We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Feelings of Guilt

Dear Eugenia,

I (6 July 69, 2.40am) am the last of many siblings to leave home. I was 28 years old and realized I had to create some kind of independent life for myself. Though I love my mother (19 Dec 25) very much, we do not get along well for long periods, I've endured a lot of very hurtful criticism from her, but never retaliating out of respect. I left partly because I just couldn't take it anymore. I feel a lot of guilt and shame in even admitting this because your mother should be on a pedestal. I have a lot of problems trusting because I feel that if the closest person to me can wound me so much, then strangers may be even worse! Though I have stable platonic relationships, my romantic ones have been very sporadic and short lived (9 months is the longest). My past boyfriends either tried to treat me like their mother (23 Oct 66) or like a child (12 Dec 59). I got out cause I felt the walls were closing in and I couldn't be myself. My one true love (6 May 61) is now married to someone else. Is there any luck for me in the next few years and what signs should I look out for?

lover in a rut

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Dear lover in a rut

It's a good thing that you are finally moving on and out of your parental home. Once you are away from the negativity you will begin to have more confidence in yourself and in others. You were born with Venus opposite Neptune in your natal chart and this can cause some sorrow or difficulties for you where relationships are concerned. You should be checking out the compatibility astrologically between yourself and whomever you fancy before you become too intimate. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio and Pisces. Your chart indicates that you do not have a hard time meeting potential partners but you do make it difficult for the people you meet to get too close to you. Once you learn to open up a little you will find yourself enjoying the company of others. If you don't allow your partner to treat you like a child or a mother it will be hard for him to do so. Be strong, take control and most of all check every potential lover out through my compatibility feature.

Eugenia

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Article: From Lisa

Dear Eugenia,

I was born on May 7 1967 at 3.30pm.
I am 35 years old and have been a working single parent of 4 children for the past 18 months. I have come to the stage in my life where I now have to work out what to do in terms of either re-educating or trying to get a new job which will provide a better income for the children and I.My gut feeling is to move away from the district we are living in and to either go to Tech or find a new job. I know my children will be alright but do I have the courage and will I cope financially if I go with my instincts. I normally feel very positive but at the moment I feel swamped with all sorts of negative energy!!! Also if I move will happiness come and maybe a secure relationship? thank you for your time.

Yours faithfully.
Lisa

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Dear Lisa

Your chart indicates that opportunities for both learning and changing jobs look quite good over the course of the next year. If you could get a job that offered an apprenticeship that would work as well, or one that would send you on courses that would enable you to raise your skills as well as your earning potential. Regarding a move I really don't see that as being all that easy before the summer of next year. For now I believe that if you do move it will be difficult. If you are planning to go back to school and must move in order to do so that is probably why it your chart indicates that the year ahead will be a tedious time for you. I would suggest that you try to pick up additional skills through night school or the other options I suggested so that you can continue to hold down a job and support your family. As for a relationship I believe you may meet someone if you move, travel or through educational pursuits. Keep your eyes opened as there are potential partners in the offing.

Eugenia

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Article: From Mournful

Dear Eugenia,

I've written you numerous times in the past and didn't get a response. I hope you'd be able to help me this time. I did romantic compatibility charts between myself and a guy named "B" (under my log-in name and under his), so that I can see the difference between how we perceive each other.

In his chart, in the "Secrets/Illnesses" section, it says, "Be careful; this could be your undoing. Secret affairs, confusion, and love triangles could lead to a broken heart." The percentage was 50% relevance.

The interpretation wasn't too clear and I'd like some clarity. Who's broken heart? Mine or his? Who will be in the secret affairs and love triangles? Me or him?

This part of the romance compatibility has brought me much unhappiness. Some of it is true, which is why I am unhappy. I'd like to hear your response and receive some clarification on this prediction. The interpretation in the astroadvice romantic compatibility wasn't too clear.

His birth data: 8/23/1979, 11:57 AM
My birth data: 11/05/1980, 4:15 PM
Thank you for your time and assistance,
Mournful

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Dear Mournful

You are overreacting. The 50% relevance is not very high. The reason for it is that you have a planet in your twelfth house and several of his planets fall in your twelfth house as well. This is an area that deals with secrets, hidden matters, illness etc. Your twelfth house however is very well aspected therefore it is remote that these occurrences will take place in a negative fashion. Any problems that you might have experienced over the past year would have been due to transiting Jupiter adversely hitting that area of your chart. Not only would this cause some little problems in these areas but also it would have caused confusion, overreacting and misunderstandings. Your comparison is in my estimation quite good. If you take things slowly and let your relationship continue to grow things should be just fine however if you decide to become jealous and overreact your relationship will probably deteriorate.

Eugenia

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