We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.
For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I (6 July 69, 2.40am) am the last of many siblings to leave home. I was 28 years old and realized I had to create some kind of independent life for myself. Though I love my mother (19 Dec 25) very much, we do not get along well for long periods, I've endured a lot of very hurtful criticism from her, but never retaliating out of respect. I left partly because I just couldn't take it anymore. I feel a lot of guilt and shame in even admitting this because your mother should be on a pedestal. I have a lot of problems trusting because I feel that if the closest person to me can wound me so much, then strangers may be even worse! Though I have stable platonic relationships, my romantic ones have been very sporadic and short lived (9 months is the longest). My past boyfriends either tried to treat me like their mother (23 Oct 66) or like a child (12 Dec 59). I got out cause I felt the walls were closing in and I couldn't be myself. My one true love (6 May 61) is now married to someone else. Is there any luck for me in the next few years and what signs should I look out for?
lover in a rut
Dear lover in a rut
It's a good thing that you are finally moving on and out of your parental home. Once you are away from the negativity you will begin to have more confidence in yourself and in others. You were born with Venus opposite Neptune in your natal chart and this can cause some sorrow or difficulties for you where relationships are concerned. You should be checking out the compatibility astrologically between yourself and whomever you fancy before you become too intimate. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Pisces. Your chart indicates that you do not have a hard time meeting potential partners but you do make it difficult for the people you meet to get too close to you. Once you learn to open up a little you will find yourself enjoying the company of others. If you don't allow your partner to treat you like a child or a mother it will be hard for him to do so. Be strong, take control and most of all check every potential lover out through my compatibility feature.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I just met this really wonderful girl. She makes me feel really happy when I am around her. This past Friday night we went on our very first date where we were actually alone. We went for dinner and a movie. I haven't felt this way around a girl since my last girlfriend. We broke up about one year ago. Before that we were together for six years. Anyways I just wanted to know if you think that this is the girl for me. I was born November 14, 1982 at 7:47 am and she was born March 12, 1980.
Thank you.
Jason
Dear Jason
I find it hard to believe that you could possibly match up to your last girlfriend as well as you do to your Pisces friend. This is a match made in heaven barring a few minor exceptions, those being the fact that you are both still very young and that she is going through so many changes right now. Without her time of birth I can't tell you where these changes will take place but sometimes it can cause a sudden change of heart if it falls in the personal area of a chart or it can cause jumping from one job to another if it falls in a professional area. This can only be determined by her time of birth. I do believe however that if you compromise, keep things light and you build a solid and strong friendship that a passionate and long lasting relationship can and will follow.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I got to know your site from a book. I hate my life and I scold myself sometimes. I'm a father of one family, whose life can't be described as smooth-going. People say I'm smart. Maybe I'm showing off but I don't think I'm a loser either. However, if you look at what has happened to me, it feels like Murphy's Law. It goes the opposite of what I have planned. If it were my own fault, I wouldn't blame anyone. But, it's not...For example, there are always some unexpected things in business. Someone makes a mistake while I am always the one who gets the blame and has to be responsible. Thus, I'm very careful at work and I make sure not to make mistakes. But, well, things always go wrong. Now, I'm afraid of starting new things. One day, I went to a temple with my colleagues. I was extremely tired when I got there because I had to drive for hours. One monk there looked at how tired I was and he told me, I'll have bad fortune since I have done something bad in my previous life (destiny). He said I need to help others in order to pay back what I have done badly. However, I was busy so. I came back to Seoul and started a new business. What he said was right. Nothing worked out. I don't know what I have done in my previous life. That's why I'd like to know what it was. How should I accept this daily routine then? I'm writing to you since my life is a continuation of failures. If there is a way to help me, I hope I'll get the help.... I was born January 13, 1962, at 1:30 AM.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
I don't believe that you are failing because of something you did, however I do believe that your timing has been off. Your chart indicates that you have been going through very changeable times and that you have not had the most honest and forthright people around you. When you are blamed it probably isn't your fault. You are not a person who should go into business partnerships and the type of work you choose to do should be dealing with public relations, sales, business, travel, computers, communications, teaching and so on. I do agree with what the Monk said regarding the fact that you should be helping others but so should everyone else who is capable. You are coming into a much higher cycle regarding your home, family and personal investments however if you don't do something in order to make the changes that are necessary you will once again be off on your timing. February, April and May will be very important months for you to make simple, safe and secure changes, not drastic alterations. The key will be to build a solid base by taking tiny steps that will result in added confidence as well as lead to the success you're looking for. Remember Rome wasn't built in a day.
Eugenia
