We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia:
My life is a mess. I really hope that you will choose my letter as I really don't know what to do anymore. I know that you can't give me all the answers but maybe you can give me some direction.
I was born April 11, 1964 1:07AM, and I currently live abroad. I have been involved in a relationship since 1989 and last March I was told it was over. My fianc?e was born July 3, 1965 1:45PM. I have spent over 1 year trying to work things out with her but she maintains that it is over. I believe that she is the one for me and that is why I have tried so hard to work things out.
I am now at the point where I feel like giving up. If I do, I don't feel that I can stay here anymore. It would hurt too much. I have been here so long that I really don't have a home anywhere. Where I grew up, no longer feels like home.Therefore my question really comes down to whether or not I should keep trying to work things out and if not should I return to my birthplace or go somewhere else?
Up in the Air
Dear Up in the Air
The comparison was quite good however I believe that it is possible that too much has happened during the ten years you were together such as not committing one hundred percent through marriage. Her chart indicates that she may have found some outside interest early last year that made her realize that she wasn't happy with you. That may sound harsh but I feel that it's reality. Your chart indicates that you are coming into a period that could bring someone from your past back into your life between now and October. This could be her or someone from back home perhaps. My suggestion to you is that you take a month and travel back to your routes just to see what's happening. You may meet someone who urges you to move home. The other scenario might be that if your Cancer fianc?e feels that she may lose you forever she might be inclined to change her mind. Your charts indicate that you have been going through a make it or break it period for a few years and it was only natural that something had to give. I believe she truly loves/loved you but that you probably frustrated her regarding marriage and children for a number of years and now you are paying the consequences.
Eugenia
Hi, Eugenia!
I have been using this wonderful site even before its Japanese version opened! I would like to ask your opinion on two men who are currently in my life. My birthday is 7/8/1973, and I was born around 7. I have been with this Gemini guy (6/15/1975) for five years. We maintained a steady, comfortable, and very fun relationship since meeting each other in college. But about a year ago, I found out that he cheated on me. He deeply regrets hurting me and promises me that he would never cheat on me again. I still care about him and hope that we could be a happy couple again. We have been trying to work things out but I still feel insecure. I fear that he will hurt me again in the future. Then, there is another guy, a Leo whose birthday is 8/5/75. We work together in a design office. Not only he is an attractive young man, but also he has been a great inspiration for me in my design work. We are pursuing the same career, so we share the same interests naturally. He is breaking up with his current girlfriend (don't know her birthday) and I am still involved with a Gemini guy, so we don't have anything going on at this moment. We often go out for lunch and talk about each other's love problems, art, philosophy, religion, music, and much more. I truly enjoy his company and I believe that he is feeling the same way, too. What I would like to find out from you is do I have any chance with this Leo? Or, should I keep trying with my Gemini man? I am seeking a partner who can truly love me, commit the future, and gives me an opportunity to grow as a person. Your help will be very much appreciated! Thank you for reading.
Twisted Love
Dear Twisted Love
You do match up well to both men in question however your current Gemini boyfriend's comparison to you does indicate emotional deception. In the case of your Leo friend some sorrow is evident. I believe that you are sitting between a rock and a hard place. For the time being I feel that you have to give your Gemini partner more time to build a strong friendship with your Leo. After all lovers come and go but friends are with you forever. The only other alternative that you have is to back away from both and take some time for yourself. However, if you do so you may lose out on both counts. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle where work and meeting important and influential people are concerned, building friendships and pleasure travel. It is obvious with transiting Neptune sitting opposite to your natal Venus for the past couple of months that you will be confused regarding love and although you will get some relief from July until mid January it will come back to haunt you at that time on and off until the early part of 2004. Now that doesn't mean that you can't have a good relationship it just means that you will go through periods of confusion as well as temptations regarding secret affairs or the person you are with cheating on you. It can be a highly creative period and a great time to expand where your professional goals are concerned.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
Okay well here goes I want to start by saying that I really love reading anything that you write. I am an avid fan and have been for years.:-) Well lets start by saying that I was a single mom for about 7 years or so and recently have met and have started a relationship with a much younger man, he treats me so good if I want to go anywhere I just have to ask and he sends me if I want anything all I have to do is mention the word and he gets it for me he treats me wonderfully but because of recent relationships I am very very insecure I really want this guy to be the one he has asked me to marry him and he says he wants to be with me for the rest of his life but I just can't help feeling guilty that I am holding him back from meeting the woman of his dreams, he continually tells me that I am that woman I really do love him and am in love with him, I don't want to mess this up by my insecure nature please help me to understand what is going on am I just being silly? He is born Feb 17 1981 I am not sure of the time and I was born Sept 30, 1966 at 11:35 am. Thank you so much for your time.
Libra
Hi Libra
I have no problem with older man/younger woman or older man/younger woman. In fact I believe an age difference is usually a good thing because it helps to separate the natal Neptune placements in both charts. However, in this particular case the comparison is not good. It is based on deception, disillusionment and lack of vision. There is major sorrow emotionally, mentally and physically and although that may not be apparent right now it will be in the future. I believe you should be looking at this relationship, as fun for the time being but to actually marry this man would be a mistake. You match up best to those born under the signs Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces - Take note Aquarius does not fall in the lineup. Please don't get me wrong I believe this man loves you with all his heart right now and that he is mesmerized by you in many ways but the comparison is just not good enough to sustain a life long commitment.
Eugenia
