We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Past Loves

Dear Eugenia,

When I was a child I seemed to be able to do everything without effort. I was a success at most anything I tried. Then my parents separated when I was a junior in high school and things just fell apart for me. I feel like a loser. People tell me I am a strong person, and I try to be, but I feel that somehow I am wearing a mask and pretending. I don't feel strong. I have flunked out of college and am working in a retail job that isn't challenging. I tried taking a couple classes, but dropped out.

My relationships are really messed up. I have been seeing and living with a wonderful person for the past two years. He loves me and is wonderful to me, but I don't feel that I love him the way I should. I checked our romance compatibility with your site and found that I was what he was looking for (79 percent), but he was only 51% for me. I am afraid to say anything to him about this because I don't want to hurt his feelings. In the compatibility report it said that I could only survive in a balanced and harmonious atmosphere. I don't want that to be true.

I also keep thinking about someone who I loved in the past. This was not a safe relationship as he kept leaving me, but I feel like I was more in love with him although the compatibility report looks similar to the relationship I'm in now. He did come back and said he loved me, but I was too afraid. Now I'm thinking I might have made a mistake.

I am afraid to be alone, but I'm also afraid to be married because I don't want to end up hating someone I once loved. Is there anything in my chart that can explain any of this and is there any hope for my future? Is either relationship something I should pursue or should I just try it on my own?

I was born on September 27, 1980 at 12:47 pm. The guy I am with now was born on June 13, 1978 and my past love on May 17, 1981 in the late morning or early afternoon.

I would appreciate any help you could give me, please!
Undecided

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Dear Undecided

You are moving into a period of make it or break it where relationships are concerned and you are also in a period where past lovers can come back into your life. Although both comparisons are okay I fear that your motives are wrong. You are going through a period of uncertainty and you shouldn't choose to be with either right now. You will be in a much better position at the end of 2002 and the summer and fall of 2003. Until that time you should probably get to know yourself a little better. Discover what other partners have to offer and play the field a little. You need more experience before you should settle down.

Eugenia

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Article: Dealing with Depression

Dear Eugenia

I appear to be having the lowest period of my lifetime. I'm very afraid, and have even considered suicide. I know many things happening in my life right now are due to planet positions, etc. But I also realize I cannot continue as I'm. My birthday is Feb 5, 1954 @ 12:16am. These are the issues I'm facing. I'm losing my home after a two-year separation from my husband. His BD is 8-23-58. My home is being foreclosed on Jul 2 and sold at public auction, I'm disabled and live on a very small monthly amount. I don't even have an idea how I will find a place to stay. My youngest sister, whom I'm closer than close to, was diagnosed with cancer in January. Her birth date 7-10-61. They tell me she has very little time, maybe only months, she is the mother of three small children, whom I will end up responsible for if she dies, I'm broken hearted over losing my home, my cherished sister with the possibility of no way to care for her children. Is there any chance of funds coming to me in the future, or a possible way of keeping my home or finding another? My sister has no life insurance, and considering the way my future appears at the moment, killing myself seems the only solution. I'm now a burden in life, and I see no way out, please understand this is not a joke, its all real, and I'm beyond desperate.

Desperate

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Dear Desperate

It's always darkest before the dawn. You have three beautiful children who need you desperately. These children will bring you joy, love and certainly a reason to continue on. I have always been a big believer in nature's way. For as bad as it gets it will get equally as good. You will receive help. It will be through money that you don't work for. A hidden asset or funds that come in to you because of the situation you face. Perhaps one of our readers will donate to your cause. Moving out of your house may be the best thing that happens to you. I suggest that you start by moving in with your sister who could certainly use your support right now as well as your love. You will find that your financial solutions will clear up considerably over the next two years. Your life will stabilize and through loss will come gain. You must have faith and believe in the fact that others will come to your rescue. You have had some pretty difficult planetary transits moving through your chart indeed but you will overcome and move on as there are just as many that are favorable.

Eugenia

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Article: Better to Step Out

Dear Eugenia:I have been a good friend to a male, born -----------------. for a number of years. There are no romantic feelings between the two of us, but we do enjoy talking to each other. In the past two years he has been dating a young woman, born ----------------- Since they began dating, his behavior has become erratic. He lies, or tells people just what they want to hear, doesn't keep appointments, ignores his family and friends, and obsesses about being with her. Now they are engaged, and those of us who know them want to feel happy for them, but there isn't anyone in his circle of family or friends that is happy. She is very aloof, and tends to control him and everyone else around her. Can you give us some guidance? Their behavior, together and separate, is making life miserable on a lot of people and messing up events and gatherings to the point that no one wants them around any more. If possible, I would appreciate discretion when answering these questions. Thank you for your help, Eugenia.

Faithful Reader

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Dear Faithful Reader

Although the two in question just have a so so comparison it is workable. The biggest problem appears to be when dealing with friends and relatives. I'm not saying that the marriage or relationship will last, but I am saying that there is nothing that you or anyone else can do about it. Your Libra friend has fallen in love and if you fight it he will not be your friend. He is in a high cycle where love and marriage is concerned therefore this has come into his life at the right moment for him. In her case, she is somewhat erratic and probably not quite as sure about her future with him as he is with his future with her. You are best to let him follow his course of action and support his decision. If you and his other friends feel so strongly that you are willing to lose the connection with him I suggest that you tell him your true feelings about this girl and let him decide what he will do. Maybe if you understand what it is that she does for him you will be able to accept her.

Eugenia

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