We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: A Monk Once Told Me...

Hi Eugenia,

I got to know your site from a book. I hate my life and I scold myself sometimes. I'm a father of one family, whose life can't be described as smooth-going. People say I'm smart. Maybe I'm showing off but I don't think I'm a loser either. However, if you look at what has happened to me, it feels like Murphy's Law. It goes the opposite of what I have planned. If it were my own fault, I wouldn't blame anyone. But, it's not...For example, there are always some unexpected things in business. Someone makes a mistake while I am always the one who gets the blame and has to be responsible. Thus, I'm very careful at work and I make sure not to make mistakes. But, well, things always go wrong. Now, I'm afraid of starting new things. One day, I went to a temple with my colleagues. I was extremely tired when I got there because I had to drive for hours. One monk there looked at how tired I was and he told me, I'll have bad fortune since I have done something bad in my previous life (destiny). He said I need to help others in order to pay back what I have done badly. However, I was busy so. I came back to Seoul and started a new business. What he said was right. Nothing worked out. I don't know what I have done in my previous life. That's why I'd like to know what it was. How should I accept this daily routine then? I'm writing to you since my life is a continuation of failures. If there is a way to help me, I hope I'll get the help.... I was born January 13, 1962, at 1:30 AM.

Desperate

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Dear Desperate

I don't believe that you are failing because of something you did, however I do believe that your timing has been off. Your chart indicates that you have been going through very changeable times and that you have not had the most honest and forthright people around you. When you are blamed it probably isn't your fault. You are not a person who should go into business partnerships and the type of work you choose to do should be dealing with public relations, sales, business, travel, computers, communications, teaching and so on. I do agree with what the Monk said regarding the fact that you should be helping others but so should everyone else who is capable. You are coming into a much higher cycle regarding your home, family and personal investments however if you don't do something in order to make the changes that are necessary you will once again be off on your timing. February, April and May will be very important months for you to make simple, safe and secure changes, not drastic alterations. The key will be to build a solid base by taking tiny steps that will result in added confidence as well as lead to the success you're looking for. Remember Rome wasn't built in a day.

Eugenia

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Article: Learning to Communicate from a Distance

Dear Eugenia,

I have become a member of your web site since Feb. this year. I really appreciate your web site. It helps me answer many of my questions.Now, I am facing a very difficult situation with my husband. We had been dating for almost 4 years before we got married. During dating, I discovered that he had not been faithful to me. But we still got married later on.We got married Feb. 2000 and shortly after, I got a job offer far away from where we live, so I had to move. My husband and I try to meet each other every weekend, either he comes to visit me or I go back home. We have been doing this since Feb. Recently, I feel myself not trusting my husband. I always feel that he is not honest with me or that he doesn't care about me, love me. This feeling is driving me crazy and of course makes me angry a lot too. I am really not sure about our marriage. I am not sure whether we can keep this marriage together or not. I have tried everything. I could not communicate with him, but, a lot of time, I feel that he is just trying to cover up and not really telling me the truth! Please reply to my question and give me guidance on what can I do to save my marriage?? Thank you very much for your help! I was born in July 30, 1970 sometime around 2:00 am. My husband was born in Dec. 13, 1965.

Confuse and sad

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Dear Confuse and sad

The comparison with your husband wasn't bad however it did show signs of emotional and mental dishonesty. This could be based on several different reasons. He could be afraid of the reaction that he gets from you when you are suspicious. Your chart also indicates that you can be just as evasive or dishonest with him regarding some matters. You say that you can't communicate and unfortunately that is what it will take in order to get past all this confusion. You must sit down and talk about your needs, desires and future intentions before you can move forward. This relationship can work but it will take an effort on both your part and his. His chart does show that he can be charming as well as a bit of a flirt, but that doesn't mean that he will follow through. Right now he does have transiting Neptune sitting on his natal Venus and that can cause sorrow for him along with escapism, indulgence and yes even poor choices regarding love and romance. If he is lonely he may seek comfort with someone who is closer to home during this period but if he is a creative person he may also put this energy into artsy projects. Most important is that you sit down and communicate openly and honestly if you really want your relationship to withstand the distance between you. Your chart indicates that making a move back home or having him come to live with you permanently is a possibility in the fall. If you really love one another I would suggest that you strive to make this happen.

Eugenia

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Article: The Corporate Ladder

Dear Eugenia,

I would like to seek your advice on an issue that makes me upset. I love my superior at work for the past two years. It is a one-sided love affair. I tried to tell him that I loved him and he didn?t reject me. But I still wonder if he loves me or not. Sometimes, he shows his affection toward me, but sometimes he is also flirtatious with other girls. Since we are working in the same department, we meet each other everyday. I feel pain in my heart. I don?t know if I should continue to wait for him, or should I give up? Please give me a suggestion.

My birthday: October 26, 1967, at 9 AM

His birthday: December 16, 1963

Thanks,
Pain in my heart

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Dear Pain in my heart

Your comparison with the gentleman in question was pretty good however there was an element of deception that could cause some problems for you in the work area. As a rule it is much better not to get involved with colleagues, especially those who could make it difficult for you or even worse cause you to lose your job. This man is a Sagittarius by Sun Sign and this is usually an indication of confirmed bachelorhood. This particular man however does have his natal Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars in the sign Capricorn and although this sign can be loyal and dedicated they can also be players. You must be careful not to let yourself get carried away to the point that you jeopardize your position. The transits you will experience in an area of your chart that represents your position in society will be adversely aspected this summer as well as next year and it will be important that you don?t put yourself in a precarious position at work. Regarding love your chart indicates that you will have plenty of opportunities to meet new partners. Therefore, I suggest that you join groups or clubs in your community that interest you. That way you are likely to meet like-minded people who will not interfere with your work.

Eugenia

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