We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Ms. Last,
Thank you for your wonderful website and your free readings for members. You have the magic touch especially for me. I was born 6:20 am on 04/08/1975 and my husband was born on 10/03/71 I am unsure of the time. I am under a lot of stress and pressure at the moment. You see I am 36 weeks pregnant and my husband has been away for 6 months. He went to work in another part of the country and he has been staying with another woman. In the last 9 months of our marriage this woman has desperately wanted to rip my marriage apart. My husband had been playing games with me, saying that he was never cheating on me until I found out that he was. This woman was born on 04/01/1976. I thought that she had succeeded until I recently spoke to my husband this week. He spoke to me for 2 hours on the phone and on the ICQ chat room on the internet telling me what he had done was a big mistake and he wants to come home to his family.
We already have a little boy who is 15months old and he really misses his daddy. He adores his father. I would love nothing more than for my husband and I to reunite and start all over again but I am concerned that what he is telling me is all lies. This woman has played some very nasty mind-games with me throughout this time and she is now starting to call herself my son's mother. She has sent so many e-mails to me pretending to be my husband saying that "they" are both coming to my home to take my son away from me. She even went to the extreme of telling me that she was pregnant with my husband's child. She has 2 children of her own and is still married. She ran away from her husband so that he could not see his son grow up (one child is not his). She has wrecked 4 marriages as well as her own and is only out to chase men that have a lot of money. My husband and I have our own business and that's what she is after. She has never worked a day in her life, unless you count being a prostitute work, but she only wants money to drink her self stupid, as she is an alcoholic.
There are a lot of other things that she has done to me, including: trying to get me so stressed out that I miscarried our baby. A legal representative has only now told me that I can have her charged for stalking as well as causing mental anguish. All I would really like to know is should I trust my husbands word or is he just playing games with me too? We have been married for almost 3 years and even though my husband has done the wrong thing, I am still very much in love with him, and I always will be. He keeps telling me how much he loves and misses me, but if he does- he would not have done what he did in the first place and if he wanted his family back so badly he would have been back by now. 6 months is a very long time and I have had to raise my son and go through this pregnancy practically on my own. His parents live right next door to me, and they have been wonderful as they are supporting me 100% and they are not very happy with what he has done either. I guess I am lucky that I have his family here to support me.
Please help me Ms. Last, as you are my only hope left. I hope you can give me the strength and guidance that I need.May the stars be bright and beautiful and shining in your life.
Thankyou.
Nowhere left to turn.
Dear Nowhere left to turn.
Your comparison with your husband far outshines that of the comparison with the other woman. Your husband's chart indicates that he is coming into his Saturn return. What that does is it makes him reevaluate his life up to this point and make the necessary changes in order to turn things around. Although he is a smooth talker and extremely charming I do believe that he is sincere about wanting to be with you and the family. He isn't your most likely candidate however to be true blue and he doesn't do well in relationships that he finds confining or restrictive. My suggestion is that you with
Dear Eugenia,
I'm am so lost in knowing what love is I'm always making the wrong choices where love is concerned I was born June 26, 1959, at 10:26 PM. I'm in my second marriage and we constantly fight all the time. I got married 6yrs ago after I lost my son who was murdered. I still have such a void and it's still painful to bear. I got married a year later in 1994 on my son's birthday. I thought this guy was the one but I found out things about his life style that bothers me. He was so wrong to hide such a thing from me. I still believe he is hiding more than he has already let out of the closet. He is a Capricorn born Jan 19th 1960.I cannot deal with his lifestyle. He says he is not gay he just likes to wear women's clothes. Back in May of this year I left him because I feel like such a fool to have trusted him. I believed he loved me and now I'm sorry that I was so vulnerable. In 93 when I lost my boy and I was looking for love and comfort I made a huge bad choice. I'm still married to him but things are not right anymore. I care about him because he took care of my daughter and I when I needed someone, but we fight constantly over him wearing women's clothes. I did not get married for this reason. I am so hurt by all this and have been trying to keep it together but I'm emotionally tired. I've been deceived, lied to and hurt. Yes I'm a big fool for getting married after I lost my son. Now I don't know what real love is, who to trust, or what to do. I'm getting so withdrawn my family says you made a vow before GOD when you got married so honor it. Yes I did and had I of known this before I would not be married to him. Please help I don't know what to do.
