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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia:
My life is a mess. I really hope that you will choose my letter as I really don't know what to do anymore. I know that you can't give me all the answers but maybe you can give me some direction.
I was born April 11, 1964 1:07AM, and I currently live abroad. I have been involved in a relationship since 1989 and last March I was told it was over. My fianc?e was born July 3, 1965 1:45PM. I have spent over 1 year trying to work things out with her but she maintains that it is over. I believe that she is the one for me and that is why I have tried so hard to work things out.
I am now at the point where I feel like giving up. If I do, I don't feel that I can stay here anymore. It would hurt too much. I have been here so long that I really don't have a home anywhere. Where I grew up, no longer feels like home.Therefore my question really comes down to whether or not I should keep trying to work things out and if not should I return to my birthplace or go somewhere else?
Up in the Air
Dear Up in the Air
The comparison was quite good however I believe that it is possible that too much has happened during the ten years you were together such as not committing one hundred percent through marriage. Her chart indicates that she may have found some outside interest early last year that made her realize that she wasn't happy with you. That may sound harsh but I feel that it's reality. Your chart indicates that you are coming into a period that could bring someone from your past back into your life between now and October. This could be her or someone from back home perhaps. My suggestion to you is that you take a month and travel back to your routes just to see what's happening. You may meet someone who urges you to move home. The other scenario might be that if your Cancer fianc?e feels that she may lose you forever she might be inclined to change her mind. Your charts indicate that you have been going through a make it or break it period for a few years and it was only natural that something had to give. I believe she truly loves/loved you but that you probably frustrated her regarding marriage and children for a number of years and now you are paying the consequences.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I was reading my horoscope (Leo) and the love matches or slaves. For Leo and Aries, it says, "this is a capricious union". When I do the opposite and look at the Aries horoscope and scroll down to love slaves, it says, "a match made in heaven". Is there a discrepancy or am I interpreting the word "capricious" wrong.
Also I felt discouraged at the description found in Leo in the game of love. It says that Leo women often bestow their love and affection on the wrong men. Can you elaborate on that so as to have an understanding about who the "wrong men" are in this case? I was born August 11, 1963, at 1:15 am.
Thanks in advance
Chocolate
Dear Chocolate
The difference is who is playing the male role in the relationship and who is playing the female role. When the female is Aries and the male Leo it works better than the other way around. When the Aries is the male it makes the relationship far more unreliable. Regarding Leo females it is a trait to pick the wrong men however that isn't always the case depending on other factors in her chart. In your particular case your natal Venus is in Leo as well as your Sun well aspected to your natal Jupiter in Aries and this does tend to give you better luck when choosing a partner. Also with your natal Saturn opposite your natal Venus and Sun and sextile your natal Jupiter it help you not to jump as quickly. You do however have your natal Neptune in an adverse position to your Saturn, Venus and Sun and this can sometimes with certain partners, especially those you meet through work, cause you to be disillusioned leading to disappointment. Sun Sign astrology is fun but a birth chart is like your fingerprint. It is a roadmap of your life and when you take any two charts and put them together it is a unique combination. Some partners will bring out the best in you and others will not. Each is an individual case and must be treated that way. Never take to heart the generalities of the subject. Sun Sign astrology is for fun but the real deal which is what I do at my www.astroadvice.com website give you legitimate facts so run a comparison with your Aries friend and find out what the pro's and cons of your relationship really are.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
I wrote to you once before, but it appears my letter was overlooked. I'm beginning to feel a little stressed over a situation that appears to be inevitable in my love life. I'm a Sagittarius, born December 2, 1961 at 9:45 p.m. A few years ago I met a wonderful man at work. He's a Gemini; born June 2, 1960 (I'm not sure of the time). I have a wonderful connection with this man--when we talk we're so connected that we finish each other's sentences. I also feel a strong connection in that I can feel his energy around me when he's not there. I've never felt this way with anyone before---not even my ex-husband. He was going through his divorce about the same time I was (shortly after we met), and we've been friends since then. I would like a romantic relationship with him, and I feel he wants one with me too but he seems to take two steps forward and then hold back. I can only assume this is because he's cautious of being hurt again. He won't reveal the reason to me. About six weeks ago, I met another man (Scorpio, born November 9, 1964, I don't know the time). We've talked a lot on the phone and started to date. I don't feel the same attraction with the Scorpio that I do with the Gemini, but the Scorpio is more "forward" in his approach which I really like. He also is not afraid to talk about his feelings, which I think is very important. I like him a lot--he's very sweet, considerate, intelligent and fun. I intend to keep dating the Scorpio. Can you tell me if the Gemini will ever step forward the way I've always hoped he would?I dread making choices between men, but I can almost see how this will play out. I'll start getting involved with the Scorpio and the Gemini will finally step forward and I'll feel guilty and torn. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but at the same time I want to be true to myself and follow my heart. The way I feel right now, I definitely want a relationship with the Gemini! Impossible, right? Can you help me with some insight?
Thank you.
Sag In Need of Help
Dear Sag In Need of Help
You are still going through a very unstable period where relationships are concerned. To try to make a decision at this time would probably end in a negative spin. Both comparisons were just adequate. I think that you can do much better. I get the feeling that you don't like to be single, that you truly want someone to love when really you'd be best to go it alone for at least a little longer. Opportunities to make changes in your home environment will be present until the middle of next year and you should be focusing on doing just that. Build your own base and do the things that you like to do. It's time to enjoy your freedom. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra and Aquarius. You will be in a much higher cycle regarding love and romance in 2002. For now you should be enjoying the company of friends and discovering whom you are and what you want in a partner. Don't jump into a new relationship too fast and for the wrong reason.
Eugenia
December 12th 2025
Happy Birthday: Participation will lead to understanding and insight into what's best for you and how to utilize your strengths to accommodate your needs. The more you interact, the easier it becomes to recognize motives and assess what is likely to transpire. Change is your way forward, but it also requires you to manipulate situations to make them worthwhile. Trust your feelings and head in a direction that satisfies your soul. Your numbers are 4, 17, 20, 28, 34, 36, 43.