We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
When I was a child I seemed to be able to do everything without effort. I was a success at most anything I tried. Then my parents separated when I was a junior in high school and things just fell apart for me. I feel like a loser. People tell me I am a strong person, and I try to be, but I feel that somehow I am wearing a mask and pretending. I don't feel strong. I have flunked out of college and am working in a retail job that isn't challenging. I tried taking a couple classes, but dropped out.
My relationships are really messed up. I have been seeing and living with a wonderful person for the past two years. He loves me and is wonderful to me, but I don't feel that I love him the way I should. I checked our romance compatibility with your site and found that I was what he was looking for (79 percent), but he was only 51% for me. I am afraid to say anything to him about this because I don't want to hurt his feelings. In the compatibility report it said that I could only survive in a balanced and harmonious atmosphere. I don't want that to be true.
I also keep thinking about someone who I loved in the past. This was not a safe relationship as he kept leaving me, but I feel like I was more in love with him although the compatibility report looks similar to the relationship I'm in now. He did come back and said he loved me, but I was too afraid. Now I'm thinking I might have made a mistake.
I am afraid to be alone, but I'm also afraid to be married because I don't want to end up hating someone I once loved. Is there anything in my chart that can explain any of this and is there any hope for my future? Is either relationship something I should pursue or should I just try it on my own?
I was born on September 27, 1980 at 12:47 pm. The guy I am with now was born on June 13, 1978 and my past love on May 17, 1981 in the late morning or early afternoon.
I would appreciate any help you could give me, please!
Undecided
Dear Undecided
You are moving into a period of make it or break it where relationships are concerned and you are also in a period where past lovers can come back into your life. Although both comparisons are okay I fear that your motives are wrong. You are going through a period of uncertainty and you shouldn't choose to be with either right now. You will be in a much better position at the end of 2002 and the summer and fall of 2003. Until that time you should probably get to know yourself a little better. Discover what other partners have to offer and play the field a little. You need more experience before you should settle down.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
If I don't get a response from you this time, I guess I'll give up. Incidentally, what happens to the emails that have been sent to you many times over but never get answered? Anyhow, I was born March 11, 1971 at 5:01 a.m. It seems Cupid is doing nothing but piercing me with his arrow regarding my love life. Why? The longest relationship I had lasted three years then my heart was broken; then I met someone who used me on the rebound (didn't know this when I met her of course) and had the nerve to invite me to her wedding! Then I slowly fell for this girl I met through work (2 years ago)(Virgo, but again, I'm being used as a sounding board and to get her out of work-related jams; special days like New Year's eve, she's not with me but her family or somewhere else despite her promises and notice in advance. I'm good-looking, a gentleman, have a decent job and lots of friends 'cause I don't have any brothers or sisters and slowly but surely all of my friends have gotten married and some now even have children. I so want these things in my life as well. Please tell me what's in store for me. Sometimes I feel so down that I hibernate and become very much a loner. Thanks for answering this one, I hope! How come I don't see your TV show anymore? I miss it!
Need answer badly
Dear Need answer badly
You are a great catch but you've been going through a period of deception, disillusionment and so forth when it comes to your relationships. This is moving off your chart but as long as you are a loner you aren't likely to get out and meet Ms. Right. Although some Virgo's can match up to you well it is hard to say how compatible you are with the one at work because you didn't submit her birth date. I would have to assume by what you are saying that the Virgo in her chart probably adversely hits the Neptune and Jupiter in your chart. This always causes some problems. Your chart indicates that you can have a happy relationship and all the things in life that you are hoping for but that you will have to go about it in a little different manner than what you have in the past. The unfortunate thing is that the signs you are drawn to are not likely to be drawn to you. In other words you are picking the wrong people to partner with. You really need to do astrological comparisons, which I might add can be done for free on my www.astroadvice.com website. You are not in a bad cycle for meeting new people and I do believe that you can meet someone through work or through relatives or friends so don't be afraid to go out on a blind date. With transiting Jupiter moving through your house of relationships until the summer of next year you have plenty of opportunities ahead of you, but once again you must get out and make your moves. Join groups that interest you and you will meet someone with similar likes. You have a good chart and so much to offer so stop being so hard on yourself. You have recently entered into a seven-year cycle that will promote changes in your personal life. This is just the beginning and love and romance are within reach. Open your eyes and your heart but don't be fooled by women who want a sounding board or who are on the rebound. You are young, doing well and have everything to offer. The signs you are most likely to do well with are Aries, Taurus, Leo, early Virgo's and Capricorn. Regarding my show I don't believe that the ratings were high enough however a decision of renewal has not been made. Please contact the W Network at comments@wnetwork.com, call the network at 416-534-1191 ext. 5155 or write to them at W Network, 64 Jefferson Avenue, Unit 18, Toronto, ON Canada, M6K 3H4, Attn: Viewer Relations and let them know how much you liked the show and that you would like to see more of it. Your support is greatly appreciated.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I have just recently lost my long time partner of 8 yrs born September 25, 1975. He was killed in a snowmobile accident in Dec. I have been feeling miserable and very lost lately. One of his friends who is 12 yrs older then myself born April 26, 1967 has been very comforting and wonderful to me. He is always taking good care of me. Last night I engaged in an intimate relationship with him?but am not sure if I did this because of what I am going through. I feel very guilty about what I have done for it has only been a few months since Andrew's funeral. But I really do have strong feelings for this much older man. I have no idea if this will go anywhere or what is to come next. He has promised me not to push and that the ball is in my court, that no matter what he will always be there for me. Is this wrong? I was born February 15, 1979 @ 5:05 am.
Aquarius
Dear Aquarius
Although you have a wonderful comparison with Andrew much of it is based on how well you got along mentally. Andrew truly loved you for who you are. He had the ability to wager the pros and cons of any situation and could compartmentalize when necessary. His message to you is to move on, if the situation was reversed he would have done so himself. Andrews passing has been a great loss for both you and the older man in your life and together you will keep his memory alive. I believe if Andrew could have picked the person he would have wanted you to spend the rest of your life with it would have been his Taurus friend.
Your comparison with your older man is actually very good. The reason you are attracted to him is because you match up so well physically, mentally and emotionally. This is a man who has grown to love you as you have him. The time factor has nothing to do with anything. Falling in love happens at and under the strangest circumstances and in this case it wouldn't surprise me if Karma has played a role in your life both with Andrew and with your Taurus man. Chances are you would never have met your Taurus if it weren't for his connection to Andrew. Don't feel guilty - life is short and God put us here for a good time not a long time. You can waste time living in the past or move forward and enjoy your life as Andrew I'm sure hopes that you will. He loved life and it was obvious by his chart that he did live his to its fullest even though it was cut short. Don't let your sensitive natal Mercury in Pisces stop you from moving forward and grasping all the precious moments that are being presented to you.
Eugenia
