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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?
Confused
Dear Confused
I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I was born September 1, 1972. I am now living overseas because of my husband. He wants to study here, so I came with him. I had a good job in Beijing. Now, I am a housewife who puts all her energy into taking care of her husband and family. My husband allows me to continue performing the housewife role. Although I can accept the relaxing life like this, will it be my future? Shall I continue my career pursuits? I wish you could give me some guidance.
Thanks,
A foreign wanderer
Dear A foreign wanderer
Opportunities to pursue your career are present. You will never be satisfied just being a homemaker. You are bright, articulate and you need a challenge in your life. I feel that if you tell your husband how you feel he will help you achieve your goals. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle where educational pursuits are concerned this year and next. The work and money area of your chart will also pick up next year. Pick up whatever courses and skills you require in order to achieve your professional dreams.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
For the past few months my horoscope keeps telling me "this is the best time for romance", "You are going to find you soul mate" "This is your year".
Well I don't see anything happening. I am gay and my ex who is a Scorpio (Nov.12, 1959) is still on mind. I go out to meet people but no one seems to catch my attention. Can you tell me what's happening here? I'm also under a lot of stress. I'm in the middle of selling my business, which I've been in for 17 years and taking care of my Mom. Just thought I better add that in. Any information would me appreciated Eugenia. Thank you.
Gemini
Hi Gemini
Lets address your past relationship first. You did match up in a number of ways but emotionally it was taxing to say the least. I believe that this was a karmic connection and that is why it is so hard to let it go. That being said it is probably time to stop reliving something that is already dealt with and finished. You are going through a period in your chart that is making you think about people from your past but that doesn't mean that you should be trying to back track. Although it is a good year for most Gemini's regarding love with transiting Jupiter moving through Libra I have to say that for you it is good for traveling, socializing, doing things that are creative, making new friends from different backgrounds and so forth but when it comes to love with your natal Venus in the sign Cancer you are a little ahead of yourself. At the end of this year transiting Jupiter will be moving into the passionate and compatible sign Scorpio making next year your year for finding true love so don't give up hope. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.
For now focus on selling your business and taking care of mom - I know neither probably excite you right now but once you have done what's necessary in these two areas of your life you will be in the right frame of mind and a better position to deal with the fabulous relationship that awaits you.
Eugenia
