We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I have a friend who is dating a girl diagnosed with schizophrenia. She has been on and off medication for several years now and has been hospitalized several times. I have looked at her birth chart and read what your web site says, but I can find nothing, in your site or others to indicate that this would be a problem in her life. Is there something I'm missing? I also am very concerned about my friend. This is his first long term relationship. They have been seeing each other for 14 months now. His relationships before always lasted 2 months at the most, although he was interested in someone for several years (born Sept. 27, 1980 at 12:47 pm in Vermont). He says that he plans to spend his life with this girl and I am concerned he doesn't really understand what that means for him, taking care of her long term medical and emotional needs. Can you tell me what you can about this relationship? He was born on May 17, 1981 between 11:00 am and 1:30 pm and she on June 6, 1978. I don't know her time of birth. Thank you. I love your site and go to it every day for guidance.
Concerned
Dear Concerned
Without her accurate birth time it isn't likely that an illness such as schizophrenia will show up and even if the actual birth time was available it would probably show up as emotional and mental disorders bordering on delusion. You must give your friend more credit. He is bright, articulate, and quite capable of taking care of himself and her if necessary and obviously he is in love with her. Being schizophrenic doesn't mean that she can't function well in society. It means that she must take medication the same as a diabetic needs insulin or an individual with poor sight needs to wear glasses. Her chart matches up well to his and there really isn't any apparent sorrow in this connection. The biggest problem that your friend appears to have is in the form of relatives and friends meddling in his affairs instead of supporting his decision to love someone that touches him deeply.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia!
Reluctantly, I must write you about matters of the heart. I am truly a contrarian Aquarian - I am going against the prevailing wisdom of almost every human I have encountered, and I am seeing someone who is considered in some circles to be unsavory, devious, shallow, self-absorbed etc....Now, this isn't the sad old story of a long-suffering girl who wants to change "her man". Who puts up with crap because she can't stand to be alone. No. I am a people-savvy person and I really do not think he deserves *most* of his negative publicity. And who wants someone completely uncontroversial and bland anyway? I was born January 28, 1974, at 11:50 PM and he January 23, 1966. So, what the heck do the stars have say about this coupling? And what does my long-term future hold? Will I have a farm, a hubby, some chickens and kids? Or will I be an eccentric old lady, alone with her cats? You rock Eugenia. You look fantastic as a blonde!
Aquarius
Hi Aquarius
Hate to disappoint you and agree with your friends but I do. The comparison shows evidence of deception and isn't even all that conducive to a good connection but there certainly is a physical bond and chemistry that is holding you. I call this kind of connection "meeting your Messiah" I have seen it many times and it is as if you can not help yourself regardless what anyone tells you. Don't feel bad it is very often the case that the person abducted by his or her Messiah is very bright, intelligent, even intuitive but when it comes to this kind of match up all ability to do what's best is gone. I hope you find the strength to distance yourself and move on as I do believe over the course of the time spent with this person you will lose self-esteem, confidence and probably everything else you like about yourself. Hopefully your friends are willing to stick around for however long it takes for you to see the light.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I hope you will answer my letter. I beg you to. There is a man I have been seeing for 9 months. He works at the same office but in a different department. The problem is that he is still married. He keeps on extending the date to separate from his wife saying he has to do it because of his kids. I do understand his situation, but sometimes I feel like I am getting used unintentionally. I know he wouldn't purposely hurt me. I live alone. And it's so lonely without him. At work he is such a distraction, because I always think about him.
I love him very much, but my life was turned upside down because of him. I am emotionally very unstable. Could you please advice me if I should pursue this any more. I am thinking of finding another job, since it would be easier to forget him that way. His date of birth is 08/13/1954 6.45pm and mine is October 4, 1971, at 10:25 PM. Please I beg you to give me some advice.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
Yes you do match up to your Leo friend but he is in a situation that is not healthy for you. I believe that you should back away, change your job if necessary and get on with your life. If he is serious about you and leaving his family he will do so. As for you sitting around and waiting you should stop doing so immediately. Whether you think he is using you or not, he is. Right now he has two women in his life that he is hurting along with his son. You are going through your Saturn return this year and that will make you depressed as well as cause you to reevaluate your situation. This year is a make it or break it period for you. As for him, I would have thought that if he was planning to leave his family he would have done so a couple of years ago. If you continue to wait around for him he will have no desire or need to make the necessary changes. His chart indicates that he is extremely changeable regarding his feelings and his relationships. He is wishy-washy about love and can be a bit of a player. Be careful what you wish for. If he can cheat on his wife and son he will certainly be able to cheat on you.
Eugenia
