We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
My parents divorced before I went to primary school and then I lived with my father. Since I was small, I was bullied. My mother worked in another city and did not care about me. My father treated me this way because he was remarried and had other children. My mother told me that my grandmother did not treat her well when she was small. This was why she did not know how to show her love to me. I was brought up under this environment and became very lonely. I was afraid to have contact with people. I had a few boyfriends and none of them worked out. I wanted so much my own family but every time I got hurt. With no parents to love, other people looked down on me. When I was at work, it did not turn out okay and I was always faced with many problems. I did not know how to deal with people and felt lost. After so many failures, I've lost my confidence totally. Now I have this boyfriend for over a year. He is a good person but he has a very stubborn character and that I can hardly accept. He always says something to hurt me. He needs someone to take care of him while I also long for someone who can look after me. I doubt if we can be a happy couple but I trust his integrity and like his family who treat me well. Now I just lost my job and had a fight with him.
My mother came back to Shanghai and bought an apartment. Now I am living with her but my mother does not care what I am doing. If you didn't know, you would think I am so lucky with a good apartment and a nice looking face. But in fact I have nothing, no family and no career. My life doesn't have any meaning. Is my life supposed to be this way? Did I do something wrong in my last life?
I was born on October 21, 1972 at around 3:30 am. My boyfriend was born on July 8, 1973 at 5 o'clock (I am not sure how accurate this is).
Hope you can give me some guidance. Thank you.
LOST
Dear LOST
Don't be so hard on yourself and your family. Your chart does show some problems with family however you must realize that the grass always appears to be greener on the other side of the fence. In other words this is an obstacle that you can and will overcome. You can learn from the experience you have had. Although you aren't positive what it would be like to have a loving family it isn't hard to know what you consider a loving family to be. Your boyfriend does match up quite nicely to your chart however there is potential for arguing. I do believe that when you love someone and you truly care about him that you will inevitably have disagreements. There is no apparent deception in your comparison only the fact that you will both overreact at times and this has probably resulted in your breakup. Please call him and try to work out your differences. You said that his family is kind and good to you, therefore you have a base to learn from. If you follow what has worked for them it will work for you as well.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
A few months ago, I could not get an ex-boy fiend out of my mind. It was his 30th Birthday coming up and I just could not stop thinking about him! I took it upon myself to write a letter to him just to say hello, as we had not spoken in over 5 years since I moved back home to Australia. I didn't know where he was (he lives in the US) so I sent the letter to his parent's address, which they forwarded to him. In the letter I said not to feel obligated to write back if he didn't want to etc. I knew he was married and wanted to respect that. He was the love of my life, the one that I still compare everyone else to. He was such an important influence on who I am.Two days ago, I received an email back from him. He was amazed and very happy to hear from me. He is divorced now, living with a new girlfriend in another state. We have sent a few e-mails back and forth over the past few days and I am stunned that we still know exactly what to say to make the other laugh and connect! We were the best of friends and I was equally as devastated when we split up for losing a lover and best friend.
My point is, have we come back into communication with each other for a reason? I always thought of him as my soul mate and have often said that if we had met in our late 20's, we would have been together for life. I am now 29. I am sure I am reading too much into it. Or am I? If not, it is really nice to be in touch again. What's happening here???
Kindest Regards
Kate
Dear Kate
It is too bad that you didn't include his date of birth. Without it I can't run a comparison in order to determine if you do belong together or not. I can tell you however that you are going through your Saturn return right now and this always makes you reevaluate your past. It can bring past partner back into your life especially if you didn't have proper closure the first time around. I suggest that you tread carefully because you also have transiting Saturn opposite your natal Neptune and this can mean that you or he are not being completely honest about your intentions, situation or feelings. Check out your compatibility with this man on the site before you proceed and if you do match up well I suggest that you move forward with caution. Ask questions and dig deep to find out where he has been and whom he is with. Truth will be the most important issue regarding your romantic future this year. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra and Sagittarius.
Eugenia
Please Eugenia.
I read your column religiously. I really need some advice. My ex-husband born 2-25-54 at 2:50 am and myself born April 8, 1963 at 4:20 am were married for 13 years and then in 1998 he met someone online and left me. He hasn't seen our children or really spoken to me since. Recently, I have been severely disabled. A severe flare up of MS that has left me bedridden. I requested an increase in child support, which my ex fought stating that he pays the mortgage payment. Within 1 month of his dispute of the child support I was contacted by the IRS telling me that I owed them over 10k because I never claimed the fact that he paid the mortgage as my income. H&R block did my taxes and they are going to pay the penalty because they realize that this has been their error not mine. However Eugenia, my tax consultant told me that my ex must have brought the issue up for the IRS too audit the years requested. Eugenia, my health is such that I'm not going to be able to care for our boys much longer. I can't believe that my ex is being so vengeful I have not done a thing to him not even tried to contact him. Please Eugenia, can you tell me if there is any hope that my ex will treat our sons decently........or maybe if you see any break for me financially or health wise. I'm really at the end of my rope :*( Thank you for your time
Aries
Dear Aries
You didn't mention when your children were born so I can't tell you what the relationship between them and your husband will be in the future. I believe that your husband has always been in denial regarding the boys but if push comes to shove and you were no longer able to care for them he would step in. However he would also stop support for you at the same time. Your husband is a little full of him self and conceited when it comes to who he is and what his potential is. I believe that he is probably not in as good a financial situation as you might imagine. Although he can make money he can also let it slip through his fingers. He can be charming but he can also show his temper and he is one to exaggerate and blow things out of context. If I were you I would probably try to make a deal with him that when you can no longer care for the boys that he pay to bring help in to take care of the boys as well as you or that he must take the boys on himself as his responsibility. The ideal situation would be for you to have a family member or friend take on that position however that may not be possible. Your chart indicates that you will continue to experience more limitations due to your illness over the course of the next year but also that you may be given the wrong medication and this is what leads to the additional problems. Please keep on top of what the doctors offer you. Try to do your research for side effects etc. Financially you do appear to be in a better position over the course of the next several years. This could be due to subsidies that are provided by government or some other health care organization. It can also be that you come into money through a tax rebate, insurance surrender, winnings or a gift from someone who cares. Please don't lose hope; your boys need your input even if you can't do as much for them. You must not give up but instead try to provide an alternative to get the help you need. Your ex should pay for this assistance or do more to take care of the boys himself. Something tells me he will opt to let you take care of them even if it does cost him a little more to get you the help you need.
Eugenia
