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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
First of all, I just wanted to inform you that I admire you for all the advice you have given people. You have been blessed with the gift of astrology on your side and you have used it to help others. I totally admire that. I guess that is why I come to you for I am in desperate need of advice. I trust what the stars and planets have in store for me and know that astrology can tell me thingsabout myself that I didn't know or I can learn about others. I guess that is why I am so fascinated with astrology. Recently things in a relationship had been turned upside down. I was seeing this guy and everyone knew that we liked each other a lot. You could tell just by the way we would look at each other or the way we would speak to one another. After two months of seeing each other, the guy I was seeing finally decided he wanted to move to the next level with me. This came from out of the blue considering he was ditching me all the time. He told me the reason he was ditching me all the time was because I scared him with the fact that I was so into him and the age differencebetween the two of us. He was born August 5, 1967(don't know the time) and I was born on March 6, 1981 at 1:34am. So there is a good 12 years between us. I accidentally made him mad by being inconsiderate and he blew everything out of proportion. He hasn't spoken to me in overa month and then I find out that he lied to me. He told me that he was being evicted from his apartment because of me knocking on his door for so long when he actually didn't pay his rent. I have forgiven him for not telling me the truth. In all honesty, I don't know if I am in love with him. My mom tells me that it does matter how I feel and she knows that I feel very strongly for this guy. My world doesn't seem complete with him not in it. Do you think that I should let go or do you think that there will be a second chance with him in my future? According to what the stars say, and what your expertise says, will help me to decide if I shall seek this relationship more or to give up on the only person I have ever felt this strongly about. Thank you for taking the time to read this because I know how busy you are. I would appreciate any advice you can give me. According to the compatibility tests, we are compatible and everything but I want an even more in-depth reading into our stars. He is a Leo and I am a Pisces. Once again, thank you for your time and advice. Thank you for this awesome site. Keep up the outstanding work!
Thanks.
Which way to turn
Dear Which way to turn
Should you stay or should you go is the question. The compatibility was okay but I do feel that an element of deception is present and this could mean that there will be more dishonesty in the future. His Sun sign also falls in an area of your chart that can lead to dead end projects. I also believe that you are going through a very vulnerable time regarding love and relationships. Regardless of the direction you take I feel that you will have some romantic problems over the course of the next two years. I would be inclined to tell you to proceed with caution and to give him another chance if you do have strong feelings for him however I would not suggest that you commit to him legally for the duration of the next two to three years. If he loves you he should be okay with dating and building a strong friendship and intimate relationship. At the end of that period if you both still want to move to the next level (marriage etc.) that would be fine. As for now I believe that during the second half of this year you could very well meet someone who will capture your attention and possibly your heart. However that will only happen if you are free to come and go as you please and to meet and interact with people who could turn into potential life partners. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scor
Dear Eugenia,
I am very much in love and hoping to marry a Leo, (8/11/55) that I have known for 6 years now. We dated for three years, took one and a half years off, and are back together in a stronger, more passionate bond than ever before. He is a very affectionate man, and I feel in many ways my perfect match and soul mate. When I'm with him I'm ecstatic and the separations are still torture.We have had a long distance relationship for the last year, as was the case early on as well, but at that point neither of us was ready (or able) to move.
Recently I've been considering moving across the country to be with this man. He has said repeatedly that he wants to live with me though he is not sure about "marriage" per se. Perhaps it was his Leo nature --he loves women and says so-- but he was not monogamous with me in our first three years together, a fact I learned only this year. Now I have less trust in him, though I still love him desperately. I want to marry this man, even though he hurt me.
Is this man capable of loving only one woman? Unfortunately I do not have a birth time for him. I am concerned that if I move my life to be with him, I might get hurt, since I was shocked to learn that my prince was not who I thought he was in Round one. He has stated it was only a "phase" and he is serious about me now. If you can give me any insights into our future based on his and my chart, I would appreciate it. I was born February 11, 1974, at 3:30 AM. Thanks Eugenia,
Polar Opposites
Dear Polar Opposites
The comparison between you and your Leo partner was certainly enticing, engaging and intriguing however it also showed signs of sorrow, deception and disillusionment. Now I'm not trying to deter you from following your heart because I feel you are going to do so anyway and that you probably have to experience this relationship for some karmic reason. I must however tell you that your Leo falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects and that the length of time spent with one another may not be all that long. He is going through many changes. He doesn't really know what he wants and will bounce back and forth between wanting to be single and wanting to be married. If you make the effort to move and he still isn't willing to marry you should be asking yourself why not. You were born with your natal Neptune adversely aspecting your natal Mercury and this usually represents a person who is gullible, easily deceived or blind to the defects of others. Before you make a move I suggest that you have a job to go to first. Look out for your own interests and be sure that regardless of what he does you are self-sufficient.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?
Confused
Dear Confused
I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.
Eugenia
