We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: A Marital Impropriety

Dear Eugenia

I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?

Confused

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Dear Confused

I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.

Eugenia

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Article: From Leo

Dear Eugenia,

This is my third time sending you e-mail with the same content and I'm very sorry if it bothers you. Twice I had also sent you letters in the past, years ago. In those letters, you mentioned that I was more of a late bloomer regarding my sexuality and you advised me to experiment a little. For the years have changed, my vision towards my sexuality have also changed, I no longer consider homosexuality as my enemy, I consider it as a part of me and I began to accept this. Years ago, I mentioned my birth date wrongly, later I found out that I was born on the next day which was August 20, 1981 rather than August 19,1981. I was born at 2:00 AM. Would it have a major impact of your analysis if the birth date were wrong? And could you tell me something about my sexuality? Also, I've met this guy from the net, I've also met him face to face and I believe that he's one good guy. I think I'm in love with him. He's younger than me he was born on November 19, 1985. On the last letter, I told you that he already has a boyfriend. Surprisingly he broke up with his bf few days ago because his parents found out that he's gay. I still don't know the whole story. Though I feel sad for him, but I think this is the best shot I have to take to be his bf (not in the nearest time). If so, he would be my first love (I haven't had any bf or gf before and it's so saaadddd). Later today, a fortune teller told me that he might deceive me though I feel that he might not, she also told me that I could still change my sexuality (and again, I feel that I really can't). What I want to ask is.. Is he the "one"? Because I really love him. And if he's not, when will be the right time to meet the "one"? Please help me I'm depressed and I really need a clue from you... Thank you very much

Leo

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Hi Leo

I remember your original e-mail and yes it does make a difference being born on the 20th instead of the 19th. It confirms that what was a possibility regarding your sexuality is in fact reality. Your chart does indicate more homosexuality. Regarding your boyfriend I do believe that you match up enough to have a relationship however sorrow is evident so I can't say that I feel it will be a lasting union. I do feel that it will be a very important learning experience for both of you and therefore think that you should proceed. Right now he probably needs your support regarding his sexuality. Open the doors of communication and help him through his uncertainty and obvious upset that is happening in his parental household. He could go through a period where his past boyfriend tries to come back into his life so be prepared. He is also a bit conceited so don't get swept up into his world. Be yourself and refuse to become a chameleon. By late summer early fall of next year it will be a much better time for you to move into high gear regarding finding the right partner. If your current friend happens to stick around it could be him but if things unfold in such a way that the sorrow prevails keep your eyes open for someone more suitable at that time.

Eugenia

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Article: Time and Space

Dear Eugenia,

I am not sure if you will answer this question, but I will try anyway. I was born February 24, 1963, at 12:07 PM. I hope this will help you come to a conclusion. I recently lost my loving husband of 35 years of age to liver cancer, we were only married one year and 3 months before his death. At this time, I don't know which way my life is heading; I am lost, and very lonely. I miss him with all my heart; he truly was my soul mate. I was married before for 17 years to a Scorpion, this man is now back in my life. He says that he has changed, some things yes, he has others, no he hasn't. My question is, should I try and make this past relationship with my ex husband work, or move on? We have three wonderful children together, and he has helped me through some of the emotional problems I have had to deal with since my husband's death. I am confused about him, and don't feel the attraction as I once did. Will I ever find that loving man again in this lifetime, that I had with my great loss. My late husband, taught me many things about how a women should be treated, do I need to settle for less? I don't want to be alone the rest of my life. I also am worried about my late husbands father. This man lost his only son, and I care about him deeply, will he be ok? He says that I am the only thing he has left in this life, who was a part of his son's life. So, I do feel worried and concerned. As for my late husbands mother, she blames his father and me, for his death. Never did she come to see him in the hospital to the very last few days of his life. I was by his bedside 24-7, I was his nurse and his loving wife, until he took his last breath. So, why is she blaming me? This causes me great heartache also. No one can cause someone to get cancer. I don't understand why I had to loose the only man that I loved so deeply. Your time is greatly appreciated.

Thank you,
Lost Love

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Dear Lost Love

You are going through a very confusing period in your life and you need some time and space to sort out your feelings. You don't have to settle for anything or anyone until you are good and ready. I believe that if you ask your ex-husband to be your friend, not your lover that you will feel much better about the connection. As for a new love, you will be in a much better frame of mind and you will also be in a high cycle regarding love and romance next year. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Cancer, Virgo and Capricorn. As for right now you should put your time and effort into travel, learning and your beliefs and opinions regarding your philosophy of life, love and future intentions. You are sensitive and you need to nurture yourself for the time being.

Eugenia

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