We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Brains and Brawn

Dear Eugenia,

I am a 49-year-old woman who has sworn off men for the past six years; mostly to avoid a weakness I had four bad relationships with big blue-eyed country boys. Four months ago one walked into my house for a volunteer project and I'm losing it because this one also happens to be SMART. Problem is, he's a whole bunch younger and apparently pretty naive about women and sex in general. The compatibility thermometer gave us a 99%, and I'm pretty sure he's attracted to me--he's here all the time and we can talk away the night. But now I want to move it up to the next level, and I don't know how or when, or whether it's a good idea to ruin an almost perfect friendship.I'm born 3/3/52, 2:45 am, and he's born 5/31/65, 2:30 a.m. any advice on timing, or whether this is a good idea?

Perplexed

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Dear Perplexed

You do have an amazing comparison with your Gemini friend. I would however take it nice and slow and let him make the moves. I don't have a problem with the age difference however at some point it may cause a problem with friends, family as well as with one another. I am basing this on your charts, not on your chronological age difference. It will depend on his maturity however I do believe that he has a strong sense of who he is and what he wants out of life. The only other question that might arise will be regarding children. That could be with children that either one of you already have or the fact that he may want a child and you may not be able to reciprocate. As for now however I believe that you should let things unfold naturally and try not to get too caught up in long term for now.

Eugenia

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Article: From Diplomatic Sagittarius

Dear Eugenia,

Your horoscopes are intelligent and gripping. I'm inspired to send you. My question. I am a Camilla Parker Bowles, without the expectation of marriage. After a long alliance (intellectual mainly) with a talented and prominent man, I see him working to stay with his (third) wife, and I am considering cutting bait. As none of our friends know of our relationship, this seems like it should be easier, but it's painful to me, and my clandestine life with this remarkable man has helped. This week his wife found out. Could anything happen here to keep my happiness intact? Due to the nature of our positions I request that you do not mention our birth data.

Thank you so much. Sincerely,
Diplomatic Sagittarius

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Dear Diplomatic Sagittarius

Diplomacy is exactly what's required. The comparison is okay but does show signs of sorrow and certainly does touch off an area of your chart that deals with secret affairs. This is usually an indication of the position you will remain in with this particular man. The sorrow falls in an area of your chart that deals with work relations as well so hopefully this will not cause any problems for you professionally. Matters are coming to a head between now and October of this year and it is important that you protect yourself, if that means backing off you probably should. You are coming into a high cycle regarding love and romance this fall - this can mean that someone comes back into your life or that you find a new love. Between now and late July you are completing a transit that has caused frustration, limitation and obvious setbacks regarding love relationships. My suggestion is to back off very quickly for the time being even if it is difficult. Come fall he may have sorted out his personal problems after all he has been married three times so he isn't afraid of divorce. Regardless of how bright a person is human nature is to want what you think you can't have, if you back off now you stand a much better chance of ending up with him in the fall. My suggestion however is that you move on with your life because personally I feel that you can do better regardless of how compelling this man may be. It is apparent that it would be easier to know him the way you do. Being his wife would be a challenge to say the least. You match up well to those born under the sign Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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Article: Push Or Pull

Hi Eugenia,

I am now in a state of anxiety and emotionally unstable. I was born on September 9, 1973. I always fail when it comes to love and romance. I had one-sided love affair for 5 years. The guy was born in February 28. 1973. I have never told him that I loved him and he got married last year.

At the end of the year 2000, I fell in love with a guy born in October 6, 1966. We have a sexual relationship and I want to marry him. But I now found that he always tells lies and cheats on me. He is not serious. If I treat him well, he would feel annoyed and leave. If I am cool, he may pay more attention to me. Recently, I met my old classmate. He was a 1973 Taurus. He treats me very well. But I am a conservative girl. Since I have had a sexual relationship with my boyfriend, I don't know how to face this Taurus guy.

Although I visit your website every day, I still cannot find a way to release this feeling. I wish you could help and tell me what to do.

Confused

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Dear Confused

I can see your attraction to your October partner however the comparison wasn't that good. I believe that you can do much better. Without your Taurus friends complete birth date I cannot really comment on your connection with him. I can tell you however that you do need to make some personal changes. You are in a high cycle where love and romance are concerned right now however if you are with your Libra friend it isn't likely that you will meet someone new. You need to reevaluate your motives. I believe you are with your Libra because you fear being alone. You must let go and move forward if you want to achieve happiness. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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