We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have written to you a few times. I hope you can tell me what to do. I lost my mom on Nov. 13, 2000. I am very lost and lonely. I don't want to do anything but sleep. I have lived with my 3 year-olds father for 4 years. We don't get along very well. He is drinking a lot and also thinks I should be over the death of my mom already. He has two healthy parents, so he doesn't know what it is like. My dad was only given 1 to 3 months to live last week, because of cancer. My boyfriend (if that is what you call him) says I can pull myself out of this or die right along with them. He is no support to me. I know he is seeing someone else, but at this point I don't care. I just need some advice on what to do with the way I feel about life. I was born May 26, 1963, at 12 PM.
LOST AND LONELY IN DEPUE!
Dear LOST AND LONELY IN DEPUE!
I can tell by the transits moving through your personal houses in your chart that you are at a turning point in your life regarding your partner. I feel that it is time to start thinking about the best way to make yours and your child's life better. You did not submit the birth data of either your child or the man you're living with therefore I can not explain his lack of support. My guess is that he can't face death himself therefore he is not able to justify the kind of loss that you are experiencing. It hasn't been very long since your mother died and with your father in the shape that he is in it must be extremely painful for you. You do however for the sake of your child have to handle your situation bravely. You should probably consider making a move in a positive direction (possibly away from your boyfriend) late spring or you should start talking to him about his insensitivity and telling him you need greater support and love if he expects you and your child to stay with him. Your depression and grieving you are experiencing will end but for now it is what you need in order to get through this most difficult period in your life. You were born with your natal Moon in the sign Cancer and this makes it very hard for you to let go when it comes to family members who are so dear to you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am in a long distance relationship with a man 5 hours from me (Oct. 24, 1979) and I am wondering how we can make it work or if it really could work since I don't have the time (nor money) to waste on unworthy causes.
I feel very strongly about him. We've met twice & the first time we were both out of sorts. Last time we had a great time! I've never had an online relationship but I do understand that a lot of work is involved. Commitment, sacrifices & compromising are the top 3 things I can think of. I'm afraid that I won't be able to provide my part of the bargain as well as he could. I'm afraid that after some time we'll be too tired to continue this relationship & feel that we have -really- wasted our time & money. I haven't been able to find someone as compatible with me as he in my own town. I've been single for over a year now. I'm afraid I might only be interested in him because he's interested in me too, just because I've been single for so long (I don't think that's very truthful though).
The only way that an online relationship can work is if both partners plan on being together down the line. We're not dating yet but we both want to move back to BC in the near future. I have so many fears. What about my education? My career? What if we're only compatible with distance between us, & then we rip each other to shreds once we're together-together? ARGH!!
Could you offer me a bit of astrological advice? I do know that all but 2 of his & my astro houses are located under the same sign. Any words of wisdom would be really appreciated!
Wrapped up
Dear Wrapped up
The comparison was okay. Keep in mind that in order to have a relationship work it takes work. People always think that if they fall in love that's all it takes but unfortunately a relationship probably takes more time, effort and work then anything else you do in life. I believe that he is someone who can help you achieve some of your dreams, hopes and wishes, however that doesn't mean that you will end up together forever. More so than having a long term or everlasting union a relationship should be based on how much you learn from one another, enjoy one another and compliment one another. You have time to kill right now as the next time you are in a really high cycle for love is next year. As for now you should be enjoying whatever time you do get to spend with one another. Just because you live a distance doesn't mean that you can't do things on the cheap. You'd probably spend just as much cash staying at home as you would staying at his place or vise versa. If you really enjoy one another's company you'll find ways to spend more time together while you discover each other's likes, dislikes, needs and desires. Don't be impatient love and relationships take time.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I need some advice about the direction of my life. I graduated last year and am currently studying for my Masters. However, it is not in the subject I wish to continue in. I feel stuck and as if I have nowhere to go after I finish it, don't want to do any of the jobs I will be qualified for. I am seriously considering going back to studying again next year and hope I will be able to get to where I want to be by doing this. This path is long and by no means certain and I don't know whether to take this chance or to try to apply for jobs I don't really want to do, I feel I would be unhappy. Also I am concerned that my indecision and my continued studying would ruin my chances of happiness with the man I want to be with. Maybe I should just follow him and see what happens for me there? His date of birth is 26/09/1977, I have no time and mine is 16/05/1978, around 7.29 am. Or should I move back to Ireland to my family? I don't think I would be content doing that but I really don't know anymore! Help please Eugenia!!
a confused Taurus!
Dear confused Taurus!
Your chart indicates that you should be studying for at least another three years and possibly longer depending on what it is you are going to school to learn. Whatever educational studies you have completed will never be wasted even if you don?t decide to pursue a career in that field at this time. It is said that the next generation coming into the workforce will have up to five, maybe even more different careers throughout their lifetime. For you to stay in school and gain more knowledge and experience can only help you in the long run, especially if you?re willing to put in the hours and hard work required.
Regarding moving home with your parents, only if it means that it will be easier for you to pursue the subjects that you want to take. You have the planet Neptune transiting through an area of your chart that deals with higher education and this can cause one of two things or possibly both. You will be confused about your educational pursuits, which you are already. You will want to go into a field that is creative or that deals with philosophy, religion etc. If this is the case you may find yourself in this state for the better part of the next eight years. Don?t limit yourself so that you look back on your life when you are old and say could of, would of, should of. You are young and you?ve got your whole life ahead of you and it?s a perfect time to learn all that you can in order to ensure that you will have a successful future.
As for the boyfriend, well the comparison was okay except for the confusion and possible deception at an emotional and intellectual level. I don?t know that I would follow him, unless you will be able to continue your studies at the same time and get the support you need from him to do so. Opportunities for love and romance will be in high gear next year so don?t worry about being on your own for a while. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
