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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I visit your site everyday. I am now suffering both physically and mentally. Financially, I'm almost living in the poorhouse. My health is getting worse and worse. I am so down that I wonder whether I should continue to live or not. Furthermore, the person whom I love has left me. She has deeply fallen in love with someone else. This almost killed me. We have a young kid but she seems not to care about our child. I don't know whether I should wait for her or let her go. My future seems so dark. I have no confidence. I can't talk to any one about my personal problems. However, while I am writing to you, I feel much better. Even though my wife has left me, I still love her deeply. Will my financial status improve this year? I'd like to hear your advice, Eugenia. It'd be really great if you reply this letter. I was born 1963.07.18, 7 pm., my wife was born 1976.6.11, 6 am, and our daughter was born 1998.10.09, 5am.
Distraught
Dear Distraught
I understand your concern. The comparison between you and your ex-wife was adequate however that may not be enough to win her back if she has met someone who matches up to her much better. I believe that she has been and continues to go through a very confusing time. I feel that her comparison with your daughter shows promise, love and caring. Her chart indicates that secret affairs and emotional confusion coupled with erratic behavior have caused her to make such a huge change in her life. I believe that you are a very sensitive, caring and loving individual who fell in love with the wrong person. Your chart indicates that you will be moving into a high romantic cycle during the second half of this year and the first half of next. This can mean that your ex-wife tries to come back into your life or it can mean that you will meet someone who is much better for you and who you will love much more than your ex-wife. I believe that you should be with someone born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn or Pisces. Your attraction toward Gemini females is evident however these women are best kept as social acquaintances or friends, not lovers. You should never share joint finances with people born under the signs Gemini, Virgo or Sagittarius. You should consider getting legal matters out of the way during the second half of this year. Give her until August and at that point tie up any loose ends that you may have with her. You match up well to your daughter also but I believe that she may be better off with your ex-wife. Your daughters chart is good however she tends to be more like her mother. It's time for you to put yourself first and get on with your life. The work and money area of your chart will improve if you focus on your professional goals. Lately it has been your extreme depression and loss that has clouded your progress. Concentrate on getting ahead. After all the sweetest revenge is your own success and right now you are the only one holding you back.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I think I lost my sense of humor and I can't seem to get it back. In the past, I was able to laugh, to joke and most of the time, make fun of friends in a humorous ways and have everybody laughing. But nowadays, I can hardly laugh myself. And it seems that I am too serious in my everyday conversation. A conversation of a humorous nature, my comments or answers can totally spoil the mood. If I try to make a funny remark, it seems very unnatural and tends to come out forced. Is this part of growing up or has my astrological nature got something to do with it. Or has it anything to do with my social life. For the past few years, my social life has gradually settled down to just 2 groups of friends, each about 10 members, and our gatherings over the years have gradually reduced to once a month or twice a month. Does it mean that my spending most of my time alone has killed the humorous side of me? Please help. I am born on the 29th of December 1976, time about 5 past 12 midnight (not too sure).
Humorless
Dear Humorless
You're being too hard on yourself. Yes you are growing up but that doesn't mean that you will lose your humor. Humor is usually determined by the placement of a person's natal Mercury. In your case you have your natal Mercury in the sign Capricorn well aspected to your natal Jupiter in Taurus. As you get older you will find different things in life humorous. Such as jokes that pertain to business, colleagues, big investment deals, money matters etc. You also have Libra rising and this will also give you a more sophisticated manner of joking as you mature. There is nothing wrong with that. You are not a silly little kid anymore but that doesn't mean that you can't use your intelligence and knowledge to crack a joke. You are still in a high cycle regarding higher education, travel and making new friends who have the same interests and beliefs that you have so start getting out and getting involved. You are also in a high cycle regarding love, romance and socializing so stop being so concerned about being funny and start thinking about getting romantically serious. There are many positive things for you to look forward to however if you are negative and down on yourself because you aren't the same as you were in your youth you will miss all the wonderful opportunities that can and will lead to the next phase of your life.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
I have been married for six years. For most of that time, our sex life has been practically nonexistent, even though we seem to be quite compatible based on our charts. This is my fault, really, as early on I lost my desire to have sex with him; in fact, I am turned off by his touch. I've never told him this because I don't want to hurt him, but, obviously, the "sex" issue has caused some major discord in our marriage. I have tried to rekindle my passion, but I haven't had any success. I know the problem is not physical, as I often have sexual dreams and fantasize about other men (but I've never cheated). If I am unable to get past this, it most surely will lead to divorce. I was born 11/20/71 at 6:50 a.m., my husband was born 5/6/65, (time unknown). Thank you for your advice.
Passionless Wife
Dear Passionless Wife
I don?t really see your comparison as being all that great regarding love. It lacks in areas essential to building a happy and loving relationship. It appears to be more like a brother sister connection that is definitely not built on passion. Your chart indicates that you are coming into a period that brings opportunities for you to meet someone who knocks you off your feet. This could lead to a secret affair if you aren?t out of your current situation. I suggest that if you don?t want this to happen and you truly want to try to rekindle your relationship, that you start communicating with your husband honestly about your feelings and let him know what?s lacking in your marriage. I am a believer that any relationship can work if both people are willing to put in the effort. However, unfortunately I have found that in most cases when it doesn?t work there is a lack of communication and it?s often quite one-sided with regards to who puts what into the marriage. In your case I feel that honesty and straightforwardness will be required. Although this may hurt your husbands feelings initially, if you are living in a loveless marriage I think he would agree that getting help or splitting up would be preferable to the nonexistent connection that you have right now.
Eugenia
