We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?
Confused
Dear Confused
I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I was born on April 4, 1986, at 8:30 AM. I have a great interest in astrology so I have been surfing all the related astrology sites, checking personality, romance, career, etc. However, it never matches with me. My star is Aries and it says people with Aries have leadership and they are passionate. Some of the readings are correct and similar but some of them are not. Therefore, What I like mostly to know is, does one's fate vary according to when he/she is born and zodiac signs? If yes, I'd like to know how it varies...Please will you answer my question?
Curious Aries
Dear Curious Aries
A chart is as unique and personal as your fingerprint. It is based on your day, month, year, time and place of birth. Your natal chart is derived from where the planets were situated in the sky at the precise moment and place that you were born. In your case you were born under the Sun sign Aries. However, only your natal Sun is positioned in that sign. Therefore, although you will have some characteristics of that sign they will not be strong and will probably be more recognizable in areas of your life that deal with your dreams, hopes and wishes and when you are working or contributing to worthwhile causes or dealing with acquaintances. You have Gemini rising and this will influence the way you view things. With your natal Moon in Aquarius you will be less passionate and with your Mercury and Jupiter in Pisces probably not so much a leader but more inclined to the unusual and or doing your own thing. With your natal Venus in the sign Taurus well aspected to your natal Neptune and Mars in Capricorn you will be creative but practical and will also have a greater desire to reach monetary goals. Wise investing will be a key to your future success. You have your natal Uranus and Saturn in Sagittarius in an area that deals with your partnerships both business and emotional and that means that you aren't likely to want to commit at a young age. If you do it will have to be in a relationship that does not constrict or confine you in any way if it is going to last. Your natal Pluto is in the sign Scorpio in an area of your chart that deals with work and how you will get along with your colleagues as well as matters pertaining to minor health. It is well aspected therefore you will probably do just fine as long as you enjoy what you are doing for a living. I hope this helps you understand a little bit more about how astrology works. So many times people get locked into the whole Sun Sign aspect of the subject and therefore disregard the benefits that it can offer you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Please clarify why some astrologers claim Taurus and Scorpio are not compatible at all, while others will claim that this relationship will either be "all" good or "all bad. I am a Taurus born May 3 1948 at 12 AM and he is Scorpio. We are planning on living together soon. Being I love him dearly, I want us to have the happiness we were denied in our previous marriage to other partners and want to make this work for us. For some reason, I feel I will have to put more effort into this relationship than he will, and I don't mind as long as this union is permanent, honest, loving, and we can share our dreams and future together. What is your belief of this relationship having permanency? Your comment will be truly appreciated. Thank you!
Love Connection
Dear Love Connection
Considering the fact that you did not submit your Scorpio's birth data I can't tell you much about your connection with one another and I suggest that you let the compatibility feature on my web site do that for you. I can however tell you that your chart indicates that you fall in love quickly and you do make mistakes where love is concerned. With what your chart is going through currently I would be cautious because you are extremely changeable right now. In other words you may not feel the same way two years from now therefore if it isn't important to get married I would suggest that you keep your finances and other important issues separate for the time being. At your age living together with the right legal documentation is probably your best bet. I can understand your attraction to the sign Scorpio with your natal Moon being in Pisces but your Venus is in Gemini conjunct your natal Uranus therefore I have to wonder if your Scorpio partner has any Sagittarius in his chart. You are obviously quite a catch so don't sell yourself short or think that you have to do more work than he does. Partnership is a shared investment, if it becomes one-sided it usually doesn't work.
Eugenia
