We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
Thank you for the wonderful site. I truly appreciate what is offered here and your photos...this may sound strange, but knowing one's face is so important for me to have trust.
I have decide to write to you because you are the only one I can trust among many astrologers who offer similar services on line.
I am 27 year old and have never been in a serious relationship...this is very difficult for me to tell anyone about, since I am afraid of being considered as "not normal".
You must have heard so many times "guys who are interested in me aren't interesting to me" and vice versa. It has been the same story with me for too long and my inexperience makes me feel so incomplete. I don't think I am too selective, but such a long period of loneliness makes me wonder if I shouldn't choose at all. I really am not sure if waiting is such a good idea when lack of experience seriously hurts my self-esteem. I know it's up to me to decide, but if you could tell me what my chart says about love/romance, it'd be a great help.Any insight you could give me would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you so much in advance. I was born April 21, 1973, at 12:52 PM.
Lonely
Dear Lonely
There is nothing wrong with taking your time. I honestly believe that to become too serious about love before you reach your Saturn return at around the age of 29 is too soon. You are just heading into your Saturn return next year and you should be starting to reevaluate your life up to this point and deciding to make whatever changes are necessary in order to move forward in a positive manner. Regarding relationships you have been careful and that has been exactly what you needed to do. Your chart indicates that you are in a high cycle for meeting potential partners this year and next but you must get out and join organizations that you believe in and do things that will help you expand your circle of friends. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius, Aquarius and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
In January of 97 I became romantically involved with my teacher (his birth date:Aug.19,1950). He is married (his wife born Aug.10,1955). He had assured me that there was no romantic involvement with her and that he loved me, that the only reason he didn't leave her was because of his child, that theirs was a "business relationship." I believed him and loved him deeply, but recently found out that he still was having relations occasionally with her. He said that all along his feelings had been conflicting, that he didn't want to give her up, so when I said I wanted fidelity, he dumped me. His wife told me she plans to "punish" him. I am hurting terribly because I still love him very much. It is also going to hurt my studies, because he won't allow me in his classes any more. He had also gotten me a job at one of the places where he works. The day he ended the relationship (because I "pushed" him too far, he said), May 3rd (this year), I was angry and said I wanted to quit that job, so he cancelled my involvement in a joint project we were working on, which hurt my students as well as myself. I feel so hurt I cry all the time and wish I could die. I wish I had never said anything, and that our relationship had continued. Now I feel like my whole life is falling apart, because everything I did revolved around him. I have been to the counselor at school; she has been sympathetic but has no suggestions. He calls me sometimes, he says because he is sorry he hurt me, but he offers me no hope. He said he still doesn't know how he feels about anything, that I should do nothing and let time work things out. But I feel like I need to make some decisions about my life. Can you please help me? I don't even know what question to ask you, but perhaps you have some ideas. Thank you for reading my letter. It feels better just to know that you have "listened."
Sincerely,
Teachers Pet
Dear Teachers Pet
What were you thinking? Your comparison with your philandering professor wasn't all that great, for that matter his comparison with his wife wasn't earth shattering either. You are both dealing with a man who is full of himself and very capable of having secret affairs with women who are vulnerable or na?ve enough to believe his dribble. You unfortunately have been going through a very rough couple of years where love and relationships are concerned. Although your chart does denote that you could have someone from your past waltz back into your life, I certainly hope that you have enough will power to say no this time around. You should feel sorry for this man and even sorrier for his wife, whom I must say has also gone through similar transits to you regarding her relationship. I must mention that your chart and his wife's have an uncanny resemblance. I know that you are confused, hurting and you just want to be happy but strength and control will be necessary. I think that the more you back away from this man, the more he will want to come closer. It's hard to control what's in your heart especially when you are as sensitive and loving as you are. You were looking for that white knight who could stimulate you mentally and physically and we all know how hard that is to find. Please try to put this relationship in perspective and move on with your life. You will be in a high cycle for love and romance in June and I would hate to see you waste it on this man. You deserve better and I know that if you get out and join groups or organizations that you believe in you will meet like-minded people who can turn your crank. You match up well to those born under the signs Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have up until two weeks ago been having a wonderful relationship with a kind man. Born 1/6/1949. I am presently going through a divorce. Suddenly I get no response when I leave messages on his phone. He gave no reason for this he won't talk to me or tell me why he apparently does not want to see me again. I am devastated. I truly thought this was a man I could trust he gave me no reason not to. I really don't know what to do. I do think though that I deserve an explanation at the very least. I was born November 12, 1955, at 1:21 AM
Left wondering and very confused
Dear Left wondering and very confused
Your Capricorn friend does have his natal Venus in the sign Sagittarius opposite his natal Uranus in the sign Gemini. It is not unusual for people with this set up to begin and end relationships suddenly. It doesn't mean that he won't waltz back into your life but if he does be prepared to have him do a repeat performance. The comparison did lack some pizzazz. His natal Mercury and Mars are adversely positioned to your natal Neptune and this can cause a lack of trust and honesty. Let go and move on. There will be better romantic opportunities so don't sit around worrying about him, get out and have some fun. You should be considering someone born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn or Pisces.
Eugenia
