We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am in deep conflict over my relationship right now, and I would like to know if my chart can give me any insight into the feelings that I have right now, a course of action or whether this is just a temporary time of confusion.I have been in a relationship for over seven years. However, two years ago, about the time I turned 30, things seemed to change between us. I feel a restless desire to move on, that we are better off as friends than as partners, and that my relationship with him was a mistake. To complicate things, I cannot forget a past relationship (the person is not currently in my life) and the feelings of regret have been getting stronger over the same two years. The past relationship fell apart in late 1990 over a series of misunderstandings.I really don't know what to do. On the one hand, I feel terrible uprooting my partner's life. On the other hand, I just can't seem to give him what he needs in terms of love. While the past relationship was difficult, there was a passion and connection there that I miss intensely. It is getting to the point where both of us are unhappy due to my moodiness. I don't expect the person from the past to come back into my life, but I sometimes wonder if I would be better off alone than causing such turmoil.
My birth information is 8/21/69 3:30am, my current partners information is 12/10/69, and the past partners information is 10/21/66 (I don't know their birth times). Can you help?
Stay or Go
Dear Stay or Go
The relationship that you are currently in does compare more like a friendship or brother sister relationship and it probably is time to move on. I don't believe that this will be easy for you due to the friends and family connections that you have made over the past seven years. Next year you will be coming into a period that is great for both new romantic connections as well as hooking up with people from your past. My biggest concern however is that you will end up spending time with someone who may still be involved with someone else. If you can avoid this type of scenario I believe that you can find happiness and comfort with someone new. What you have been through is your Saturn return and that was the reason you reevaluated your life up until this point and have come to the conclusion that you are probably living a lie. Most people consider this a turning point in life. You now have a choice to make and it won't be all that easy. Do you stay or do you leave. I believe that you need to make the move even though it will be difficult. I also feel however that if done the right way you may be able to salvage some of what you've got. Communication, although not always easy to get a Sagittarius to talk about issues, is where you must start. If you can discover your relationship as being a friendship only you may be able to move on and yet stay in touch. There is never any harm in trying. If that's not the case get moving anyway. After all you do want to be free when your romantic opportunities start happening next year. By the way your comparison with the Libra from your past was quite good. You probably just met at the wrong time. I believe that when you are in your high romantic cycle that he will be in a cycle that is good for him mentally but not romantically or physically. Perhaps he will be in another relationship. If this is the case you are best to back off for the time being. There is a chance that the right time to get together with him will never occur however that is hard to tell without his actual birth time.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I am now in a state of anxiety and emotionally unstable. I was born on September 9, 1973. I always fail when it comes to love and romance. I had one-sided love affair for 5 years. The guy was born in February 28. 1973. I have never told him that I loved him and he got married last year.
At the end of the year 2000, I fell in love with a guy born in October 6, 1966. We have a sexual relationship and I want to marry him. But I now found that he always tells lies and cheats on me. He is not serious. If I treat him well, he would feel annoyed and leave. If I am cool, he may pay more attention to me. Recently, I met my old classmate. He was a 1973 Taurus. He treats me very well. But I am a conservative girl. Since I have had a sexual relationship with my boyfriend, I don't know how to face this Taurus guy.
Although I visit your website every day, I still cannot find a way to release this feeling. I wish you could help and tell me what to do.
Confused
Dear Confused
I can see your attraction to your October partner however the comparison wasn't that good. I believe that you can do much better. Without your Taurus friends complete birth date I cannot really comment on your connection with him. I can tell you however that you do need to make some personal changes. You are in a high cycle where love and romance are concerned right now however if you are with your Libra friend it isn't likely that you will meet someone new. You need to reevaluate your motives. I believe you are with your Libra because you fear being alone. You must let go and move forward if you want to achieve happiness. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have written to you a few times. I hope you can tell me what to do. I lost my mom on Nov. 13, 2000. I am very lost and lonely. I don't want to do anything but sleep. I have lived with my 3 year-olds father for 4 years. We don't get along very well. He is drinking a lot and also thinks I should be over the death of my mom already. He has two healthy parents, so he doesn't know what it is like. My dad was only given 1 to 3 months to live last week, because of cancer. My boyfriend (if that is what you call him) says I can pull myself out of this or die right along with them. He is no support to me. I know he is seeing someone else, but at this point I don't care. I just need some advice on what to do with the way I feel about life. I was born May 26, 1963, at 12 PM.
LOST AND LONELY IN DEPUE!
Dear LOST AND LONELY IN DEPUE!
I can tell by the transits moving through your personal houses in your chart that you are at a turning point in your life regarding your partner. I feel that it is time to start thinking about the best way to make yours and your child's life better. You did not submit the birth data of either your child or the man you're living with therefore I can not explain his lack of support. My guess is that he can't face death himself therefore he is not able to justify the kind of loss that you are experiencing. It hasn't been very long since your mother died and with your father in the shape that he is in it must be extremely painful for you. You do however for the sake of your child have to handle your situation bravely. You should probably consider making a move in a positive direction (possibly away from your boyfriend) late spring or you should start talking to him about his insensitivity and telling him you need greater support and love if he expects you and your child to stay with him. Your depression and grieving you are experiencing will end but for now it is what you need in order to get through this most difficult period in your life. You were born with your natal Moon in the sign Cancer and this makes it very hard for you to let go when it comes to family members who are so dear to you.
Eugenia
