We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I am a Virgo born on Sept.16, 1970. I been married to a cancer born on July 9,1970. We've been married 3 1/2 years. We were dating for 8 years. Our marriage was going great. But then, I had an affair with a co-worker. I told my husband the truth. He said that he would forgive me and would not leave me. The co-worker is a Virgo like me born on September 14, 1955. He was very good to me. I was feeling lonely and he was also. My husband is military. So, sometimes he is gone. The problem is that my husband says he wants us to work things out, but in the process he gets upset for remembering my affair and starts insulting me a lot. He has never hit me, but once he did because he wanted to know who the guy was. I told him not to hit me and he didn't. He doesn't hurt me physically, but emotionally he does. So, now I am confused. The other guy is married, but his wife filed for divorce. He wants me to also get a divorce and go with him. I just don't know what to do. I am confused! What do you think I should do?
Confused
Dear Confused
I'm not surprised that you are confused. My dear girl, what were you thinking. You have such a good comparison with your husband except for the fact that deception and sorrow due to secret affairs could very well ruin this connection. Your husband is a proud man and it will be difficult for him to forgive you completely. The fact that he has his natal Mercury in the sign Cancer indicates that he will never be able to forget what you have done to him and to your marriage. As for your lover, well you didn't really match up very well. Emotional deception and disillusionment are evident. You have to make some quick decisions in order to get your life back on course. If you think you can salvage your marriage by all means do so, get counseling or whatever it takes. If you decide that it's too late and you must move on do so but not by moving from one hot bed to another. You need to give yourself time to discover who you are and what you really want. I do not believe that you really want your secret lover. I feel that you were attracted to him due to a void you were feeling. Your husband might not have been spending enough time with you or perhaps neither one of you worked hard enough to make your marriage work. A good marriage doesn't just happen. It takes plenty of patience, understanding and hard work on the part of both parties. Divorce does look like the direction you are heading. Whether you stay or leave you will be experiencing emotional difficulties due to the poor choices that you have made in the past.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I have a financial problem now. I desperately need to borrow money.
However, I read my outlook for the year 2001. It said that I should avoid borrowing money, but I really need to do so now. I need US $3000.
I'm so worried but I can't find another method. Maybe it's too early to say but this is the biggest problem that I have ever had in my life. I am worried after reading my outlook for 2001. I'll wait for your reply. I was born July 4, 1975, at 5:37 AM.
Broke
Dear Broke
I can see your dilemma however if you are to borrow money the real problem or financial limitation will not hit you until June of next year. Therefore if you want to extend yourself financially do so but be sure to have a good financial plan that will allow you to pay back what you owe before that time. You are going through a period right now that is making you overreact so you may want to talk to a financial advisor or someone in you know and trust who can give you solid financial advice based on your situation before you make your final decision.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
Where do I begin, I'm 28 yrs old and have been looking for love. I've been out of a relationship for almost 2 yrs in which I was engaged to be married. This almost tore me apart but somehow I SURVIVED. I still have good and bad days but I think everything happens for a reason which takes me to my next point. I met a gentleman (born: February 21,1971) almost a year ago in which I was very attracted to and we became friends although I long for so much more however I know that his career is his first priority and anything else is on the back burner. I think that coming out of a very long and serious relationship I lack the confidence that I need in order to speak up and express what I feel as I fear rejection and this is what I tend to do with him.
I know that I want more than to be friends, is this something that you see in my future? b/c I don't have the nerve to ask him straight out and I want to know what direction my love life is going if anywhere. I was born July 4, 1975 at 6:45 pm.
Please help!!!
Cancer
Hi Cancer
The comparison with your Pisces friend is okay but he does think like an Aquarius which means that he can be a little detached when it comes to emotional matters. He also has a strong Sagittarius influence and they are usually not all that interested in being tied down. You are very sensitive and the past couple of years you have gone through a difficult period regarding relationships and being able to trust. You are also going through your first Saturn return and this is making you reevaluate your life and what you have done with it up until now. Over the course of the next year you should be making changes that will better suit the direction you see yourself moving in. You did meet your Pisces friend at a good time so I?m not ruling him out but I do feel that you are probably a little more serious regarding your relationship and that you are also ready to start thinking about settling down where he may not have given it a thought as of yet. If you are going to approach him to see how he feels you may want to do so in July of this year. You will be in a high cycle again this fall where finding love is concerned so you have time to see where your current relationship is headed before you start looking for love elsewhere. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
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