We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
First off I want to state that I really enjoy this web site. It's full of information, and best of all it's FREE!!! So, Thanks.Secondly, In the past year I (July 21, 1979, at 4:5; 7 PM) have had a few boyfriends (I use this word lightly) all of whom I have pushed away due to an ever persistent, lingering, thought of my ex (April 5, 1979). We have been apart over a year and even though he has moved on I can't seem to, my heart won't let me. So I continually push away every other guy that comes my way, because really, how fair is it to be with them in mind but not in heart. Things are not made any easier by this recurring dream I have that he is coming back. Though I do realize that I am not the same person I was when I knew him and in turn I am sure he is not the same person that I knew either, I can't seem to forget him. I've tried, but everything seems to remind me of him and "our time". I even went to a professional Tarot card reader and before I could even get comfortable she was telling me what he looked like (even his height), how he acted, and about our relationship together.I went to see her right after our breakup to get a grasp on what was ahead of me, but all she could talk about was how he would be coming back and that things would be better this time. Well, It's been over a year since that reading and he is nowhere in sight, but what I want to know is how do I move on? Sometimes I think I'm ready, then I'll run into him somewhere and pretend not to see him, because the thought of us having idle, meaningless conversation just kills me. Plus, at the sight of him my heart skips a beat, I can feel my face get flushed and my stomach flies away, not to mention my tongue ties in knots. After a year of being apart he still makes me feel like I did the first time I kissed him.Basically, I just want to know what to do. I can't keep pushing away every guy that comes my direction (soon I'll run out of guys). I would appreciate any thoughts or guidance you can offer.
Thinking of Him
Dear Thinking of Him
The comparison with your Aries lover was really quite good. I believe that there is a future with him if you can only get past being afraid to talk to him. Although the timing isn't quite right I do believe that toward the last half of 2001 and the first half of 2002 you may find yourself in a relationship with him once again. For now you should try to form a friendship. Talk to him, enjoy his company when you do see him and see where it leads. You should also continue to try to meet other partners because your Aries friend isn't the only one who will match up well to you. Your chart indicates that you will be in a high cycle for love over the next few years and it is important to get out enjoy yourself. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Gemini, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. By the way your Aries only had the Sun in Aries. His natal chart consists primarily of water signs, Pisces being the most influential with a touch of Cancer and Scorpio.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am a 43-year-old woman born February 24, 1957, at 3:45 AM, and my parent's are still trying to tell me how to run my life. They broke up my last marriage of 13 years, Now I am remarried again, and they don't like the husband I have now. They have a lot of money they inherited, and they hang this over my head all the time. Saying if you don't do what we say we will take you out of our will. I think they are being so foolish, they act like children. I am very happy with the marriage I have now, but afraid they will try to break us up also. Why do they act this way? Should I stay away from them? Why do they want so much control? They have never helped me in anyway I have always taken care of my children and myself. So what's the deal?
Controlling Parents
Dear Controlling Parents
You didn't submit your parents or your husbands birth data so I will have to base my answer on your chart alone. From what I can see you are an independent person who should not be in this position. Others can only control you if you allow it to happen. Tell your parents that you don't care about the money, instead you care about your immediate family and you wish that they would accept you and your loved ones for who you are. Unfortunately, it is not up to you to make the adjustment so you will have to leave it in their hands to do so. Until that time keep your distance.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am in love with a guy that 'fired' me and dumped me all in the same day. He was attempting to teach me how to drive as a trucker. We remained friends for 2 weeks. I am trying to get into a truck driving school, I asked him if I could borrow one of his vehicles, the school is out of state and I have no vehicle of my own. He is so boiling mad and fuming that I even asked that question! He is not my friend anymore, he says, that I was using him, which I was not. But yet, he would like to know how I am doing in school, and also said that he is still quite fond of me. He will not even consider any kind of friendship with me until after he is over being mad at me. He wants no contact from me, but said to email him or call him when I am in school. He said that after I am in school, we would take it from there. Am I getting mixed signals or what? We were together for 5 weeks on the road; not understanding how you can fire someone you weren't even paying.....I have no idea how long it will take him to get over being mad at me; or if there is a chance of winning back his friendship. I was born on 6/22/60 at 10:32 am. He was born 9/8/61. Do I hold any hope of ever regaining his friendship and maybe a relationship again? Thank you.
Please Respond
Trucker
Dear Trucker
The comparison certainly had some hot connections. It is apparent that emotionally and physically you do hook up but mentally there will be problems. Arguments and misunderstandings can be expected. I believe that this could turn out to be one of those love/hate relationships where you can't live with or without the other person. Back up, slow down and start all over. When you finish your trucker's course contact him and try to keep everything open, honest and amiable. If you can do so you may stand a chance at making this one work. If you find that it's just too difficult don't despair. You will be in a high cycle for love next summer. You match up well to those born under the signs Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
