We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Still Covet The Ex

Dear Eugenia,

First off I want to state that I really enjoy this web site. It's full of information, and best of all it's FREE!!! So, Thanks.Secondly, In the past year I (July 21, 1979, at 4:5; 7 PM) have had a few boyfriends (I use this word lightly) all of whom I have pushed away due to an ever persistent, lingering, thought of my ex (April 5, 1979). We have been apart over a year and even though he has moved on I can't seem to, my heart won't let me. So I continually push away every other guy that comes my way, because really, how fair is it to be with them in mind but not in heart. Things are not made any easier by this recurring dream I have that he is coming back. Though I do realize that I am not the same person I was when I knew him and in turn I am sure he is not the same person that I knew either, I can't seem to forget him. I've tried, but everything seems to remind me of him and "our time". I even went to a professional Tarot card reader and before I could even get comfortable she was telling me what he looked like (even his height), how he acted, and about our relationship together.I went to see her right after our breakup to get a grasp on what was ahead of me, but all she could talk about was how he would be coming back and that things would be better this time. Well, It's been over a year since that reading and he is nowhere in sight, but what I want to know is how do I move on? Sometimes I think I'm ready, then I'll run into him somewhere and pretend not to see him, because the thought of us having idle, meaningless conversation just kills me. Plus, at the sight of him my heart skips a beat, I can feel my face get flushed and my stomach flies away, not to mention my tongue ties in knots. After a year of being apart he still makes me feel like I did the first time I kissed him.Basically, I just want to know what to do. I can't keep pushing away every guy that comes my direction (soon I'll run out of guys). I would appreciate any thoughts or guidance you can offer.

Thinking of Him

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Dear Thinking of Him

The comparison with your Aries lover was really quite good. I believe that there is a future with him if you can only get past being afraid to talk to him. Although the timing isn't quite right I do believe that toward the last half of 2001 and the first half of 2002 you may find yourself in a relationship with him once again. For now you should try to form a friendship. Talk to him, enjoy his company when you do see him and see where it leads. You should also continue to try to meet other partners because your Aries friend isn't the only one who will match up well to you. Your chart indicates that you will be in a high cycle for love over the next few years and it is important to get out enjoy yourself. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. By the way your Aries only had the Sun in Aries. His natal chart consists primarily of water signs, Pisces being the most influential with a touch of Cancer and Scorpio.

Eugenia

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Article: From Tuutie

Dear Eugenia,

Eight months ago I removed myself from a toxic abusive relationship, and put myself slowly onto the road to recovery. I got a new apartment alone, and started a business by myself. I am 41, born October 11, 1961, at 2:32 am, and am having a very hot affair with a sexy 22 year old. It's the first satisfying coupling I've had in a long time. My x continues to call, and wants me back but I am terrified by the level of rancor we have had for each other in the past. My lover was born 7/8/80, and my x on 5/28/74.

I'm inclined to go for the new as much as possible, but I'm wondering how far it could go with us- you know, a child; togetherness. Am I fooling myself? Or should I just enjoy it as long as I am able? I'm reminded that there's no fool like an old fool. What should I do?

Thanks,
Tuutie

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Dear Tuutie

The astrological comparison with your new love was definitely the better of the two and I never have a problem with chronological age differences because it really depends on the two people involved but I do fear the fact that although the comparison was good sorrow is evident at some point. I feel certain that you can enjoy this partner for some time however if you want to have a baby, do so for the right reason and with the intention of raising your child by yourself. I believe that you will have to make a choice. You definitely shouldn't be looking back and you will have a transit coming up over the next year where past partners will surface, however this very same transit will also bring about new potential partners and I would advice that you move in that direction should you be serious about marriage, family, children and longevity of the union. If you choose to stay with your current partner be aware that although this relationship does have some staying power it will eventually end and it will probably be do to children.

Eugenia

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Article: So Low

Dear Eugenia

I visit your site everyday. I am now suffering both physically and mentally. Financially, I'm almost living in the poorhouse. My health is getting worse and worse. I am so down that I wonder whether I should continue to live or not. Furthermore, the person whom I love has left me. She has deeply fallen in love with someone else. This almost killed me. We have a young kid but she seems not to care about our child. I don't know whether I should wait for her or let her go. My future seems so dark. I have no confidence. I can't talk to any one about my personal problems. However, while I am writing to you, I feel much better. Even though my wife has left me, I still love her deeply. Will my financial status improve this year? I'd like to hear your advice, Eugenia. It'd be really great if you reply this letter. I was born 1963.07.18, 7 pm., my wife was born 1976.6.11, 6 am, and our daughter was born 1998.10.09, 5am.

Distraught

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Dear Distraught

I understand your concern. The comparison between you and your ex-wife was adequate however that may not be enough to win her back if she has met someone who matches up to her much better. I believe that she has been and continues to go through a very confusing time. I feel that her comparison with your daughter shows promise, love and caring. Her chart indicates that secret affairs and emotional confusion coupled with erratic behavior have caused her to make such a huge change in her life. I believe that you are a very sensitive, caring and loving individual who fell in love with the wrong person. Your chart indicates that you will be moving into a high romantic cycle during the second half of this year and the first half of next. This can mean that your ex-wife tries to come back into your life or it can mean that you will meet someone who is much better for you and who you will love much more than your ex-wife. I believe that you should be with someone born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn or Pisces. Your attraction toward Gemini females is evident however these women are best kept as social acquaintances or friends, not lovers. You should never share joint finances with people born under the signs Gemini, Virgo or Sagittarius. You should consider getting legal matters out of the way during the second half of this year. Give her until August and at that point tie up any loose ends that you may have with her. You match up well to your daughter also but I believe that she may be better off with your ex-wife. Your daughters chart is good however she tends to be more like her mother. It's time for you to put yourself first and get on with your life. The work and money area of your chart will improve if you focus on your professional goals. Lately it has been your extreme depression and loss that has clouded your progress. Concentrate on getting ahead. After all the sweetest revenge is your own success and right now you are the only one holding you back.

Eugenia

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