We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia:
My life is a mess. I really hope that you will choose my letter as I really don't know what to do anymore. I know that you can't give me all the answers but maybe you can give me some direction.
I was born April 11, 1964 1:07AM, and I currently live abroad. I have been involved in a relationship since 1989 and last March I was told it was over. My fianc?e was born July 3, 1965 1:45PM. I have spent over 1 year trying to work things out with her but she maintains that it is over. I believe that she is the one for me and that is why I have tried so hard to work things out.
I am now at the point where I feel like giving up. If I do, I don't feel that I can stay here anymore. It would hurt too much. I have been here so long that I really don't have a home anywhere. Where I grew up, no longer feels like home.Therefore my question really comes down to whether or not I should keep trying to work things out and if not should I return to my birthplace or go somewhere else?
Up in the Air
Dear Up in the Air
The comparison was quite good however I believe that it is possible that too much has happened during the ten years you were together such as not committing one hundred percent through marriage. Her chart indicates that she may have found some outside interest early last year that made her realize that she wasn't happy with you. That may sound harsh but I feel that it's reality. Your chart indicates that you are coming into a period that could bring someone from your past back into your life between now and October. This could be her or someone from back home perhaps. My suggestion to you is that you take a month and travel back to your routes just to see what's happening. You may meet someone who urges you to move home. The other scenario might be that if your Cancer fianc?e feels that she may lose you forever she might be inclined to change her mind. Your charts indicate that you have been going through a make it or break it period for a few years and it was only natural that something had to give. I believe she truly loves/loved you but that you probably frustrated her regarding marriage and children for a number of years and now you are paying the consequences.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have been under depression and frustration over this girl whom I met on chat. We started talking on chat, later on exchanged photos and phone numbers. We also talked many times over the phone and chatted regularly on the net. The problem is, at present she lives in another country. I am originally from the same country as she is. I met her personally last year around December and this was not the first time I proposed to her. Couple times before I proposed to her but she always kept saying its not practical for us to be together due to distance problem.
I love this girl very much and I believe that nothing is impossible in this world if we put total dedication and hard work into it. I haven't felt this strong for any girl before, I am truly in love with her. I know she also loves me but she is scared cause of distance problem things might not work out. It was my last and final try when I proposed to her last year. I made a decision that I will try to forget her since she's not ready and I do not want to be pushy in this matter.
But whenever we talk we still show some kind of affection and care towards each other. But this thing is troubling me very much that just cause of distance problems things are not working out. At present moving back to my native land is impossible for me, it might be possible after I graduate and look for jobs near her town. With her, I don't know if she could move here cause she's just avoiding this whole issue, may be cause she's very sensitive and gets hurt easily, plus scared to make a decision.
Her dob is 6th July 1982, time 4:07pm and mine is September 15, 1977, at 6:06 AM. Can you please tell me if there's a future for us together, are we destined to be a couple by any chance? PLEASE HELP.
Brokenheart
Dear Brokenheart
The comparison was quite good however there is a sign of sorrow due to the distance between you. Communication and honesty can be your greatest asset when dealing with a situation like yours. I believe that you should consider approaching your dilemma from the angle that you will move to where she is in order to be with her once you finish your studies. I believe that she is very attached to her home and family and that is why she is finding it impractical to even consider moving forward with your relationship. Once you make it clear that you will do whatever is necessary in order to be with her it should help. She is moving into a period that could make or break your relationship with her. Unfortunately this may also be due to a commitment made by her parents to another man. You must speak openly about your intent and when you would be able to make it. It is important to talk to her parents and yours as well to see if everyone is in agreement. Your cultural background from what I understand would warrant you doing so. Please don't feel discouraged. Go through the proper channels and it will be much easier to proceed. Regarding being destined, I believe that any relationship can work if both people put in the time and effort. As for the two of you, your comparison is good and I believe with a little help you may just be destined to be together.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?
Confused
Dear Confused
I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.
Eugenia
