We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hello Eugenia,
My DOB: 01-31-1979 5:30pm. The DOB of my boyfriend: 06-01-1979 9:10am
I am interested in astrology and have read many books on this subject. Therefore, I quite understand myself. But I want to know more about interpersonal relationships. For example, how can I find out the solutions to conflicts.
I write to you to talk about the relationship with my boyfriend. Although I have checked the compatibility from romance section on your site, the percentages we got are different. I guess the higher percentage I got, the more suitable I would be to him. Is it like that?
My natal moon was in Pisces, so I always have an insecure feeling when it comes to love. I am afraid to be hurt. Since the Venus was in the fifth house (Sagittarius), I should be able to release this feeling. But why do I care whether my lover be serious to me and whether I am the only lover for him? Why do I always think of him? Both his natal Venus and Mars are in Taurus, he should be serious and possessive when it comes to love. But he is also a sun Gemini and Moon Leo. I am afraid that he may lose interest in me or in this relation very soon. May I know in more details about his attitude towards love? What will happen between us? What kinds of problems we may have and how to tackle them?
Serious Relationship
Dear Serious Relationship
The comparison is workable however like all relationships it isn't perfect. You will not always agree with one another and at times I believe that you may both lack honesty regarding what it is you truly want out of life. His natal Neptune being in Sagittarius conjunct your natal Neptune and Venus in an area that deals with children could result in sorrow regarding pregnancy, raising children or even agreeing on having children. In his birth chart his natal Neptune is opposite his natal Mercury and this can result in evading issues or not being completely upfront with you. It will be important that you both communicate openly and honestly in order to build your relationship on solid ground. With your natal Moon adversely aspected to your natal Venus conjunct Neptune it makes it difficult for you to feel secure regarding affairs of the heart. This is something that you will have to work on by building your own self-esteem and confidence. If you feel good about yourself your insecurities will diminish. This relationship can work but you must not be so needy. Your man is a Gemini but when it comes to love he does have his natal Venus in Taurus and that is usually a sign of loyalty, stability and staying power however with his Mercury in Gemini you are right in assuming that you will have to keep up with him in order to stimulate his mind. You are both moving into a period that is more conducive to settling down over the course of the next two to three years. If you talk to one another about your likes, dislikes, needs and desires you should be able to move forward in a positive manner.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
This is a little dramatic (I'm a LEO born August 8, 1980 at 2:07 pm!) but I feel as though I am having a bit of quarter life crisis. I have only been doing the 9 to 5 thing a couple of years and already I just don't see myself being able to do it another 30+ more. I have thought of pursuing more creative endeavors such as writing or even astrology, but then there is also the matter of having to make a living. So my question is about my career path: Is this just a temporary rut and more a matter of finding the right 9 to 5 or should I be going a different route altogether?
Thanks!
Leo
Dear Leo
Some people just don't do well with major routine. I believe that you can fit into a schedule if you like what you are doing however currently you are going through restlessness in an area of your chart that deals with how you earn your living. I feel that you may make a mistake if you are impulsive due to the type of transits that you are experiencing. My suggestion is to try something creative on the side but don't give up your day job. I worked in a routine job for the first seven years while I built up my astrological business. That is quite often what it takes - you have to support your addiction to your art. I do believe that you have creative talent and that you can obtain recognition for whatever you decide to pursue but not without hard work, dedication and paying the bills so that you don't have to worry about the roof over your head. You do show some talent where writing is concerned. If you really hate your 9 to 5 job consider another position that allows you to travel about more like a sales position or something that isn't quite as confining while you work on your own goals. I believe that if you work hard you may begin to see some recognition in about 4 years.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:I have been a good friend to a male, born -----------------. for a number of years. There are no romantic feelings between the two of us, but we do enjoy talking to each other. In the past two years he has been dating a young woman, born ----------------- Since they began dating, his behavior has become erratic. He lies, or tells people just what they want to hear, doesn't keep appointments, ignores his family and friends, and obsesses about being with her. Now they are engaged, and those of us who know them want to feel happy for them, but there isn't anyone in his circle of family or friends that is happy. She is very aloof, and tends to control him and everyone else around her. Can you give us some guidance? Their behavior, together and separate, is making life miserable on a lot of people and messing up events and gatherings to the point that no one wants them around any more. If possible, I would appreciate discretion when answering these questions. Thank you for your help, Eugenia.
Faithful Reader
Dear Faithful Reader
Although the two in question just have a so so comparison it is workable. The biggest problem appears to be when dealing with friends and relatives. I'm not saying that the marriage or relationship will last, but I am saying that there is nothing that you or anyone else can do about it. Your Libra friend has fallen in love and if you fight it he will not be your friend. He is in a high cycle where love and marriage is concerned therefore this has come into his life at the right moment for him. In her case, she is somewhat erratic and probably not quite as sure about her future with him as he is with his future with her. You are best to let him follow his course of action and support his decision. If you and his other friends feel so strongly that you are willing to lose the connection with him I suggest that you tell him your true feelings about this girl and let him decide what he will do. Maybe if you understand what it is that she does for him you will be able to accept her.
Eugenia
