We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I was born on April 4, 1986, at 8:30 AM. I have a great interest in astrology so I have been surfing all the related astrology sites, checking personality, romance, career, etc. However, it never matches with me. My star is Aries and it says people with Aries have leadership and they are passionate. Some of the readings are correct and similar but some of them are not. Therefore, What I like mostly to know is, does one's fate vary according to when he/she is born and zodiac signs? If yes, I'd like to know how it varies...Please will you answer my question?
Curious Aries
Dear Curious Aries
A chart is as unique and personal as your fingerprint. It is based on your day, month, year, time and place of birth. Your natal chart is derived from where the planets were situated in the sky at the precise moment and place that you were born. In your case you were born under the Sun sign Aries. However, only your natal Sun is positioned in that sign. Therefore, although you will have some characteristics of that sign they will not be strong and will probably be more recognizable in areas of your life that deal with your dreams, hopes and wishes and when you are working or contributing to worthwhile causes or dealing with acquaintances. You have Gemini rising and this will influence the way you view things. With your natal Moon in Aquarius you will be less passionate and with your Mercury and Jupiter in Pisces probably not so much a leader but more inclined to the unusual and or doing your own thing. With your natal Venus in the sign Taurus well aspected to your natal Neptune and Mars in Capricorn you will be creative but practical and will also have a greater desire to reach monetary goals. Wise investing will be a key to your future success. You have your natal Uranus and Saturn in Sagittarius in an area that deals with your partnerships both business and emotional and that means that you aren't likely to want to commit at a young age. If you do it will have to be in a relationship that does not constrict or confine you in any way if it is going to last. Your natal Pluto is in the sign Scorpio in an area of your chart that deals with work and how you will get along with your colleagues as well as matters pertaining to minor health. It is well aspected therefore you will probably do just fine as long as you enjoy what you are doing for a living. I hope this helps you understand a little bit more about how astrology works. So many times people get locked into the whole Sun Sign aspect of the subject and therefore disregard the benefits that it can offer you.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
Where to start. First of all I guess that I should tell you that I met my husband and I have been with my husband for 20 years. Married for 17. Beautiful children. I have been very unhappy for a longtime. My husband is verbally, mentally, and worst of all physically abusive. I live everyday in fear, and am always trying to make everything happy and peaceful. I am always living planning the next step of the day out to make sure that it is going to make him happy. I am the bread winner in the family, I have to take care of all of the other responsibilities to, cooking, cleaning, bills, children, laundry, and even making his phone calls for his job etc for him. I should mention that he does work as well, but that is his only responsibility. I feel like an awful person for what I am about to tell you, but I have gotten to the point of being desperate for an answer. About 9 years ago, I met our now best friend. He has always been so nice to me. He is a very patient kind person. He is also in a relationship (not married, but do live together) and has wonderful children. His partner is a very angry person and yells constantly at her children it is so sad. I am very close with his children and love them very much. I have always had feelings for him, however never had said anything. We have always sat up and talked for hours on end when he has come over. About 2 1/2 years ago we were sitting and talking and it came out that we both had feelings for each other. I have never been so shocked, I never would have guessed. He told me at the time that he didn't know what to do, as he couldn't imagine waking up and not being in the same house as his children, that they were his life, and I think that is wonderful. We seem to go in spurts of calling each other, and then periods of not calling each other. However, neither one of us seem to be able to talk about our feelings. We have kissed, and it has been truly wonderful. But I do feel very guilty. I cannot stop thinking about him, I think of him when I wake up, through the day, when I go to bed. It's driving me crazy. I wonder if you can tell me what he is thinking. What he feels for me? My birthday is October 9, 1971, his is April 18, 1977, and my husband's is September 7, 1970. If you could please offer me any insight I would be truly grateful.
Libra
Dear Libra
First of all I want to deal with your relationship with your husband. You don't have one, nor do you need him in your life. You are only teaching your children that it is okay for a man to be abusive to a woman and that in it self is wrong and should have been enough for you to move on with your kids long ago.
It appears to me the only reason you are considering doing so now is because you have someone else in your life but that is not the way to start off a good relationship. I understand why you are attracted to your friend but the comparison although superior to the one with your husband it still isn't great. It is apparent that the connection with your friend is Karmic and I believe his debt is to help you remove yourself and your children from the miserable situation you have put up with for too long however after that it will be time for you to move on and start over.
You do not need your husband so cut your losses and get on with your life. You've already wasted too much time and the damage that the kids have endured watching you being abused are probably insurmountable at this point.
Your chart indicates that you probably should have made your move last year but it's still not too late if you take action immediately. As for your love life - it will pick up during the second half of this year once you have rid yourself of the dead weight you've been living with for so many years. What were you thinking when you married this man - it is seldom I see two people stay together as long as the two of you have when you
Hi Eugenia
I participated in the Seoul Forum. It was great to see you in Seoul Forum but it was a pity that I couldn't talk to you personally. I had a lot to ask that night, about astrology and most of all, about my personal problems. That's why I'm writing to you. Please listen to my problem. I don't know whether our distance is too far away. Please help me.
I was born on Aug 17, 1976 at 4:45 am. What I'd mostly like to know is about love. I recently broke up with my boyfriend whom I had been going out for 5 years. You had implied that we would split up in my horoscope but I wasn't ready to do so but it happened anyway. However, the problem is that I want to know if this is my fate, should I let him go. I thought I could get over him but my heart says no. Are we really over? What can I do to get him back? What should I do if I have to forget him? Please help me. I don't have the confidence to live alone, without him. I can't imagine him being happy without me. I even have thought about death.
Please tell me what I should do. If there is a way, how long do I have to wait and what should I do? Please tell me how I can see him again. Or at least the way I can make him think of me. If our fate is over,...no ...you know I don't want that. Please give me advice..... Wish you happiness and hope you give can give me some hope. It is a blessing that you have the ability to help others. I'll pray for you while I wait your reply.
Upset and Emotional
Dear Upset and Emotional
It would have helped me considerably if you had mentioned your boyfriends birth date. Looking at your chart I can tell you however that there is a lot of deception, disillusionment and uncertainty moving through an area of your chart that deals with your personal relationship. I believe that it is possible between now and the middle of next summer to rekindle the flame with your ex if that is what you want to do. I would first however ask you to run a compatibility check on my astroeast.com web site in order to be sure that he is the one for you. If your comparison is not great I suggest that you get out and start meeting new partners that will be better for you. Over the course of the next ten months you will be in a high cycle for love and romance and if you stay at home crying over this man you will miss the opportunity to meet someone who you could potentially love even more. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
