We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi there Eugenia,
My birth date is July 15, 1979, at 3:15 PM. I've been involved in a gay relationship with another guy (Birth date: 03 June 1977 05:15 PM) for the last 3 months. When we started our relationship he was living with his ex and he said it was a "living arrangement"...I believed him. Anyway during our relationship he would rarely visit me (we stay in different cities) and behave oddly if I ran into him in a public place with his ex around. Eventually he came clean with me (his friends forced him to tell the truth) and it turned out that he'd been having a relationship with the "ex" at the same time as me, and recently started seeing yet another guy. After all of this and around 2 weeks of deciding what to do, I called him and we broke it off. Leaving me very hurt and confused...He still says that he loves me and everything we had was real, but I'm at a loss to describe the pain this has caused me. Especially since him and the new guy are now fully in a relationship. I'd really like some advice on this situation, and if I should be foolish enough to still hope that one day we will get back together...
Thnx,
Broken
Dear Broken
You met your messiah, in other words you met someone who captured your heart and you had no power to pry yourself from him. The comparison was so powerful between you. This Gemini is just as bad for you as he is good. You can't however allow yourself to be played with this way. It isn't good for your self-esteem. You are too proud to forgive and you shouldn't forget. Playing sexual games can be dangerous and it's obvious that your Gemini friend doesn't care enough about any of his partners to be open and honest about his goings on. Unfortunately he probably will slip in and out of your life until you put a stop to it. I strongly suggest that you put up your guard and move on. You will be coming into a transit over the summer as well as during the first half of next year that does indicate that people from your past will want back into your life. You must remember that he will not change. He is not a lover who can be true to one person, let alone himself. If you go with him you will be risking your emotional and your physical well-being. During this transit, it can also mean that you will have some new people come into your life. However, if someone is preoccupying your life you aren't likely to have the opportunity to start a new relationship. I know that your Gemini friend is exciting and adventurous and that you have plenty of chemistry with him but that will not be enough in this case. Please consider making yourself a list of all the reasons why this person hurt you, and why you should not be together and carry it with you. When he tries to come back into your life read your notes. Hopefully you will find the strength to say no to him. You do match up to, and attract, the sign Gemini. Nonetheless Gemini's are not good for you in general due to your natal Neptune placement. You should consider a Leo or Aquarius for future relationships.
Dear Eugenia,
I have known this boy which I will call J for about 2 years. I knew him from the time I accidentally knocked him down with my bicycle and sent him to the hospital. We have been dating since. However, everyone despises him because he has a scar on his forehead. My father (my mum's passed away) is sure that he was once a gangster and declared that he would not let me be with a gangster. The problem is, I know he is not a gangster and that he got the scar when he was 6 years old through an unfortunate incident but there is no way my father or anyone will change their views about him, despite the fact he's a polite and helpful man. J likes me a lot and vice versa. I could tell his sex drive is great because he always seems to be looking at me in a 'weird sort of way' but he respects my decision to remain a virgin till marriage. Recently, he suggested that we elope because my father is putting too much pressure on us which I admit but I'm still not sure. For one thing, I cannot leave my father behind just like that. But I love J a lot and would like to be with him forever. I really don't know what to do now. His birthday is 21 November, 12.01 AM and I'm a Virgo born on 19 September, 1982, at 4:37 AM. What should I do, Eugenia?
Desperate Virgo
Dear Desperate Virgo
You didn?t specify your boyfriend?s year of birth and that can make my assessment difficult. However, I can tell you that honesty is the best policy and that you should sit down and talk to your father. Let him know how strongly you feel and how much it means to you that he make an effort to get to know your Scorpio friend better. You have an interesting chart that shows great promise in an area that deals with your career. The next few years it will be crucial that you spend time focusing on what you want to be, and do, with the rest of your life. Educational pursuits should be your focus right now followed by a good paying job that you enjoy.
You may be a Virgo but you have a strong Libra influence and that is usually an indicator that you will be much happier throughout life if you have balance, harmony and monetary satisfaction. Without your Scorpio?s year of birth I can not tell you if he will satisfy your needs. I can tell you that he falls in an area of your chart that does denote a strong friendship. If you continue to build your friendship slowly you may eventually gain your fathers confidence in your relationship. You might also consider listening to why your father?s negativity regarding your boyfriend?s background is so strong. Maybe he knows something that you don?t.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I came to see you on the show, which was on my birth date of 2002. I came up with my c/l spouse. He even went on camera at the end to say what he thought of the information. His birth date is June 16, 1963; mine September 7, 1964, at 7:22 am. You had concern that with our match up the problems I have been facing for the past seven years that started as he and I started up as a couple, would be not good due to his areas overlapping with mine ie. health.
I watched your show after that to see our taping Show #3 I believe it was because I needed to understand what you had said further. Since that time, my health has gotten considerably worse, and I have no source of income, unless I am approved for CCP disab. I didn't ask for this life. I love him and he me, we have only known hardship since being together. Life is pretty rotten to me why?
Virgo
Dear Virgo
The same problems still exist. With the way your two charts interact with one another it makes the medical and health area of your chart very difficult. I believe that the past two and a half years have probably resulted in health issues for you and I would like to say that your troubles in this area are over but I do believe that you will continue encounter medical problems. Regarding your disability the chance of getting this does appear to be getting better. You should have been working in the health industry, had you done so it may have helped you to ward off some of the transits that you have been fighting for such a long time. Being a health technician or involved in some form of medical research may have helped. Your comparison with your husband will not change and although you may love one another you don't benefit from this connection. Uncertainties will remain. I believe that with the amount of Virgo that you have situated in the twelfth house of your chart with your natal Saturn in Pisces in your sixth that the problems will always be yours not his and that unfortunately his chart having his natal Mercury and Venus in Gemini adversely positioned to your set up in Virgo and Pisces that as long as you are together hardship will prevail. This can make life difficult but if you truly want to be with one another the fight you go through as a couple should pull you closer together even if it does not bring favorable results from a medical standpoint. You also have a tendency to make yourself ill due to worry and stress and this must be something that you work on in order to turn things around. Secondly I suggest that you get involved in some form of educational pursuit that might allow you to pick up the required skills to either work or even volunteer to help out in some form in the medical industry. This more than anything else might help you situation improve. You may not see the value in what I am trying to tell you but I do believe that if you follow suit some improvements will unfold.
Eugenia
