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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?
Confused
Dear Confused
I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.
Eugenia
Hello Eugenia
I need some help, maybe some insight into my situation. About a year ago I met someone on line, I will call him "Rob" it started as casual emails leading, to phone calls, after 8 months he came all the way from England to meet me. Rob's visit pretty much confirmed what we both felt before meeting. We love each other, we feel as though we were meant to be together. The obvious problem, the distance. Eventually someone will have to make a move. I plan on visiting him in March. I know he hated FL & would not want to move here. I have always been obsessed w/ England so it's obvious who it will be but the prospect of it scares me to death it is a huge move & my parents (the only family I have) are here. I wonder if I should just end it & move on w/ things here but I love him so much & have never felt this way about anyone before. I was hoping maybe you could shed light on the situation, any help would be greatly appreciated! His birthday is 8/27/1973. and mine is November 30, 1970, at 9:46 PM. Thank You-
Heart in the UK
Dear Heart in the UK
The comparison does indicate that you are not being completely honest with him about the way you feel regarding leaving your home and family. It is important to clear this issue up when you go to visit him. In this day and age with technology and air travel being so fast the planet has become a much smaller place. As you have already discovered it is easy to stay in touch with people who live far away. You owe it to yourself to follow your heart and investigate his homeland as he has yours. I do believe however that without open and honest communication you will face future problems.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
For the past 9 years my husband and I have been hit hard financially and wanted to know if you see our finances improving soon? My husband was born on April 18, 1962 @ 7pm in Jersey City, NJ. Do you see us hitting the lottery or maybe you can give us lucky numbers and dates to play them? I was born January 17, 1960 @ 4 pm.
Any help is greatly appreciated.
Sincerely,
Sinking Quickly
Dear Sinking Quickly
Both you and your husband have moved into a brighter time regarding your financial situation as of October of this year. This particular transit will remain with you until the last quarter of 2005. Now this can mean a number of different scenarios can develop. Buying and selling real estate can turn a profit for you. An investment can pay off, or you may come into money owed that you didn't think you would ever see again. It can also bring you an inheritance, insurance surrender, unexpected gift or even a winning. Your lucky numbers are 1,7,8,17,25,26,37 and your husbands are 4,9,13,22,27,31,40. There is evidence in both your charts that lead me to believe that once you cut your losses and stop hanging on to something that is beyond your budget that you will do just fine. Sizing down or doing whatever is necessary to ease the stress will lead to greater prosperity over the next 10 months however if you choose to try to hold on to what you've got you will probably manage to do so but in the interim you won't ease the stress or be able to profit as much in the long run. Think carefully about what you need and what you don't.
Eugenia
