We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi there Eugenia,
My birth date is July 15, 1979, at 3:15 PM. I've been involved in a gay relationship with another guy (Birth date: 03 June 1977 05:15 PM) for the last 3 months. When we started our relationship he was living with his ex and he said it was a "living arrangement"...I believed him. Anyway during our relationship he would rarely visit me (we stay in different cities) and behave oddly if I ran into him in a public place with his ex around. Eventually he came clean with me (his friends forced him to tell the truth) and it turned out that he'd been having a relationship with the "ex" at the same time as me, and recently started seeing yet another guy. After all of this and around 2 weeks of deciding what to do, I called him and we broke it off. Leaving me very hurt and confused...He still says that he loves me and everything we had was real, but I'm at a loss to describe the pain this has caused me. Especially since him and the new guy are now fully in a relationship. I'd really like some advice on this situation, and if I should be foolish enough to still hope that one day we will get back together...
Thnx,
Broken
Dear Broken
You met your messiah, in other words you met someone who captured your heart and you had no power to pry yourself from him. The comparison was so powerful between you. This Gemini is just as bad for you as he is good. You can't however allow yourself to be played with this way. It isn't good for your self-esteem. You are too proud to forgive and you shouldn't forget. Playing sexual games can be dangerous and it's obvious that your Gemini friend doesn't care enough about any of his partners to be open and honest about his goings on. Unfortunately he probably will slip in and out of your life until you put a stop to it. I strongly suggest that you put up your guard and move on. You will be coming into a transit over the summer as well as during the first half of next year that does indicate that people from your past will want back into your life. You must remember that he will not change. He is not a lover who can be true to one person, let alone himself. If you go with him you will be risking your emotional and your physical well-being. During this transit, it can also mean that you will have some new people come into your life. However, if someone is preoccupying your life you aren't likely to have the opportunity to start a new relationship. I know that your Gemini friend is exciting and adventurous and that you have plenty of chemistry with him but that will not be enough in this case. Please consider making yourself a list of all the reasons why this person hurt you, and why you should not be together and carry it with you. When he tries to come back into your life read your notes. Hopefully you will find the strength to say no to him. You do match up to, and attract, the sign Gemini. Nonetheless Gemini's are not good for you in general due to your natal Neptune placement. You should consider a Leo or Aquarius for future relationships.
Dear Eugenia,
I am a 43-year-old woman born February 24, 1957, at 3:45 AM, and my parent's are still trying to tell me how to run my life. They broke up my last marriage of 13 years, Now I am remarried again, and they don't like the husband I have now. They have a lot of money they inherited, and they hang this over my head all the time. Saying if you don't do what we say we will take you out of our will. I think they are being so foolish, they act like children. I am very happy with the marriage I have now, but afraid they will try to break us up also. Why do they act this way? Should I stay away from them? Why do they want so much control? They have never helped me in anyway I have always taken care of my children and myself. So what's the deal?
Controlling Parents
Dear Controlling Parents
You didn't submit your parents or your husbands birth data so I will have to base my answer on your chart alone. From what I can see you are an independent person who should not be in this position. Others can only control you if you allow it to happen. Tell your parents that you don't care about the money, instead you care about your immediate family and you wish that they would accept you and your loved ones for who you are. Unfortunately, it is not up to you to make the adjustment so you will have to leave it in their hands to do so. Until that time keep your distance.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I was born at 12h35am on July 18th 1964. I have lost 3 boyfriends/spouses to death in the past 7 years. The first one named Mike, I can't remember his birthday, died on June 10th 1993, Marc, born April 14th 1966, died on October 10th 1997 and the latest, Mike, born August 20th 1969, died on October 20th 2000. All three deaths were different: car accident, fatal illness and a murder. All three times I thought I had found my soul mate; someone with whom I would grow old... My question is this: Will I ever fall in love again and has this cycle ended or am I doomed to bury someone else I fall in love with?
Widowed
Dear Widowed
You are very young to have experienced such sorrow. Although there are never any sure things in life I can tell you that your chart does not show total disaster where marriage is concerned. In many ways you should be happy to have experienced such love three times over when some people never experience it once. You will always attract men to your side and you will always enjoy the love they have to offer. Count your blessings that you have been granted the good fortune to have loved many times over, as it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
Eugenia
