We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.

I want to stress how important it is to submit complete and accurate birth data – the time and place of birth.

The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Changing His Ways

Dear Eugenia:

I am in a dilemma right now my best friend has gotten into some trouble with the law, he was in the wrong place at the wrong time. He is going through a tough time being locked up, we have been the best of friends for over 3 years and in the beginning of our friendship we started out in a romantic relationship. Well a lot happened and I guess you could say it wasn't our time, but we continued to develop a strong friendship bond which nothing could destroy, and since he has been locked up I have been to visit him twice. His charge is nothing really major so he won't be in jail long but over the last 16 days in jail he said that his eyes have opened up to so much and he sees things so clearly. He has seen his faults and he is going to change he says that I am all he thinks about and he knows that I am really the only one that has always been there for him and I have stood by him through everything. He asks me if I am going to wait for him. He keeps making remarks about me, him and us, and getting back what we once had. He knows how strongly I feel for him and that I would do anything for him. I would give anything to have back what we once had. My question is should I take him and everything he has said seriously or should I just take it as "Jail talk"

I was born September 9, 1971, at 7 PM.

Confused

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Dear Confused

You didn't submit your best friends birth data so I really can't tell you where he's coming from but I do know by your chart that this is not the best time for relationships. That confusion is definitely in an area of your chart that deals with your personal life. You are coming into your Saturn return next year and this will be a period in your life that you reevaluate what you have done up until this point. It is a time of change, turning things around, getting ready to move into your next stage of life. You have time right now to wait and see how sincere your friend is but don't fool yourself. He is lonely and although he means what he is saying right now it may be a different story when he gets out of jail. Protect your heart and wait and see. There is nothing wrong with friendship for the time being. After all you will build a much stronger relationship if you are friends first. Stand by him as a friend for now and run a comparison on my site to see how well you match up to him and also to check out his personal profile. If you see much deception or ability to smooth talk in his profile you will know that he is just giving you jail talk. You match up to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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Article: No Permanent Plague

Dear Eugenia

How come every time I meet someone, it always has a bad ending...I have been seeing a lot of different people up until now, but it is always me who gets hurt, not me hurting others...And a lot of them were not very nice to me. I was always nice to them...maybe that's why everything has always gone this way.. Now it is not easy to see someone again... Thus, I'm afraid of hanging out with a guy even though he is nice...I'm afraid of the endings being bad...Why is this? When can I meet the right person? I was born on Oct 27, 1978, at 5:30-6:00 PM...Is this too common story?

Want to be loved

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Dear Want to be loved

I'm not surprised that you have experienced some difficult love situations over the past several years considering your chart has and does show confusion, deception and having trouble choosing the right partners. This will continue to plague you a while longer however that doesn't mean that you can't go out and meet potential partners. My suggestion is that you only look for friendship at first and that you develop your relationship with the next partner slowly. There is much to be said about being friends before you become lovers. As we move into the final quarter of next year and throughout 2002 you will be in a high cycle for love, romance and marriage and this is when you can move toward becoming more than just friends. What this means is that between now and that time you should go out socially with friends, meet new people and discover what qualities you really want your life long partner to have. Your chart indicates that you match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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Article: From Undecided

Dear Eugenia,

I am a Pisces who doesn't know which way to swim. I am married to a Taurus DoB 05.16.59, but have just become involved with an old boyfriend who sought me out at a very vulnerable time in my life. I truly have the strongest feelings I've ever had for a man for him. He's an Aries DoB 04.10.59. We both feel that our reunion was definitely fated....meant to be, but he is also married to a much older Aquarian. I would truly value your opinion here as to whether this new relationship has a future, or should I try (once again) to prop up my failing marriage? I was born March 19, 1959, at 10:50 PM.

Undecided

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Dear Undecided

I can understand why you are having such a difficult time with your situation. You match up to both men very well however the comparison with your current husband does indicate deception and some sorrow. This is probably due to the fact that you are in a sense mentally keeping information from him regarding your status with your old boyfriend. You didn't mention if there are any children involved, as I do believe that this should make a difference to your decision. You have been experiencing depression and difficulties with your relationship for the past three years while transiting Saturn passed through an area of your chart that deals with your marital relationship. This is still in effect and will be until late June. I therefore urge you to refrain from making your decision until after that time. Should you decide to make your move and I believe you will I do not feel that it will make your life instantly better. In fact I believe that you have been erratic since the spring of this year and I do not feel that this will change much until mid next year. Transiting Uranus has been and continues to play havoc with your personal life, your feelings and a change of heart will continue confuse you. If you do have children with your husband and they are still living at home or young I believe you should think carefully about what you are about to do. If your children are older or you didn't have any I believe that you will not be satisfied until you separate and spend some time with your old boyfriend. All that being said I also urge you not to jump into an intimate situation with your old boyfriend unless he too has left his current situation. It is the only way to give your new relationship with one another a fair chance as well as being fair with your ex's.

Eugenia

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