We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
First of all I would like to mention that I love your website! It has helped guide me through many blessings and problems in my life this year. My question is, I have had three love relationships with men who were born in early April and who share the same birthplace (Stockton, CA). Man #1 04/02/64, man #2 04/04/64, man #3 04/06/68. I also have a very close female friend, who I have known since high school. Her birth date is 04/02/64 born in Japan (Weird, same birth date as man #1). Am I destined to have close personal relationships with those born in early April or is it just a coincidence? My birth date is 01/17/65 10:10pm.
I am currently involved with the man born on 04/06/68 and we have been dating for 8 months. Recently we had an argument and I have not heard from him.I am in love with him and I hope that we can work things out. I feel that he may be confused and he is struggling between his feelings for me and his need for independence. Will he come back to me soon?
Thank you for your help,
Kim
Dear Kim
You were born with the sign Aries in an area of your chart that deals with partnerships, relationships and so forth so it's no surprise that you attract people born under that sign. You do however have a strong earthy chart and this can be difficult if you want to have a lasting relationship with someone of an Aries nature. It is necessary to give Aries space. At the same time you must keep up with an Aries and be a challenge as well. You have a lot of Capricorn and Virgo in your chart giving you the drive, determination and the know-how when it comes to dealing with different personality types. In the case of your most recent Aries boyfriend I believe that with the amount of Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Pisces that he has in his chart that the relationship is workable. You are right, he is confused and he could also be lured away by someone else right now. He is sensitive for an Aries and if you hurt his feelings you may have to be extremely nice, accommodating and giving in order to win him back. I believe that he is very uncertain about his future and his direction and if you push him he will only run in the opposite direction. If he hasn't met someone else and he does decide to come back it will be rocky until August. If he won't budge or he has in fact met someone else I don't believe that this new person will be good for him and it is possible that mid next year he may want to come back at that time. Either way it is quite possible that you will get back together.
Eugenia
Hello Eugenia.
You have helped me in the past and I really appreciate what you do. This time I'm asking for and about my daughter. She was born 10/18/85 @3:44AM, and I love her with all my heart and soul, but something happened when she met up with this boy almost a year ago his month is April and year 1989, I'm not sure of the date the 13th sounds about right. He is a very very very smooth talker and has led my daughter down paths that I believe she never would have thought of. She started lying and sneaking around and quitting jobs or refusing them and lied to me about them.
So, due to this boy and his family she does not live at home with me anymore, left her fathers house and eventually ended up in a shelter. I've asked her and have even told her to come home with the condition that she work and the response I get is nothing. (My date of birth 7/14/63 7:30 PM.) She is now living with the boy's aunt that has a very big nose and mouth to match and has taken it upon herself to let me know what she thinks about me. (God only knows what my daughter has told this woman. My daughter has problems with her menstrual cycle and I have been very worried, as she had informed me that she "believes" the last one was in December. We have had a really major falling out and the aunt has informed me that my daughter is going to disown me... Eugenia, I don't know if my daughter is OK or if she's pregnant. She has told my younger daughter and stepdaughter that if she is pregnant the aunt is going to kick her out.
My heart is broken and is still breaking, she is very special in many ways and by rights should not have even been born, but she beat those odds. Please tell me what you see, for my eyes are very clouded with tears and fears.
God Speed Eugenia
Worried Mom
Hi Worried Mom
Without your daughters boyfriends exact birth information it is difficult for me to tell you much about him and the relationship they have with one another. I can tell you that he falls in an area of her chart that deals with dead ends so it isn't likely to go the distance if that is what you are worrying about. However, I believe the real problem is that your daughter is going through astrological transits that are causing a great deal of deception, disillusionment and sorrow when it comes to dealing with friends and relatives. She is extremely confused and has been for some time. This is probably why she isn't in school continuing her education like she should be. There is a good chance that she is pregnant as such transits have been with her since the fall of last year and will continue to be until mid to late summer of this year. There is a great deal of uncertainty in her home both your home and the home she is currently residing in. This does not stabilize for a number of years and your only hope at this point will be to let her go with the intent that you will be there for her when the bottom falls out of her world. She can be explosive at times and this only leads me to believe that you aren't going to be able to talk any sense into her and if you try she will only become more distant. It is apparent that she has probably over-indulged the past several years and gotten into things that you wouldn't approve of. She was born with the major sign of sorrow and the highest form of creativity and although this can be bad and good at the same time depending on what she does with it she is the only one who can choose to take the route that will lead her in a positive direction. Unfortunately you cannot do that for her.
The comparison between you and your daughter is typical but it does show some sorrow based around her relationships with other people and how you react to them. The saying keep your friends close but keep your enemies closer is something you should consider. Had you brought this young man closer instead of trying to get your daughter
Dear Eugenia,
I have lived with a man for the last 6 years. The first couple of years were really hard and our exes and kids caused some problems. We became engaged last year, after much heated debate about where we were going in our relationship. He then told his oldest daughter, we were not getting married, (his children had a problem with his divorce, even though he had been separated for 15 years) and then told me he didn't want to get into it with her. Well, he has told me recently that he really didn't want to get married, but we have agreed I would take his last name, and he still wanted to buy me a ring. Just recently on a trip home with his daughter (23 years old) he told her that after our trip to Florida he was breaking up with me. The thing is when I confronted him about this he totally denied it and says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. So, does he just say things to her so she wont freak out, or is he really lying to me. His birth date is Feb. 28/1955 and mine is September 14, 1971 at 5 AM.
Virgo
Dear Virgo
The comparison with your Pisces man is good but it does show signs of emotional deception. He probably isn't being completely honest with either one of you. Before I go any further however I have to ask you why the whole marriage thing is so important to you. Why would you want to take on his name having your name differ from your children's not to mention the complications changing it back should your relationship not work. Keep in mind that legally you are considered married after cohabitating as long as you have. If I were you I would settle for being included in his will so that you are taken care of in the future. Especially if you have both contributed to your home, household, investments etc.
As mentioned your comparison is good but there is an element that indicates that it could end abruptly so you may want to consider the legal aspects that count regarding property etc instead of whether or not you have the same last name.
His chart shows evidence of sorrow when it comes to relationships and that he can swivel rapidly when it comes to his affections. To force this man to marry would probably be the beginning of the end so if I were you I wouldn't go there.
I don't believe his kids at this stage of the game have the right to dictate what he does with his life and that he is only using how they feel as tool to back out of the marriage.
If you truly love this man, and it appears you do, I would be more inclined to leave well enough alone and enjoy your time together. I believe if you push too hard he will have a change of heart. You know the old saying if something works why fix it.
Eugenia
