We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I visit your site everyday. I am now suffering both physically and mentally. Financially, I'm almost living in the poorhouse. My health is getting worse and worse. I am so down that I wonder whether I should continue to live or not. Furthermore, the person whom I love has left me. She has deeply fallen in love with someone else. This almost killed me. We have a young kid but she seems not to care about our child. I don't know whether I should wait for her or let her go. My future seems so dark. I have no confidence. I can't talk to any one about my personal problems. However, while I am writing to you, I feel much better. Even though my wife has left me, I still love her deeply. Will my financial status improve this year? I'd like to hear your advice, Eugenia. It'd be really great if you reply this letter. I was born 1963.07.18, 7 pm., my wife was born 1976.6.11, 6 am, and our daughter was born 1998.10.09, 5am.
Distraught
Dear Distraught
I understand your concern. The comparison between you and your ex-wife was adequate however that may not be enough to win her back if she has met someone who matches up to her much better. I believe that she has been and continues to go through a very confusing time. I feel that her comparison with your daughter shows promise, love and caring. Her chart indicates that secret affairs and emotional confusion coupled with erratic behavior have caused her to make such a huge change in her life. I believe that you are a very sensitive, caring and loving individual who fell in love with the wrong person. Your chart indicates that you will be moving into a high romantic cycle during the second half of this year and the first half of next. This can mean that your ex-wife tries to come back into your life or it can mean that you will meet someone who is much better for you and who you will love much more than your ex-wife. I believe that you should be with someone born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn or Pisces. Your attraction toward Gemini females is evident however these women are best kept as social acquaintances or friends, not lovers. You should never share joint finances with people born under the signs Gemini, Virgo or Sagittarius. You should consider getting legal matters out of the way during the second half of this year. Give her until August and at that point tie up any loose ends that you may have with her. You match up well to your daughter also but I believe that she may be better off with your ex-wife. Your daughters chart is good however she tends to be more like her mother. It's time for you to put yourself first and get on with your life. The work and money area of your chart will improve if you focus on your professional goals. Lately it has been your extreme depression and loss that has clouded your progress. Concentrate on getting ahead. After all the sweetest revenge is your own success and right now you are the only one holding you back.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
My parents divorced before I went to primary school and then I lived with my father. Since I was small, I was bullied. My mother worked in another city and did not care about me. My father treated me this way because he was remarried and had other children. My mother told me that my grandmother did not treat her well when she was small. This was why she did not know how to show her love to me. I was brought up under this environment and became very lonely. I was afraid to have contact with people. I had a few boyfriends and none of them worked out. I wanted so much my own family but every time I got hurt. With no parents to love, other people looked down on me. When I was at work, it did not turn out okay and I was always faced with many problems. I did not know how to deal with people and felt lost. After so many failures, I've lost my confidence totally. Now I have this boyfriend for over a year. He is a good person but he has a very stubborn character and that I can hardly accept. He always says something to hurt me. He needs someone to take care of him while I also long for someone who can look after me. I doubt if we can be a happy couple but I trust his integrity and like his family who treat me well. Now I just lost my job and had a fight with him.
My mother came back to Shanghai and bought an apartment. Now I am living with her but my mother does not care what I am doing. If you didn't know, you would think I am so lucky with a good apartment and a nice looking face. But in fact I have nothing, no family and no career. My life doesn't have any meaning. Is my life supposed to be this way? Did I do something wrong in my last life?
I was born on October 21, 1972 at around 3:30 am. My boyfriend was born on July 8, 1973 at 5 o'clock (I am not sure how accurate this is).
Hope you can give me some guidance. Thank you.
LOST
Dear LOST
Don't be so hard on yourself and your family. Your chart does show some problems with family however you must realize that the grass always appears to be greener on the other side of the fence. In other words this is an obstacle that you can and will overcome. You can learn from the experience you have had. Although you aren't positive what it would be like to have a loving family it isn't hard to know what you consider a loving family to be. Your boyfriend does match up quite nicely to your chart however there is potential for arguing. I do believe that when you love someone and you truly care about him that you will inevitably have disagreements. There is no apparent deception in your comparison only the fact that you will both overreact at times and this has probably resulted in your breakup. Please call him and try to work out your differences. You said that his family is kind and good to you, therefore you have a base to learn from. If you follow what has worked for them it will work for you as well.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Help please! I am 33, 26.05.67, at 9:00 AM, my boyfriend is 16, 05.06.84, and we knew each other before we got together. We are so good together except for the age difference. I believe we are soul mates and that we will be in each other's lives forever. I also know that I have to let him go to get on with his life. I love him so much and so much want us to be together, my heart breaks at the thought of losing him. Is it possible that he will get a life then we can get back together in a few years time? We have such a powerful and strong relationship but I know he must go and get some life experience, I feel so confused by what my head and heart say. He has had a hard life and is too mature for his years, but we have so much in common and this is part of the strong bond that we have together. I know that he loves me. However, we both agree that we should end this relationship, but we are finding it difficult to let go.
Older Woman/Younger Man
Dear Older Woman/Younger Man
Let's get real, the comparison was not that great. I feel that what has happened between you is that you both filled a void in one another life for a brief moment in time. Both your charts indicate that it's time to move on. If you can maintain a friendship fine but you are best to cut it off and go your own way. Don't get me wrong, I have no problem with older women and younger men or vise versa but in this case there is an element of emotional deception and really the comparison is more like a friendship that has gotten out of hand. Now I'm not saying that it can't work or that it won't some day in the future but I am saying that right now you both need time to move on and experience new people, places and things. Your chart indicates that you are moving into a high cycle regarding love and romance during the second half of next year. Currently and until that time you will be in a cycle conducive to meeting people who can help you get ahead. You should be focusing on your work, getting ahead and meeting new people. As for him it is apparent that he is in a high cycle regarding love and romance even now and that it is important for him to grasp the moment and enjoy his teenage years. He is highly changeable right now as well as vulnerable to your needs so it will be left up to you to force the issue. If you don't I'm afraid he will find someone new and try to appease you at the same time and this could lead to an emotional disaster for both of you.
Eugenia
