We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?
Confused
Dear Confused
I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Please help. I once paid for a consultation with you. You said I was moving into a high for the next 2 years. I feel as though nothing has changed. Nothing has come to pass in the consultation given to me. I have been searching for a better job. I did take the initiative, I sent out resumes. I never hear anything back. Not even a call. I have searched and searched and still nothing. I feel as though nothing I do will ever be right. I feel like Salomon swimming against the current and still I can't get ahead. What is my purpose? Nothing ever seems to go right. I get no respect from my co-workers. People are getting promotions that have no clue about the job. What is the purpose? I would really like to go back to school and become a teacher but in the consultation you said you would have liked it if I had tried 14 months prior, The funny thing is I did try during the time frame you said would have been better, but like I said I feel like a salmon swimming against the current. Everything seemed to be going wrong. Work was stressful my daughter needed me. I just couldn't seem to catch my breath. I could not juggle the demands of work and home life. I passed the courses but with lots of tears and stress. I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown. I could not sign up for another semester. The thought made me cringe. I would really like to go back to school and finish. Is this possible? Will my life continue to be difficult? What do my finances look like? Please be honest with me. I can take it no matter what the outcome is. Bad or Good. Will things get better? Will I ever have a job that gives me satisfaction? Please let me know what is in store for my daughter born 8/15/92 5:09PM. My Husband born 3/17/66 3:05 AM. Did my husband and I do the right thing when we purchased our house 10/16/98. We were married on 10/08/87. Will I ever get the respect for knowing my job and doing it very well? I know my sun sign is Cancer but I believe I am a Taurus at heart. Is this the case? Please Help me. Please shed some light on my dark life. Please !!!!!Please!!!!!! Please!!!!!! Please Help Me!!!!
Cancer
Dear Cancer
The consultation I sent you has not changed. You should have been signing up with a headhunter and following through with phone calls. Not just sending out a resume and leaving things to chance. The competition is fierce and in order to get ahead you have to work hard for it even when you do have good transits. Part of the problem has also been due to Saturn moving through your Sun sign Cancer. This can be debilitating if you let it get to you. It can also give you the added discipline to follow through. Yes it can make you tired and depressed which can in turn make you your own worst enemy. If you are negative about yourself and your abilities you will give off that vibe and that is never a good way to approach getting ahead. Although Saturn will continue to be moving through your sign and conjunct your natal Mercury it is also favorably aspected to your natal Saturn at the same time. This should be enough to help you get that added drive to move ahead. Unfortunately you were born with your natal Saturn in your first house which gives you that poor me syndrome and nothing every goes my way and when you think that way that is the way things turn out. You have to stop being so negative if you ever want to turn things around. It is a trait that many Cancers or people with lots of planets situated in that sign have. We always apply Murphy's Law to your sign because you always expect everything to turn out badly and the truth of the matter is that if you think it you can make it so. Your chart has been quite well aspected this past year and yet you have continued to hold yourself back. Please don't think I'm being harsh but just because a person has good transits doesn't mean that he or she will be successful. Nothing in life is free and if
Hi Eugenia!
Your site is great - so interesting. I thought the celebrity scopes were so insightful! I am asking mainly about creativity, career and money. I am pretty good at both creative writing and photography, but have never had the focus or confidence to follow through with either as a career - my parents and brother are all scientific based and I can still hear them say to just keep creativity as a hobby and get a real job. I have a degree, but having started work in the dead end world of retail, whilst trying to write a novel, this is now the only real experience I have. As a result I have no confidence in looking at a job that requires my qualifications as I imagine that the employer would wonder why I haven't been in this type of work for the ten years since I graduated! I am also concerned that even in the retail sector, where I do have the experience and thus the confidence, I shy away from applying for leader roles, or more interesting roles with higher wages!!!
I have been working on a book off and on for the last eight years, and although I have produced a considerable amount of quality work, it has turned into a nightmare project. It never seems to be good enough! Although a lot of friends have loved the writing and have urged me to finish it I have got to the point where I don't even know what it is about anymore. I have never sent anything off to a publisher. My creative writing teacher told me last year that my writing was breath-taking...still nothing. At the back of my mind I almost feel that the book has to contain the meaning of life or else it won't be worthwhile! aaaah!
Recently I put this project to one side and started thinking along totally different lines. I started plotting out a very lighthearted book and everything came together very well in the plan, but I found the actual writing hard to start. Am I on the right track with this? Does my chart indicate that I will never succeed!!!? Am I doomed to retail etc forever?
One last thing. My luck seems strongest with houses: I always find fantastic places to live in a very short time. I also move a lot. I was wondering if the creative stuff really is a non-starter, should I re-train in real estate? I was born December 7, 1970 at 9:30 PM.
Thank you so much for your time!
Kind regards
Carina
Hi Carina
Surprise surprise - I do not see you in retail that is for sure and don't know how you have survived in this position for so many years. I do however see you in several different areas, real estate being one, interior decorating another along with working for yourself out of your home in the creative field as well as teaching in order to help subsidize your bankbook while you get things off the ground.
It is unfortunate that both school counselors and parents stifle creative children to such a degree that they lack the confidence required to follow a dream. Fear of failure is embedded into children's brains at such a young age that it is a wonder we have any successful creative people on the planet at all.
If you don't follow your dream you will never find happiness. After all happiness is the prerequisite of doing what's right for you not to fulfill your parent's dreams. Do you have talent and the ability to be published - yes you do but not without the usual sacrifices and hard work required to pull it off. You should be sending your work out immediately as the area of your chart that deals with publishing is in a high cycle for the next couple of months. Yes the area of your chart that deals with publishing will periodically move through a high cycle throughout your life but as for the one you are currently experiencing it began at the end of last year and as you can see you only have a little time left to utilize it. You should have already sent work out. Stop procrastinating and at least send a synopsis of all the
