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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi there Eugenia,
My birth date is July 15, 1979, at 3:15 PM. I've been involved in a gay relationship with another guy (Birth date: 03 June 1977 05:15 PM) for the last 3 months. When we started our relationship he was living with his ex and he said it was a "living arrangement"...I believed him. Anyway during our relationship he would rarely visit me (we stay in different cities) and behave oddly if I ran into him in a public place with his ex around. Eventually he came clean with me (his friends forced him to tell the truth) and it turned out that he'd been having a relationship with the "ex" at the same time as me, and recently started seeing yet another guy. After all of this and around 2 weeks of deciding what to do, I called him and we broke it off. Leaving me very hurt and confused...He still says that he loves me and everything we had was real, but I'm at a loss to describe the pain this has caused me. Especially since him and the new guy are now fully in a relationship. I'd really like some advice on this situation, and if I should be foolish enough to still hope that one day we will get back together...
Thnx,
Broken
Dear Broken
You met your messiah, in other words you met someone who captured your heart and you had no power to pry yourself from him. The comparison was so powerful between you. This Gemini is just as bad for you as he is good. You can't however allow yourself to be played with this way. It isn't good for your self-esteem. You are too proud to forgive and you shouldn't forget. Playing sexual games can be dangerous and it's obvious that your Gemini friend doesn't care enough about any of his partners to be open and honest about his goings on. Unfortunately he probably will slip in and out of your life until you put a stop to it. I strongly suggest that you put up your guard and move on. You will be coming into a transit over the summer as well as during the first half of next year that does indicate that people from your past will want back into your life. You must remember that he will not change. He is not a lover who can be true to one person, let alone himself. If you go with him you will be risking your emotional and your physical well-being. During this transit, it can also mean that you will have some new people come into your life. However, if someone is preoccupying your life you aren't likely to have the opportunity to start a new relationship. I know that your Gemini friend is exciting and adventurous and that you have plenty of chemistry with him but that will not be enough in this case. Please consider making yourself a list of all the reasons why this person hurt you, and why you should not be together and carry it with you. When he tries to come back into your life read your notes. Hopefully you will find the strength to say no to him. You do match up to, and attract, the sign Gemini. Nonetheless Gemini's are not good for you in general due to your natal Neptune placement. You should consider a Leo or Aquarius for future relationships.
Hello Eugenia,
My DOB: 01-31-1979 5:30pm. The DOB of my boyfriend: 06-01-1979 9:10am
I am interested in astrology and have read many books on this subject. Therefore, I quite understand myself. But I want to know more about interpersonal relationships. For example, how can I find out the solutions to conflicts.
I write to you to talk about the relationship with my boyfriend. Although I have checked the compatibility from romance section on your site, the percentages we got are different. I guess the higher percentage I got, the more suitable I would be to him. Is it like that?
My natal moon was in Pisces, so I always have an insecure feeling when it comes to love. I am afraid to be hurt. Since the Venus was in the fifth house (Sagittarius), I should be able to release this feeling. But why do I care whether my lover be serious to me and whether I am the only lover for him? Why do I always think of him? Both his natal Venus and Mars are in Taurus, he should be serious and possessive when it comes to love. But he is also a sun Gemini and Moon Leo. I am afraid that he may lose interest in me or in this relation very soon. May I know in more details about his attitude towards love? What will happen between us? What kinds of problems we may have and how to tackle them?
Serious Relationship
Dear Serious Relationship
The comparison is workable however like all relationships it isn't perfect. You will not always agree with one another and at times I believe that you may both lack honesty regarding what it is you truly want out of life. His natal Neptune being in Sagittarius conjunct your natal Neptune and Venus in an area that deals with children could result in sorrow regarding pregnancy, raising children or even agreeing on having children. In his birth chart his natal Neptune is opposite his natal Mercury and this can result in evading issues or not being completely upfront with you. It will be important that you both communicate openly and honestly in order to build your relationship on solid ground. With your natal Moon adversely aspected to your natal Venus conjunct Neptune it makes it difficult for you to feel secure regarding affairs of the heart. This is something that you will have to work on by building your own self-esteem and confidence. If you feel good about yourself your insecurities will diminish. This relationship can work but you must not be so needy. Your man is a Gemini but when it comes to love he does have his natal Venus in Taurus and that is usually a sign of loyalty, stability and staying power however with his Mercury in Gemini you are right in assuming that you will have to keep up with him in order to stimulate his mind. You are both moving into a period that is more conducive to settling down over the course of the next two to three years. If you talk to one another about your likes, dislikes, needs and desires you should be able to move forward in a positive manner.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I read my horoscope - Gemini. Today's date is 7/13/02. My Birthday is May 26,1991 at 4:37 PM. I know I seem young but I read my horoscope and it said (I'll break it down to my own words) It said to avoid any dispute with a family member even though one of them is hiding something, and don't make any money deals. Can you just tell me what that meant???
Gemini
Dear Gemini
First of all the caption means that someone in your family may try to pick a fight with you. That this person is probably also withholding information as well and is trying to divert your attention from this information by arguing with you about other things. At your age money deals refer to making small bets with friends, spending your allowance all in one place or borrowing from one of your friends when you aren't sure that you can pay him or her back. The daily horoscope is not that cut and dry. You may be a Gemini by sun sign but that's where it ends in your chart. You have your Moon and Pluto in the sign Scorpio in your 2nd house, Libra rising, Uranus and Neptune in Capricorn in your 3rd house, Saturn in Aquarius in your 4th house, Mercury in Taurus in your 7th house, the Sun in Gemini in your 8th house, Venus in Cancer in your 9th house and Mars and Jupiter in Leo in your 10th house. Your chart consists of many different factors. Because you have what I refer to as split houses you should be reading two different signs relating to different areas of your life when dealing with houses in your chart that do not have planets in them. In your case you should be reading the sign Libra/Scorpio in the daily horoscope column for the way you feel on any given day. You should be reading the sign Scorpio if it is an issue that relates to how you can make some money or your early childhood. You should be reading the sign Capricorn for issues relating to your lower education, communications with friends, neighbors or relatives and anything to do with mail, transportation pleasure trips etc. You should be reading the sign Aquarius for issues relating to your home environment and older family members, the sign Aquarius/Pisces regarding social activities, creativity, gambling etc. The sign Pisces/Aries when relating to how well you get along with people you work with, anything to do with a pet that you might have or minor health problems. You should be reading the sign Taurus when it comes to your love relationships. You should read the sign Gemini when it relates to chronic health, money or legal issues etc. The sign Cancer for issues relating to higher education, philosophy, religion, travel in order to learn something new, dealing with people from different backgrounds etc. You should be reading the sign Leo with regards to your position in society and how well you'll do. The sign Leo/Virgo for any issues dealing with worthwhile groups or having favors granted and the signs Virgo/Libra for issues relating to serious health, dealing with institutions, secret enemies, nightmares etc. So as you can see astrology isn't that simple and most people don't realize that they need to read all twelve signs in a daily horoscope in order to get it's true value. The signs that fall in the different areas of a persons chart are unique to that person based on his or her day, month, year, time and place of birth. I hope that this has helped. I will be publishing a new book, hopefully before the end of the year that will help people figure out how to read a daily horoscope column properly.
Eugenia
