We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: The Best of Both

Dear Ms. Last

I am almost embarrassed to ask for advice. Since I don't like to tell too much information about myself, I hope I can phrase the question right. I have a hard time in terms of my relationship with men. On one hand I want to love and be loved very deeply. It is a very spiritual connection that I crave. On the other hand, as soon as I am in a relationship, I feel suffocated, like the type of relationship society deems proper does not fit my personality. Is it possible for me to find someone who can give me the emotional intensity that I crave with the physical freedom I feel I need? Or are these two things so opposite that I must choose one way to be? I really need to know if I must make a choice, or if I should keep on looking. I am interested in someone right now mainly due to his personal integrity. I don't think he knows that he has caught my attention just yet and I am reluctant to pursue anything right now due to my conflicting needs in a relationship. I wouldn't want to hurt anyone. I was born 10/26/68 at 11:22 pm and he was born 05/06/61 at 4:15 am.

Embarrassed

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Dear Embarrassed

There are lots of people who want to have their cake and eat it too. The main concern is honesty. The comparison with your Taurus friend was quite favorable and it didn't really show any major sign of sorrow therefore I see no reason not to pursue him unless of course you are also working with him professionally. I suggest that should you decide to move forward that you are right up front about your desires and needs so that you give him the choice to bow out if he can't handle the freedom you require. I don't believe that you can turn off a switch and become totally monogamous if that isn't the way you are. Therefore you are best to search openly and honestly for someone who shares your values and sexual needs. Don't be embarrassed; lots of people feel the same way you do. You are in a high cycle regarding love however I must stress that you should not mix business with pleasure.

Eugenia

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Article: Cannot control myself

Dear Eugenia,

I admire the members who receive replies from you. I have sent you numerous letters and got no reply. I cannot solve the problem in my relationship and that has almost driven me crazy.

I like a male friend who frequently called me in the past. When we were in a group of friends, he always talked with me. At that time, I liked someone else so I didn't show affection to him. But recently, I find that I love him and cannot control myself. I know that he has a girl he likes. I didn't care about this in the past, but now I feel jealous when he talks about her. Every time we go out, we go out with a few friends. I feel unhappy if he does not talk to me or if he talks to someone else. I always become angry because of him. He seems not to care whether I am feeling unhappy or angry. He doesn't call me as frequent as before. Is he selfish? Why did he show concern for me in the past? Now I love him but it seems that something has happened to him. Why? If someone tells me that he doesn't have any special feeling to me, I will certainly go to die. I cannot control myself any more. Can I tell him about my feeling?

He was born in November 7, 1984 at 10:38pm, I was born March 19, 1985, at 4 AM.

Oyster

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Dear Oyster

The comparison was good but the timing might be poor for both of you right now. Instead you should be focusing on school and your future professional direction this year. You and your friend will both be in a good high cycle where love is concerned beginning this time next year and providing that neither one of you is involved with someone else it may be the perfect time to get together. As for now build on the friendship. Don't be obvious about the way you feel. Even better start to pay more attention to some of the other guys you hang out with. Who knows you may just fall in love with someone else. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Scorpio, Sagittarius, Aquarius and Pisces. Your chart indicates that you will have plenty of opportunities for love and that you will not end up all alone.

Eugenia

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Article: Waiting for a Response

Dear Eugenia,

My Birth date is May 17, 1957, 8:18 PM. I graduated last October with my master's degree in business and have been searching ever since for a job. I have put out numerous resumes to companies and not once have I even received a call back or even a thank you. I've had several people review my resume thinking that I hadn't used the proper verbiage, or didn't state my objective. I've even spoken with other astrologers asking the same question and all I get is this period looks good or that period looks good but to no avail I still have no job. I'm at a loss I've even gone to headhunters and still nothing. Can I please ask if you foresee anything in the near future?

Thank you
Victoria

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Dear Victoria

I have to admit that with the birth data you provided you should in fact have been getting a response over the past eight months. Although this period will remain with you until March of next year I find it strange that you have not even had as much as an interview. The only conclusion that I can make is that your birth time may not be accurate. My suggestion however is to keep cold calling and putting out your resume as the period coming up does look promising. I feel that you might also start looking outside your local region, as it would not be a bad idea for you to make a move. The area of your chart that deals with your residence will be in a high cycle regarding change or a move shortly so that may be an indication that you should be looking for work elsewhere. I also believe that if your chart is accurate you may be holding yourself back by only applying for jobs that you feel are worthy of your degree. You may have to take a lower position and work your way up. Often when you come out of school companies are not willing to give you a chance. You are probably best to start applying for somewhat lower positions in order to get your foot in the door. Once you start working I'm sure that you will advance quickly.

Eugenia

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