We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hello Eugenia,
My DOB: 01-31-1979 5:30pm. The DOB of my boyfriend: 06-01-1979 9:10am
I am interested in astrology and have read many books on this subject. Therefore, I quite understand myself. But I want to know more about interpersonal relationships. For example, how can I find out the solutions to conflicts.
I write to you to talk about the relationship with my boyfriend. Although I have checked the compatibility from romance section on your site, the percentages we got are different. I guess the higher percentage I got, the more suitable I would be to him. Is it like that?
My natal moon was in Pisces, so I always have an insecure feeling when it comes to love. I am afraid to be hurt. Since the Venus was in the fifth house (Sagittarius), I should be able to release this feeling. But why do I care whether my lover be serious to me and whether I am the only lover for him? Why do I always think of him? Both his natal Venus and Mars are in Taurus, he should be serious and possessive when it comes to love. But he is also a sun Gemini and Moon Leo. I am afraid that he may lose interest in me or in this relation very soon. May I know in more details about his attitude towards love? What will happen between us? What kinds of problems we may have and how to tackle them?
Serious Relationship
Dear Serious Relationship
The comparison is workable however like all relationships it isn't perfect. You will not always agree with one another and at times I believe that you may both lack honesty regarding what it is you truly want out of life. His natal Neptune being in Sagittarius conjunct your natal Neptune and Venus in an area that deals with children could result in sorrow regarding pregnancy, raising children or even agreeing on having children. In his birth chart his natal Neptune is opposite his natal Mercury and this can result in evading issues or not being completely upfront with you. It will be important that you both communicate openly and honestly in order to build your relationship on solid ground. With your natal Moon adversely aspected to your natal Venus conjunct Neptune it makes it difficult for you to feel secure regarding affairs of the heart. This is something that you will have to work on by building your own self-esteem and confidence. If you feel good about yourself your insecurities will diminish. This relationship can work but you must not be so needy. Your man is a Gemini but when it comes to love he does have his natal Venus in Taurus and that is usually a sign of loyalty, stability and staying power however with his Mercury in Gemini you are right in assuming that you will have to keep up with him in order to stimulate his mind. You are both moving into a period that is more conducive to settling down over the course of the next two to three years. If you talk to one another about your likes, dislikes, needs and desires you should be able to move forward in a positive manner.
Eugenia
Hello Eugenia.
You have helped me in the past and I really appreciate what you do. This time I'm asking for and about my daughter. She was born 10/18/85 @3:44AM, and I love her with all my heart and soul, but something happened when she met up with this boy almost a year ago his month is April and year 1989, I'm not sure of the date the 13th sounds about right. He is a very very very smooth talker and has led my daughter down paths that I believe she never would have thought of. She started lying and sneaking around and quitting jobs or refusing them and lied to me about them.
So, due to this boy and his family she does not live at home with me anymore, left her fathers house and eventually ended up in a shelter. I've asked her and have even told her to come home with the condition that she work and the response I get is nothing. (My date of birth 7/14/63 7:30 PM.) She is now living with the boy's aunt that has a very big nose and mouth to match and has taken it upon herself to let me know what she thinks about me. (God only knows what my daughter has told this woman. My daughter has problems with her menstrual cycle and I have been very worried, as she had informed me that she "believes" the last one was in December. We have had a really major falling out and the aunt has informed me that my daughter is going to disown me... Eugenia, I don't know if my daughter is OK or if she's pregnant. She has told my younger daughter and stepdaughter that if she is pregnant the aunt is going to kick her out.
My heart is broken and is still breaking, she is very special in many ways and by rights should not have even been born, but she beat those odds. Please tell me what you see, for my eyes are very clouded with tears and fears.
God Speed Eugenia
Worried Mom
Hi Worried Mom
Without your daughters boyfriends exact birth information it is difficult for me to tell you much about him and the relationship they have with one another. I can tell you that he falls in an area of her chart that deals with dead ends so it isn't likely to go the distance if that is what you are worrying about. However, I believe the real problem is that your daughter is going through astrological transits that are causing a great deal of deception, disillusionment and sorrow when it comes to dealing with friends and relatives. She is extremely confused and has been for some time. This is probably why she isn't in school continuing her education like she should be. There is a good chance that she is pregnant as such transits have been with her since the fall of last year and will continue to be until mid to late summer of this year. There is a great deal of uncertainty in her home both your home and the home she is currently residing in. This does not stabilize for a number of years and your only hope at this point will be to let her go with the intent that you will be there for her when the bottom falls out of her world. She can be explosive at times and this only leads me to believe that you aren't going to be able to talk any sense into her and if you try she will only become more distant. It is apparent that she has probably over-indulged the past several years and gotten into things that you wouldn't approve of. She was born with the major sign of sorrow and the highest form of creativity and although this can be bad and good at the same time depending on what she does with it she is the only one who can choose to take the route that will lead her in a positive direction. Unfortunately you cannot do that for her.
The comparison between you and your daughter is typical but it does show some sorrow based around her relationships with other people and how you react to them. The saying keep your friends close but keep your enemies closer is something you should consider. Had you brought this young man closer instead of trying to get your daughter
Dear Eugenia
There is so much going on in my life that I don't know where to start. I can not believe that I have chosen to write this letter, but I guess I am hoping for confirmation that I am correct. My life has never felt more confused and not my own then it does right now. I want to focus my attention on my education and let go of all the other things in my life that I feel are holding me back. I am being pulled in all different directions. I am trying to fight the distractions and need to find a way to balance my life in order for me to achieve the things I want (have) to achieve on this earth. I have been searching for a counselor that can shed some light and provide the reassurance of love. I have only encountered counselors with no energy resembling that love.
I feel as if the only way I can accomplish my goals is to have some solace. I feel like I need to take a break from the energy I create and turn into myself so that I may become more confident in my energy and use it for what it is intended. I am ready to use it for whatever purposes are intended, but I do not know which way to go to achieve this goal.
I am looking for someone who understands, and someone who will be able to make me understand. I think the person who is really able to understand me will be able to communicate their energy to me. I don't need anyone to tell me how to run my life; I would just like confirmation that I'm on the right path. I was born on June 21, 1961, at 12 AM.
Confused
Dear Confused
You are on the path that you have to follow right now and even if it doesn't necessarily take you where you think you want to go much will be gained from the experiences and challenges you encounter. It is apparent that there are some issues that have arisen over the course of the past year and a half that have left you questioning what is right for you. From what I can establish by your chart in order to make the most of your transits you should be resolving issues concerning a parent or close friend. Difficulties in areas that deal with communication and secrets have clouded the perspective of yourself as well as of others. Many changes are apparent regarding your home and family and these can be favorable if you follow your heart and do what's best for you this time. The educational area of your chart has been and still is being negatively transited and this can cause problems when it comes to accomplishing your goals. This problem is lifting this month and although you may continue to have some issues with faculty or your educational choices you should find it easier to push ahead. You are very hard on yourself you know and it's time you cut yourself a little slack. Rome wasn't built in a day; you will accomplish your goals. You have the determination, stamina and dedication that will enable you to reach the success that you are looking for.
Eugenia
