We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Restlesss

Dear Eugenia,

I am in deep conflict over my relationship right now, and I would like to know if my chart can give me any insight into the feelings that I have right now, a course of action or whether this is just a temporary time of confusion.I have been in a relationship for over seven years. However, two years ago, about the time I turned 30, things seemed to change between us. I feel a restless desire to move on, that we are better off as friends than as partners, and that my relationship with him was a mistake. To complicate things, I cannot forget a past relationship (the person is not currently in my life) and the feelings of regret have been getting stronger over the same two years. The past relationship fell apart in late 1990 over a series of misunderstandings.I really don't know what to do. On the one hand, I feel terrible uprooting my partner's life. On the other hand, I just can't seem to give him what he needs in terms of love. While the past relationship was difficult, there was a passion and connection there that I miss intensely. It is getting to the point where both of us are unhappy due to my moodiness. I don't expect the person from the past to come back into my life, but I sometimes wonder if I would be better off alone than causing such turmoil.

My birth information is 8/21/69 3:30am, my current partners information is 12/10/69, and the past partners information is 10/21/66 (I don't know their birth times). Can you help?

Stay or Go

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Dear Stay or Go

The relationship that you are currently in does compare more like a friendship or brother sister relationship and it probably is time to move on. I don't believe that this will be easy for you due to the friends and family connections that you have made over the past seven years. Next year you will be coming into a period that is great for both new romantic connections as well as hooking up with people from your past. My biggest concern however is that you will end up spending time with someone who may still be involved with someone else. If you can avoid this type of scenario I believe that you can find happiness and comfort with someone new. What you have been through is your Saturn return and that was the reason you reevaluated your life up until this point and have come to the conclusion that you are probably living a lie. Most people consider this a turning point in life. You now have a choice to make and it won't be all that easy. Do you stay or do you leave. I believe that you need to make the move even though it will be difficult. I also feel however that if done the right way you may be able to salvage some of what you've got. Communication, although not always easy to get a Sagittarius to talk about issues, is where you must start. If you can discover your relationship as being a friendship only you may be able to move on and yet stay in touch. There is never any harm in trying. If that's not the case get moving anyway. After all you do want to be free when your romantic opportunities start happening next year. By the way your comparison with the Libra from your past was quite good. You probably just met at the wrong time. I believe that when you are in your high romantic cycle that he will be in a cycle that is good for him mentally but not romantically or physically. Perhaps he will be in another relationship. If this is the case you are best to back off for the time being. There is a chance that the right time to get together with him will never occur however that is hard to tell without his actual birth time.

Eugenia

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Article: Making the Move

Dear Ms. Last

I am a 47-year-old single mom born 2/15/53 at 3:47 PM. About 26 years ago I met a young man his birth info is 11/10/52 at 8:41PM. We just clicked, at first we dated, but soon became best friends. We remained so for the next four years. He returned to the part of the country he grew up in and we lost contact. Seven years later he called me. We were both married and had children born 2 weeks apart.

Because we were both married I was reluctant to renew our friendship. I didn't hear from him again until this past Dec. when he called me one evening. I was quite surprised that he found me as I live 1,200 miles away from where we knew each other and I have a different name.

At first things were friendly, but soon became romantic. He has flown me to see him and has visited me 3 times since Jan. We speak long distance once or twice a day. My kids love him and would like for him to live nearby. He enjoys their company as well and has told me they need a dad, and the chemistry between us is amazing.

My question is can this relationship remain as a romantic one or is this just one of those things that will fizzle out. Being together means one of us needs to pull up stakes and move 1,500 miles and right now not being together means lots of money for phone calls and travel that neither of us can really afford. Not wanting to be a fool for romance.

At a loss

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Dear At a loss

The comparison is quite favorable. You should be able to make this union work as long as you are both realistic. Many factors will have to be taken care of before you can make a permanent commitment. I feel that it would probably be better for you to make the move, not him, however that may not be possible. You have a great deal in common and the area that deals with home and family in both your charts will be in a much stronger and positive position next year. If it takes that long to sort things out that's fine. This is a relationship that is well worth the effort and you should both be willing to do whatever is necessary in order to work toward a strong and lasting commitment. You can both make sudden moves at times that will backfire. Therefore it is very important that you take your time and do things right this time. Whoever decides to move should make sure that he or she has a job lined up. The chemistry between you is such that you may not make the wisest decision due to passionate reasons. I believe that if you are well organized and patient you can end up having a very long and fruitful relationship.

Eugenia

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Article: For The Children

Hi Eugenia

AAAARRGG! Not another relationship question?!

I've written a few times without receiving a reply but persist out of dire need. I'm at my wit's end about what to do.I am in the 20th year of marriage to a man I wonder if I ever truly loved. We have three children. Over the past 5 or 6 years, I feel I have changed a great deal. I no longer want the same things, nor am I happy to settle for a mediocre relationship "for the sake of the children". I know I should listen to my heart and question my mind but I feel like I've turned it over and over until I can't seem to decide. Am I destined to go through life biding my time or am I waiting for the time to be right? I sometimes feel like I don't know anything anymore and am just letting life drag me along. What do the stars say? My birthday is March 28, 1961. My husband's is October 17, 1945.

Signed,
Need to Know

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Need to Know,

I understand your dilemma, however there are a lot of variables involved in your case. You didn't mention how old your children are, therefore it is hard to know what your responsibilities at this time are. Your comparison with your Libra husband is mediocre. I do believe that at one time you did have a passionate connection but that was long ago. I feel that you have both been very limiting for one another and that maybe the best thing to do is to discuss your options. Your husband does have his natal Sun squaring his natal Mars and this can cause him to have a temper if it falls in a certain area of his chart however without his time of birth I can't tell how this aspect will manifest itself. If he hasn't shown this trait I believe that you should be able to make some decisions as a couple that will allow you both greater freedom to come and go as you please or to actually get on with your lives. The children however should be your first concern, so whatever is best for them at this time is the bottom line.

Eugenia

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