We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?
Confused
Dear Confused
I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I was born November 29, 1959 at 1:09 PM, Sagittarius. I am aware of my need for freedom and my need for new things. However, I am feeling like I will never settle down. I have been married 2 times before. I am now with my third husband. He was born January 11, 1965 (not sure at what time). My problem is: I seem to lose interest in everybody. I think I really love someone and soon I am looking for something else. Now, I am seeing another man (I am still with my husband and not doing anything with this new guy). He was born February 21, 1951 (not sure again at what time). I am really afraid that, again, I am making a big mistake. He is totally different from any man I had before. He is older, which is new for me. He is a giver (he worries and helps me a lot). He is not good-looking (which seemed to be important to me before). He treats me like I am a Goddess (which is also new to me)...
Everything started as friendship and became intense as I started to see him more often. What I need is a very good advice on how to turn off my Sagittarius mind and learn that jumping from one relationship to another will not make me feel happy. My husband and me had our problems in the beginning. He was still seeing his ex-girlfriend (which I didn't know until years later). This makes me feel like why should I care if he didn't? Despite that now this problem is resolved, the relationship lost its magic. But at the same time I am not sure that I should just finish and start my life over and over again. Please help.
Wandering Sagittarius
Dear Wandering Sagittarius
First of all you aren't that strong a Sagittarius. With your Venus in Libra you can be fickle and superficial when it comes to love always going for the looks and the chemistry but with your Mercury, Moon, Mars and Neptune all in Scorpio I'd say you also like the chase and the rush of love but once you have someone eating out of your hand you lose interest. Your Capricorn husband has both his Venus and Mercury in Sagittarius making him more of a wanderer so don't be surprised if you aren't the only one in your marriage who has designs on someone else. Your comparison with your husband is totally superficial. It is based on chemistry and that is about all there is between the two of you. You have continually picked men for the wrong reason and I do believe that if you picked the Mr. Right you probably wouldn't feel the need to run off looking for a new adventure. As for your comparison with your Pisces man - it was certainly far better and did show some promise, however it also indicates sorrow. I believe that when it comes to longevity you may tire of him because of his appearance. For now you should really reevaluate your motives with both gentlemen - your husband is really a bad match and your Pisces can offer you everything your husband can't. Although I don't think that your newfound relationship is going to be lasting I do believe it is probably what you need in order to get out of the marriage you are currently in.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Please help. I once paid for a consultation with you. You said I was moving into a high for the next 2 years. I feel as though nothing has changed. Nothing has come to pass in the consultation given to me. I have been searching for a better job. I did take the initiative, I sent out resumes. I never hear anything back. Not even a call. I have searched and searched and still nothing. I feel as though nothing I do will ever be right. I feel like Salomon swimming against the current and still I can't get ahead. What is my purpose? Nothing ever seems to go right. I get no respect from my co-workers. People are getting promotions that have no clue about the job. What is the purpose? I would really like to go back to school and become a teacher but in the consultation you said you would have liked it if I had tried 14 months prior, The funny thing is I did try during the time frame you said would have been better, but like I said I feel like a salmon swimming against the current. Everything seemed to be going wrong. Work was stressful my daughter needed me. I just couldn't seem to catch my breath. I could not juggle the demands of work and home life. I passed the courses but with lots of tears and stress. I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown. I could not sign up for another semester. The thought made me cringe. I would really like to go back to school and finish. Is this possible? Will my life continue to be difficult? What do my finances look like? Please be honest with me. I can take it no matter what the outcome is. Bad or Good. Will things get better? Will I ever have a job that gives me satisfaction? Please let me know what is in store for my daughter born 8/15/92 5:09PM. My Husband born 3/17/66 3:05 AM. Did my husband and I do the right thing when we purchased our house 10/16/98. We were married on 10/08/87. Will I ever get the respect for knowing my job and doing it very well? I know my sun sign is Cancer but I believe I am a Taurus at heart. Is this the case? Please Help me. Please shed some light on my dark life. Please !!!!!Please!!!!!! Please!!!!!! Please Help Me!!!!
Cancer
Dear Cancer
The consultation I sent you has not changed. You should have been signing up with a headhunter and following through with phone calls. Not just sending out a resume and leaving things to chance. The competition is fierce and in order to get ahead you have to work hard for it even when you do have good transits. Part of the problem has also been due to Saturn moving through your Sun sign Cancer. This can be debilitating if you let it get to you. It can also give you the added discipline to follow through. Yes it can make you tired and depressed which can in turn make you your own worst enemy. If you are negative about yourself and your abilities you will give off that vibe and that is never a good way to approach getting ahead. Although Saturn will continue to be moving through your sign and conjunct your natal Mercury it is also favorably aspected to your natal Saturn at the same time. This should be enough to help you get that added drive to move ahead. Unfortunately you were born with your natal Saturn in your first house which gives you that poor me syndrome and nothing every goes my way and when you think that way that is the way things turn out. You have to stop being so negative if you ever want to turn things around. It is a trait that many Cancers or people with lots of planets situated in that sign have. We always apply Murphy's Law to your sign because you always expect everything to turn out badly and the truth of the matter is that if you think it you can make it so. Your chart has been quite well aspected this past year and yet you have continued to hold yourself back. Please don't think I'm being harsh but just because a person has good transits doesn't mean that he or she will be successful. Nothing in life is free and if
February 3rd 2026
Happy Birthday: Take your time, look at every angle of situations you face before making a move. Having the insight and discipline to slow down and to live in the moment will benefit you over time. Pay attention to your finances, and you'll discover how to cut corners and save. A change to how you feel about some of your associates will determine how you proceed with your daily routine. Be true to yourself. Your numbers are 8, 14, 19, 28, 31, 34, 46.
