We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From Aquarius

Hi Eugenia

I've been dating/seeing three women. I've been intimately with only one (I'll call her #3) of them and that is basically all I wanted from her. When I decided in my mind to stop having relations with her and pursue a serious relationship with #2 #3 tells me she is pregnant. We've had protected sex every time (at least 8 occasions) except for a few minutes on one occasion. #3 tells me she hasn't been w/ anyone else other than me. I've made mistakes and bad choices in my 30 years to last me a lifetime. I don't want to bring a child into this world under these circumstances. I wanted to married and have a planned pregnancy w/ my wife. I don't plan on pursuing a serious relation w/ #3 and I'm not going to sell myself short by doing so. #3 took a home pregnancy test in my presence, but I don't know if this child is mine or not. Her D.O.B. is 5/14/79. Please help Eugenia, thank you :)

Aquarius

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Hi Aquarius

This is truly an unfortunate set of circumstances to be in, even more so because you actually match up quite nicely to this woman astrologically. I feel you owe it to yourself as well as to her to be completely honest and tell her that your intentions are to not marry her or to be involved in this child's life should she decide to have the baby. This may sound cruel but there are enough youngsters already living in an unhappy environment because of the stupidity of parents who choose to not get along or shouldn't be together for one reason or another. Although the ideal situation is always to have two loving parents it is still better to have one loving parent instead of two who are not in love or care about one another. I would need to know when she became pregnant in order to determine whether or not you are the father but even that information can be misleading. Your chart indicates that you probably are however if she should decide to keep the baby you should probably have a DNA test done. You should have submitted candidate #2 so that I could have determined whether or not you even match up to her as well as you do to #3. As I mentioned already you do match up to #3 quite well and it is unfortunate that you used this girl for sexual reasons. I feel that she really does believe that you are the one for her.

Eugenia

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Article: From Tuutie

Dear Eugenia,

Eight months ago I removed myself from a toxic abusive relationship, and put myself slowly onto the road to recovery. I got a new apartment alone, and started a business by myself. I am 41, born October 11, 1961, at 2:32 am, and am having a very hot affair with a sexy 22 year old. It's the first satisfying coupling I've had in a long time. My x continues to call, and wants me back but I am terrified by the level of rancor we have had for each other in the past. My lover was born 7/8/80, and my x on 5/28/74.

I'm inclined to go for the new as much as possible, but I'm wondering how far it could go with us- you know, a child; togetherness. Am I fooling myself? Or should I just enjoy it as long as I am able? I'm reminded that there's no fool like an old fool. What should I do?

Thanks,
Tuutie

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Dear Tuutie

The astrological comparison with your new love was definitely the better of the two and I never have a problem with chronological age differences because it really depends on the two people involved but I do fear the fact that although the comparison was good sorrow is evident at some point. I feel certain that you can enjoy this partner for some time however if you want to have a baby, do so for the right reason and with the intention of raising your child by yourself. I believe that you will have to make a choice. You definitely shouldn't be looking back and you will have a transit coming up over the next year where past partners will surface, however this very same transit will also bring about new potential partners and I would advice that you move in that direction should you be serious about marriage, family, children and longevity of the union. If you choose to stay with your current partner be aware that although this relationship does have some staying power it will eventually end and it will probably be do to children.

Eugenia

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Article: Lay Down the Law

Dear Eugenia

Hi, I came across your site from newspaper and I often look at my daily horoscope. I'm not sure whether I can consult this kind of personal problems and I don't know whether Eugenia really reads this letter...but I'm still write to you. I'm a divorced woman living with my daughter and my mom.

I'm suffering from the financial burden that was created by my ex-husband. I borrowed money from my friends when I married with him. I borrowed the money because of him, but he is unable to return the money. Now we are divorced, but I still need to pay the money back. His parents are financially ok so I went to ask for their help. But it is useless. They don't want to help. What should I do? How can I get out from this burden? Please give me some suggestions... I was born October 1, 1967, at 2:30 PM.

Caught in a Mess

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Dear Caught in a Mess

I read all the letters I receive and although I wish that I could answer each and every one of them it is of course impossible. As for you it's time to move forward and take action. This ex-husband of yours owes you more than just the money he asked you to borrow from your friends. If he is the father of your child he should also be helping you with the financial burden of raising his daughter. I suggest that you go back to his family and lay down the law. Tell them that you will take legal action if necessary in order to clear up this financial mess that their son has left you in. Your chart indicates that you could easily come into money by using legal tactics to do so between now and the spring of next year. Talk to your friends and see if you can get them to support your actions by signing a petition to the family stating your case and why they should honor their son's debt. You should also, if you know where your ex-husband is, send him the same notice so that he knows that you are now going after his family. If this man has any scruples whatsoever he will spare his family the grief of a legal suit and start paying back. You can't just sit back and let this man get away with this. I feel strongly that you can win if you are forceful, to the point and get a little legal aid.

Eugenia

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