We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
You may have had these type of letters before but I really am stuck.. My heart is broken.
Approximately two years ago I fell in love with a Gemini - born on 11th June 1978 at 12pm. (I am a Cancer born on 3rd July 1979 at 6:05pm). Because I thought we were not compatible - he was too intense for me I broke it off last year. Since then he has met someone else and is now in a serious relationship with her (I don't know her statistics). Now I don't know if we were meant to be. Do Cancer and Gemini usually match. I miss him with all my heart and I always think I have made the wrong decision because I feel he is my soul mate. Is there any way you can tell? How do I re-attract a Gemini?
At Odds
Dear At Odds
You do match up well to your Gemini friend however the comparison did indicate that you probably weren't all that forthright with the way you felt about one another. He may be a Gemini but he does have his natal Venus in the sign Cancer and that means that he is sensitive, clingy and yes intense when it comes to love. You on the other hand have your natal Venus in Gemini making you far more aloof and laid back regarding such matters. One thing that often occurs with Venus in Gemini is the overwhelming feeling of wanting what you think you can't have. Please be sure before you tamper with your ex's heart again. His chart indicates that the relationship he is in currently is probably not running as smoothly as he would like. You are best to try to win back his friendship first. You are however in a high cycle regarding love and having past lovers come back into your life between late February and mid July. This can also be a good time to find a new love that can help you forget about the one you gave away. You do match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
This is my third letter to you in the last few months; I would be so grateful if you could respond, either via email or on the site. I was born on 4/14/71 at 4:41 PM. In the summer of 1997, I broke up with my long-term boyfriend (of approximately 7 years). I have been alone ever since, but for a few guys passing through. I am really feeling ready for a relationship, but it seems like the universe is against me. I rarely meet anyone, and when I do, it ends quickly. I am still connected to my ex (born 2/25/69, at 9:41 AM) although he is married now. Happily, I do not know, because he still contacts me and admits that he dreams of me. He took me out for dinner a few months ago, and didn't tell his wife. I, of course, would never do anything to harm his union, although I still love him. Does it seem like anything is on the way for me romantically? Should I sever my ties with my ex completely?
Thanks in advance, Eugenia.
Meant To Be
Dear Meant To Be
Do yourself, your ex and his wife a favor. Opt out on this one. Your comparison with your ex wasn't all that great. The fact that you went out to dinner with him is already hurting his marriage. Just think how his wife will feel if she finds out. You should tell your ex to get his life together and not to call you anymore. Chances are good that if he did come back into your life you would probably break up again. As for you, regarding relationships you appear to be a little self-deceptive about what you really want. You actually match up to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra and Aquarius. Better opportunities for love and romance will be yours next year and you are likely to meet someone through a work related event. Your ex's chart indicates that he is looking for an affair. For you to get involved in a love triangle would only result in you missing the chance to meet someone special as well as feeling terribly guilty. Remind yourself why this relationship ended. Don't be his escape because he isn't happy. Move on and refuse to engage in his deceptive plans. It takes two to tango, I urge you not to be his partner.
Eugenia
Hi! Eugenia
I have been having problems with my husband for the past three years (the amount of time we have been married). My husband is financially irresponsible and has a substance abuse problem he doesn't want to admit too. I get so frustrated when he's using drugs. I have even hit him a couple of times (which I have never done before) I get so upset to see him that way and wonder why I am with a person like him. I also just had a baby (not planned but overjoyed!). My baby has become the focus of my life and I want to give him everything. I am fed up with my husband and want to leave him but it has been really hard. He will not leave. I feel like my life is in pause because I can't achieve any of my goals. I am the sole provider of the house. He doesn't help with the bills. Will things change? I really want a better life for me & my baby. What should I do?
I was born July 26, 1973, at 7:41 PM.
Fed Up
Dear Fed Up
The fact that you didn't even mention when your husband was born leads me to believe that you have fallen out of love with this man. It's hard to get that love back when too much has gone wrong. I believe that you are asking me to make a decision for you which I can not do however I can tell you that you are going through your first Saturn return and this is a period where you reevaluate your life and make decisions to stagnate or turn things around. Your husband has a problem and unless he is willing to recognize this and do something about it there is no point wasting your time or subjecting your baby and yourself to his abuse. You must give him an ultimatum to get help and if he doesn't oblige it will be time for you to leave. If you own your house jointly and he won't leave or sign the papers to put the house up for sale you must take legal action. If you rent take your baby and get out. The little bit of cash you lose is not worth putting up with his irresponsibility. On making these comments I do however wish that you had provided me with both your husbands and your babies birth data so that I could get a total view of your situation and if your husband has the capacity to turn his life around for the sake of his family. If you believe in your heart that he doesn't than take the baby and run.
Eugenia
