We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
I (July 28, 1961 @7am) am still in love with my son's father (born, March 29 1970). We broke up once again and this time he said we were finished. We had been trying on and off for the past nine years, but we never could get past old hurts. I feel that we aren't finished, but I am trying to move on as he did. Currently he is in a relationship that he said he was going to make work. I hear it isn't working because he still has deep feelings for me, yet he won't talk to me. When we are together there is a current of electricity that passes between us. We both want to be together but are scared of rejection, etc. I believe we deserve another chance or is it just wishful thinking. Can we make this relationship work?
Fire
Dear Fire
I do see the connection but I don't necessarily feel that it is a good one. You do have a strong pull toward one another but it is hurtful, damaging and I feel that it was strictly meant to be an affair, not a life long, live in connection. The sooner you both move on and put your differences aside your son will be able to benefit from both of you. As long as you continue this love/hate relationship your son will suffer. Your chart indicates that you are coming into a high cycle regarding love and romance. This can be a period where someone comes back into your life or a period that you meet someone entirely new. Please do not let this man back into your life during this period or you will miss the opportunity to meet someone who can be a good partner and stepfather. Unfortunately I fear that as soon as your ex discovers that you are moving on he will be back in your life big time and this will only result in further rejection. You may be willing to put up with more of the same on again off again relationship but ask yourself if it is fair to do this to your son.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
It is the first time that I am writing to you. I know you are an astrologer. Recently, I feel upset because of an emotional relationship and would like to seek your advice. I was born in January 29, 1973 at between 4:00am to 5:00am. This past August, I met a boy who was born in February 29, 1968 (I don't know his birth time). I started going out with him but lately I have found that we don't have much in common to talk about. My friends suggested that we should try to work out for a longer period. I don't what to do. Can you tell me if we are compatible? You advice is much appreciated.
Uncertain
Dear Uncertain
The comparison with your Pisces mate is actually quite favorable. In this case your friends are giving you some good advice to hang in and see where it goes. Unfortunately I feel that you probably just aren't ready to get involved right now. Consider talking to him and telling him that for now you just want to be friends. Possibly if you let your friendship grow you may find that you have more in common. I think that he is probably holding back for fear that you won't like him. Your chart indicates that he is already in a high cycle regarding love and romantic relationships and that your chart will not come into this cycle until the second half of next year. If you decide not to give this young man a chance you should keep in mind that you do match up to his sign as well as to the signs Taurus, Cancer and Virgo as well.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
My name is Wanda and this is my situation. I am married with two kids. I have been married for one year and eight months. After four months of being married my husband was with another girl. I know this because I came home and I found hickeys on his neck and I went in my bedroom and found a condom on the floor. That's when we started not getting along and I turned to my friends for help and support. I was talking to my husband's friend and we started to get closer and it turned out that we started to see each other every weekend and we started fooling around with each other and now we are seeing each other every now and then. My husband knows because he found us together. I am really in love with my husband's friend and I want to stay with him. But my husband won't let me leave him; he won't let me go. My husband is thirty years old, eight years older than I. We met in 1991 and have been together until this time. I really want to let go of him. I am not in love with him anymore. All I feel for him is friendship. I want to finish school as well and if I stay with him I would not have that opportunity. He is to jealous. We have three kids together 2girls & 1 boy. My daughter seven, son Tyler is six, my youngest is four. I gave up my first daughter at two weeks old because I was only thirteen years of age. Now that I am twenty-two and I want more out of life. I made a mistake getting married at a young age. We got married on August 15 of 98. Could you give me advice about my life. I was born February 5, 1978, at 2:30 PM.
Mixed Up
Dear Mixed Up
Wanda, get a grip. You're twenty-two, you have the rest of your life ahead of you. Get your act together and get out of the situation you're in. You are with a man who obviously doesn't respect you or the marriage vows you took. Although you didn't submit his birth data or that of his friends I'd venture to say by your chart that you have been manipulated for some time with regard to relationships. Take your two children and get out of there before your boys think that it's okay to treat a woman the way you're being treated. Secondly, two wrongs don't make a right. Fooling around with one of your husband's friends is not the answer. You need to get back to basics and sort out your feelings and your life before you get involved with someone else. You are best to seek help first. You should be doing whatever you can to remove the children and yourself from your current situation. There are homes that will take you in with your children if you are abused and if your husband is jealous, refusing to let you leave, and running around on you, that should be enough for you to get help. If you have family to turn to, do so. However, if your parents let you hang out with this man when you were thirteen and he was twenty-one I have a feeling that they won't be much help now. By your chart I can tell you that your home environment is moving into better times but it will take your initiative to turn things around for yourself so get moving. You are in a high cycle where learning is concerned and you should be taking advantage of this. You can apply for social assistance to help you and your kids. You should also look into courses that the government offers to those who want to make life better for them self. You live in a country that gives so much to those-in-need that there is no excuse for anyone to put up with the lifestyle that you are living right now. Get moving girl, and don't look back. You owe that much to your children and to yourself.
Eugenia
