We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia,
When I check out romance compatibility with my ex-husband it reads 91%. When I check out other possibilities, it reads only 52%. As I said the 91% was my (thankfully) Ex-husband. I am wondering why or how such decisions are arrived at. My birth info as above is Aug 10,1949 actually at the dot of Midnight, which I guess is 11:00 p.m. for your timing purposes. My Ex's birth info is Mar. 24, 1941. I don't know exact time but his mother had thought it might have been early a.m. I suspect he's got Aries rising. Another example of dates of only 50's % are Feb. 14,1968 and June 27,1946. Thanks for your interest. Thanks for the web-site and for being on The Erin Davis show. Oh, and I certainly enjoyed the Forum last summer.
Questioning
Dear Questioning
The comparison with your Aries EX was high because it was relatively well matched up mentally, physically and emotionally. Unfortunately you both went through difficult transits at the same time and that probably made you move on. Your charts indicate that you are both moving toward a huge period of mental growth over the course of the next four years and that this will be good for both of you. Although you may both experience some let downs during the process the end result will be quite good. Regarding the other two gents in your life, the Aquarius just didn't have enough planets in his natal chart that aspected your natal chart plus his natal Neptune adversely aspected your natal Mercury and this usually is an indication of deception, denial etc. It was a connection that suddenly began and ended just as suddenly. Your Cancers natal chart lacked planetary connections to your chart. He actually would have made a better brother. You know one that you don't see that often. Compatibility is the result of natal planets in both people's charts being at favorable angles to one another.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I have two babies, a 36-month-old boy and a 20-month old girl. Their father has been an addiction of mine for four years. Just when I think I have finally made it to a place in my life where I can let go of him; I am pregnant again. I am torn between continuing in this one-sided relationship for the sake of our children, who adore him, while having another baby; or not; and disconnecting from him completely. I was born 7/6/65 at 5:30 EST and he was born 1/20/63 at 8:30p.m. PST. I fear that if I don?t walk away soon, I never will; but I feel like it is better the devil you know, then the devil you don?t know. I would really appreciate some guidance. I am afraid I won?t make the best decision for my two babies. He isn?t very kind to me; he is very abusive, distrustful and threatening. It has taken a long time and a lot of distance to break down, a little, his control of my emotions and feelings of self worth. I really need some ones insight into his character strengths and weaknesses and what is in store for our future.
Please respond
Dear Please respond
I can see your dilemma. I call this set up meeting your messiah. In other words you are so connected to this man you can?t help yourself and yet he is not good for you. The comparison was quite something, filled with love, hate, passion, deception, sorrow and so on. It is apparent that when he is feeling guilty, because he has done something that he probably shouldn?t, like cheats on you, he becomes abusive to cover it up. It is important that you don?t raise your children in this setting or they will grow up thinking that this is the way people should treat one another. I do not believe that your love is one-sided but I do believe that this man is not good for you. You are coming into a period that will be even more difficult where relationships are concerned. You can use this period to take further abuse from him or you can use this period to get out on your own with your children and start a new life. Neither will be easy but the later will certainly lead to a better future for you and your children. Opportunities for you to meet someone else are apparent and I believe you should do just that. It will help you forget about your abusive partner. Your chart also indicates that you are not likely to be with just one partner throughout your life. There is also evidence in your chart that you do attract men who will try to control and confine you. I suggest that you have an astrological evaluation done prior to giving your heart to the next man you want to become intimate with. Build on friendship first and you?ll stand a better chance of developing a long lasting union. You are coming into a high cycle where work and money are concerned. I feel confident that if you put your energy into your work, your children, your new home and meeting new friends and lovers you will find that your life will unfold quite nicely as we go into the year 2001. It sometimes helps to make a list of all the reasons that you feel that you should not be with your ex. Like the things he brings out in you that you don?t like and the things he does that you can?t live with. Every time he tries to contact you or you want to contact him pull out your list and read it just to remind yourself why you left him.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia,
I got to know your site from a book. I hate my life and I scold myself sometimes. I'm a father of one family, whose life can't be described as smooth-going. People say I'm smart. Maybe I'm showing off but I don't think I'm a loser either. However, if you look at what has happened to me, it feels like Murphy's Law. It goes the opposite of what I have planned. If it were my own fault, I wouldn't blame anyone. But, it's not...For example, there are always some unexpected things in business. Someone makes a mistake while I am always the one who gets the blame and has to be responsible. Thus, I'm very careful at work and I make sure not to make mistakes. But, well, things always go wrong. Now, I'm afraid of starting new things. One day, I went to a temple with my colleagues. I was extremely tired when I got there because I had to drive for hours. One monk there looked at how tired I was and he told me, I'll have bad fortune since I have done something bad in my previous life (destiny). He said I need to help others in order to pay back what I have done badly. However, I was busy so. I came back to Seoul and started a new business. What he said was right. Nothing worked out. I don't know what I have done in my previous life. That's why I'd like to know what it was. How should I accept this daily routine then? I'm writing to you since my life is a continuation of failures. If there is a way to help me, I hope I'll get the help.... I was born January 13, 1962, at 1:30 AM.
Desperate
Dear Desperate
I don't believe that you are failing because of something you did, however I do believe that your timing has been off. Your chart indicates that you have been going through very changeable times and that you have not had the most honest and forthright people around you. When you are blamed it probably isn't your fault. You are not a person who should go into business partnerships and the type of work you choose to do should be dealing with public relations, sales, business, travel, computers, communications, teaching and so on. I do agree with what the Monk said regarding the fact that you should be helping others but so should everyone else who is capable. You are coming into a much higher cycle regarding your home, family and personal investments however if you don't do something in order to make the changes that are necessary you will once again be off on your timing. February, April and May will be very important months for you to make simple, safe and secure changes, not drastic alterations. The key will be to build a solid base by taking tiny steps that will result in added confidence as well as lead to the success you're looking for. Remember Rome wasn't built in a day.
Eugenia