There is this guy who likes me at work and I told him to get away from me I didn't mean to hurt him he was born February 1st Aquarius man. He knows I'm married and I believe he wants to be more then friends. He is so shy kind and he make me happy to be around him but I didn't tell him that most of the time when he is near me I tremble. I can feel how his heart beats or when something is bothering him I'd love to be friends but its too hard right now. I don't trust to many people right now and I don't want to hurt anyone. Sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do or who to believe and most of all it hurts not being able to be friends with this guy at work. It has to be this way. He has three wonderful kids but I'm sorry to not be able to help him with advice or anything because I have enough to deal with myself. Can you tell me if the man I'm married to is withholding more secrets I would be appreciative. I'm so afraid to try again but then again I'm married forever so what difference does it make. If Mr. right is still out there he's gonna pass me by. Do you have any help for me?
Desperately Lost
Dear Desperately Lost
The comparison with your husband is not bad. Yes there is some deception in an area regarding his and your beliefs and ethics but that doesn't mean that it can't work. You need to be supportive, talk to him about the way you feel and ask him to go to counseling with you. Regarding your friend at work, you did not mention his year of birth making it difficult for me to assess your comparison however he does fall in an area of your chart that deals with work, secret affairs and probable difficulties that could easily result in you losing your job. I would be extremely careful with your Aquarius friend. If you become intimate with him while you are both still in your present marriages you are never going to be able to trust one another in the future. For now you should be putting more effort into making your marriage work and less into worrying about the man at work.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have become a member of your web site since Feb. this year. I really appreciate your web site. It helps me answer many of my questions.Now, I am facing a very difficult situation with my husband. We had been dating for almost 4 years before we got married. During dating, I discovered that he had not been faithful to me. But we still got married later on.We got married Feb. 2000 and shortly after, I got a job offer far away from where we live, so I had to move. My husband and I try to meet each other every weekend, either he comes to visit me or I go back home. We have been doing this since Feb. Recently, I feel myself not trusting my husband. I always feel that he is not honest with me or that he doesn't care about me, love me. This feeling is driving me crazy and of course makes me angry a lot too. I am really not sure about our marriage. I am not sure whether we can keep this marriage together or not. I have tried everything. I could not communicate with him, but, a lot of time, I feel that he is just trying to cover up and not really telling me the truth! Please reply to my question and give me guidance on what can I do to save my marriage?? Thank you very much for your help! I was born in July 30, 1970 sometime around 2:00 am. My husband was born in Dec. 13, 1965.
Confuse and sad
Dear Confuse and sad
The comparison with your husband wasn't bad however it did show signs of emotional and mental dishonesty. This could be based on several different reasons. He could be afraid of the reaction that he gets from you when you are suspicious. Your chart also indicates that you can be just as evasive or dishonest with him regarding some matters. You say that you can't communicate and unfortunately that is what it will take in order to get past all this confusion. You must sit down and talk about your needs, desires and future intentions before you can move forward. This relationship can work but it will take an effort on both your part and his. His chart does show that he can be charming as well as a bit of a flirt, but that doesn't mean that he will follow through. Right now he does have transiting Neptune sitting on his natal Venus and that can cause sorrow for him along with escapism, indulgence and yes even poor choices regarding love and romance. If he is lonely he may seek comfort with someone who is closer to home during this period but if he is a creative person he may also put this energy into artsy projects. Most important is that you sit down and communicate openly and honestly if you really want your relationship to withstand the distance between you. Your chart indicates that making a move back home or having him come to live with you permanently is a possibility in the fall. If you really love one another I would suggest that you strive to make this happen.
Eugenia
