Eugenia, Can you give me a supportive word? I'd like to move on...
I can't endure.
Dear I can't endure
Your chart denotes that you are extremely bright and that you can do very well professionally. This is what you should be concentrating on for the next ten months to a year. By August of next year you will move back into a high cycle regarding love and relationships. Your chart also shows evidence that you are highly creative and that you should be using your creativity in a way that brings you enjoyment so get involved in something that you like doing. You will meet new friends through these activities. This is a time for you to socialize and expand your circle of friends as well as your interests. It is a time of growth, experience and getting to know exactly what it is that you want out of life. You can't waste your time living in the past or having regrets for things that have happened. It's time to live in the present and look to the future with optimism. This is your time to learn, experience and move forward in a positive manner.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I feel very, very lost. I work in the hospitality industry, which does not suit me at all. I make a decent living but hate my job and am thinking to go back to school to get certified to teach. Do you think that is a good choice? I fear it a little bit because I am very emotional and very unhappy. Although most of the time I can hide it well sometimes it comes to the surface and I find myself almost dysfunctional with grief. My mother (Nov 17) may be dying. She has been married to my father for nearly 60 years and she had a heart attack in December, which led to a stroke, which led to her lying in a hospital bed trying to learn to move and speak again. My father (Oct 22) sits at her side all day every day holding her hand and telling her everything is going to be okay. They are my models of what a marriage should be. I have been married for four years and separated for 2 and a half-he started walking out on me after our first anniversary. I finally went to a lawyer to draw up divorce papers and get my freedom and my husband (Nov 17, 76) is now trying to stop it. I feel that he has used me and deceived me numerous times although he says he loves me. If he loved me wouldn't he want to let me go and be happy rather than using our marriage one more time for his own ends? I had been celibate for one year after a failed 8-month relationship with a man who just wanted to be "friends" (Sept 11, 70). Then I ill advisedly got into a relationship with a very confused man (Oct 1, 77) for about two months that left me crying when he went back to his jealous Virgo ex-girlfriend earlier this week. Does my life sound like a soap opera? I feel like I have had my life on hold for several years and now everything has fallen on me at once and I can hardly bear it anymore. Family is the most important thing to me and I thought at 31 years old I would have a man as faithful and loving as my father at least if not children as well. I have not lost hope but it is running thin and I am so incredibly sad. Please, help give me direction and tell me what to look for and what you see in my chart - I was born January 6, 1976 at 10:02 AM.
Thank you,
Capricorn
Dear Capricorn
The comparison with your ex Scorpio is actually quite good. Yes there is emotional deception present but it appears to show up in an area of both charts that deals with the way you view one another as well as yourself leading me to believe that neither one of you may have tried hard enough to make it work. Marriage isn't easy and although I do believe with where his planets fall in your chart that you aren't like to forgive, forget and try again.
I think that you moved on emotionally when you let your heart be captured by your Libra friend. At that point you lost the ability to reconcile with your Capricorn husband. I do not feel that your Libra friend is right for you either. His inability to make up his mind will always be a problem plus he falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead ends. In other words it isn't likely to last even if you did get together again and marry.
I think teaching is a good thing for you to pursue however you should have started taking the course you required at least a year ago. The transits for educational pursuits are fast running out therefore your timing is off. Now that doesn't mean that you can't proceed but it will require more work on your part. The areas of your chart that deal with work and money are however in a high cycle until early next year so you may want to switch jobs this year. You can also excel in the travel industry, real estate, sales, your own business or something that involves physical activity of some sort.
Without your parents year of birth I cannot tell you much about them, however according to your chart your mother appears to be undergoing limitations and health issues for the next
