We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I am a 49-year-old woman who has sworn off men for the past six years; mostly to avoid a weakness I had four bad relationships with big blue-eyed country boys. Four months ago one walked into my house for a volunteer project and I'm losing it because this one also happens to be SMART. Problem is, he's a whole bunch younger and apparently pretty naive about women and sex in general. The compatibility thermometer gave us a 99%, and I'm pretty sure he's attracted to me--he's here all the time and we can talk away the night. But now I want to move it up to the next level, and I don't know how or when, or whether it's a good idea to ruin an almost perfect friendship.I'm born 3/3/52, 2:45 am, and he's born 5/31/65, 2:30 a.m. any advice on timing, or whether this is a good idea?
Perplexed
Dear Perplexed
You do have an amazing comparison with your Gemini friend. I would however take it nice and slow and let him make the moves. I don't have a problem with the age difference however at some point it may cause a problem with friends, family as well as with one another. I am basing this on your charts, not on your chronological age difference. It will depend on his maturity however I do believe that he has a strong sense of who he is and what he wants out of life. The only other question that might arise will be regarding children. That could be with children that either one of you already have or the fact that he may want a child and you may not be able to reciprocate. As for now however I believe that you should let things unfold naturally and try not to get too caught up in long term for now.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
My husband has a drinking problem. He has been able to control this problem for the past 5-6 years. Recently he has begun drinking again and there is starting to be the same kind of mental abuse as he displayed in the past. I am at the age where I do not feel I can repeat and repeat this sort of abuse and lifestyle. Money is also becoming an issue as he continues to drink. He continues to threaten to leave and I am at the point where if not for my financial position, I would put the entire relationship behind me and move on alone. Is this a good idea?.......Please help, he is born July 10, 1951 at 6:30 a.m. and I April 25, 1944, at 10 a.m.
Stay or Leave
Dear Stay or Leave
I believe that your husband will become worse before he becomes better. The next year and a half will be filled with all sorts of limitations for him regarding health, authority figures, dealing with institutions and so forth. I feel that the past couple of years you have taken the brunt of his obvious lack of control and abuse and now is the time to give him an ultimatum. Should he leave he will go down hill over the course of the next couple of years. Should he seek help it will take him the next couple of years to reform. As for you I feel that the time for change is fast approaching. That you should be seeking help from women's groups and co-dependent organizations in order to get back on your feet and away from him. Your comparison did indicate that there has been love in the past with this man but that was probably a long time ago. There is also sorrow especially where substance abuse is concerned and because of this I feel that even if he does seek help that there will always be the potential for him to slip over and over again. I do not believe that you will ever be able to fully put his abuse behind you and that your reason for staying with this man has more to do with fear of being alone and lack of funds. Your chart indicates that you are youthful and entertaining and that you will be okay if you can only get yourself out of this situation. By all means - if he wants to leave let him go.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I have sent a message before but I had no response. I am writing again as I have been talking with some astrologers on www.astroadvice.com - they have been very kind and helpful. What I am curious is if you can see me having children sometime next year? I am having surgery in the new year, and that should correct my infertility problem, I realize that is a crazy thing to ask of you, but if you have any insights please let me know. Hope to hear from you and your reply will be greatly appreciated. DOB June 20 1971 around 5:30 pm (not positive about the time).
Thank You,
Jody
Hi Jody
Actually you are in a high cycle next year for pregnancy however you also have a chart that consists primarily of mutable signs and this is often an indication that there will be problems with getting pregnant the pregnancy itself or the children you have. With that in mind I must also mention that according to the time you were born luckily the Venus in your chart doesn't fall in an area that represent health however your natal Sun and Mercury do and they are not well aspected so chronic problems are likely to prevail. I believe however that these problems will have more to do with respiratory ailments, allergies, and blood etc - not pregnancy unless toxemia happens during pregnancy. As I mentioned earlier your chart is looking positive for pregnancy between April and August of next year. Your astrological fertility cycles are as follows.
Dec. 5/2005 at 11 PM until Dec. 9/2005 at 11 PM, Jan. 4/05 at 11 AM until Jan. 8/05 11 AM. Feb. 2/05 at 7 PM until Feb. 6/05 at 7 PM, Mar. 2/05 at 9 AM until Mar. 6/05 at 9 AM, Apr. 2/05 at 5 PM until Apr. 6/05 at 5 PM, May 2/05 at 9 AM until May 6/05 at 9 AM, June 1/05 at 3 AM until June 5/05 at 3 AM, July 1/05 at 1 AM until July 5/05 at 1 AM, July 30/05 at 7 PM until Aug. 3/05 at 7 PM, Aug. 29/05 at 3 PM until Sept. 2/05 at 3 PM, Sept. 28/05 at 11 AM until Oct. 2/05 at 11 AM, Oct. 28/05 at 11 AM until Nov. 1/05 at 11 AM, Nov. 27/05 at 5 PM until Dec. 1/05 at 5 PM.
You will be most fertile at the mid point of each time period but if you want to get the most out of these periods I suggest you and your husband book this time to make mad passionate love. A four-day party for two will certainly help you bond your relationship on several different levels. The most fertile months are May, June and August next year.
Eugenia
