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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: A Marital Impropriety

Dear Eugenia

I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?

Confused

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Dear Confused

I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.

Eugenia

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Article: A Blessing in Disguise

Dear Eugenia,

For the past two months, I am upset because my boyfriend wants to walk away from me. He loved me so much in the past. I always thought that he would never leave me. But now, he is determined to go. I've tried everything to keep him, and even thought of committing suicide. I don't understand why he completely changed his attitude, but I will not give up. I wish that we would continue to be lovers. At present, I feel very deep sorrow in my heart and I don't know what to do. I love him very much. Is there any hope that we can get back together again? I was born February 4, 1976 at 12:01 PM. He was born November 3, 1978.

Lonely Aquarius

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Dear Lonely Aquarius

The comparison with your Scorpio boyfriend was really quite good, however you can't force him to be with you if he doesn't want to be. He is going through a very confusing period right now and there is nothing that you can do to change that. The best thing for you to do is to back off and give him space. You will be in a high cycle next summer regarding love and having someone (possibly him) come back into your life. It is unfortunate when you match up so well that this has happened but it may turn out to be a blessing in disguise. Being apart may make him realize how much you mean to him. Keep in mind that human nature is to want what you can't have and if he feels that you aren't so readily available he may think twice about letting you go. If too much negativity has occurred between you however due to you trying to hang on to him he may not feel that he can ever reverse his decision. For now it's a waiting game. Keep in mind that you will have plenty of opportunities for love next summer and that you not only match up to the sign Scorpio but Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces as well.

Eugenia

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Article: Lack of Continuity

Dear Eugenia,

Hi...I am born on the 20th of December 1982 at 4:30p.m. My girlfriend is born on the 4th of March 1983. I guess that you must be thinking that being 17 years old is too young to talk about love, but it is my wish to get married soon after I graduate from University due to a loneliness I have within me. Thus I hope that I may be able to find the one I love as early as possible so as to be able to enter into a closer relationship with her. In Singapore, after graduating from college, it is compulsory for all males upon reaching the age of 18 to be enlisted for compulsory National Service (NS) before they enter the University. And soon it will time for me to be enlisted. I have heard of many of my friends' relationships being shattered once the male enters into NS due to the lack of time the couple are able to spend with each other. Thus I fear for the continuity of my relationship with my girlfriend. Furthermore, what makes it worse is the fact that I can't help but feel that my girlfriend and I are not really that close to each other. She prefers to go out and be around her friends rather than spend time with me and is also unwilling to share her feelings with me. Is there an explanation astrologically, why I feel that we aren't that close to each other?? And is there a chance that this relationship may survive through till I graduate from the University (which is around six years from now)??

A boy

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Dear A boy

The comparison was pretty good with your Pisces friend however it did appear to lack somewhat at a physical level. She is still young and wants to experience what life has to offer. Your chart indicates that you are moving through a period over the course of the next two to three years that is making you feel the urgency to settle down or at least prepare to do so. Although you truly feel this way right now you do have plenty of time before you need to concern yourself with this matter. For now you should enjoy the relationship you have but don't rule out that you might meet someone in the future who will match up even better to you astrologically. The signs that compliment your chart are Aries, Gemini and Sagittarius.

Eugenia

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