We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
My parents divorced before I went to primary school and then I lived with my father. Since I was small, I was bullied. My mother worked in another city and did not care about me. My father treated me this way because he was remarried and had other children. My mother told me that my grandmother did not treat her well when she was small. This was why she did not know how to show her love to me. I was brought up under this environment and became very lonely. I was afraid to have contact with people. I had a few boyfriends and none of them worked out. I wanted so much my own family but every time I got hurt. With no parents to love, other people looked down on me. When I was at work, it did not turn out okay and I was always faced with many problems. I did not know how to deal with people and felt lost. After so many failures, I've lost my confidence totally. Now I have this boyfriend for over a year. He is a good person but he has a very stubborn character and that I can hardly accept. He always says something to hurt me. He needs someone to take care of him while I also long for someone who can look after me. I doubt if we can be a happy couple but I trust his integrity and like his family who treat me well. Now I just lost my job and had a fight with him.
My mother came back to Shanghai and bought an apartment. Now I am living with her but my mother does not care what I am doing. If you didn't know, you would think I am so lucky with a good apartment and a nice looking face. But in fact I have nothing, no family and no career. My life doesn't have any meaning. Is my life supposed to be this way? Did I do something wrong in my last life?
I was born on October 21, 1972 at around 3:30 am. My boyfriend was born on July 8, 1973 at 5 o'clock (I am not sure how accurate this is).
Hope you can give me some guidance. Thank you.
LOST
Dear LOST
Don't be so hard on yourself and your family. Your chart does show some problems with family however you must realize that the grass always appears to be greener on the other side of the fence. In other words this is an obstacle that you can and will overcome. You can learn from the experience you have had. Although you aren't positive what it would be like to have a loving family it isn't hard to know what you consider a loving family to be. Your boyfriend does match up quite nicely to your chart however there is potential for arguing. I do believe that when you love someone and you truly care about him that you will inevitably have disagreements. There is no apparent deception in your comparison only the fact that you will both overreact at times and this has probably resulted in your breakup. Please call him and try to work out your differences. You said that his family is kind and good to you, therefore you have a base to learn from. If you follow what has worked for them it will work for you as well.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Greetings and Blessings, My name is Jennifer and I'm new to Astro Advice. While surfing around on the wonderful web site I came across the "Dear Eugenia" link. I was curious as to what wonders it might hold and so, here I am. The reason for me writing to you is because of a very depressing and unfruitful matter in my life right now. You see, my other half and I have been trying to conceive for almost two years now and to our amazement no results have prevailed. This is often a very saddening experience month after month and we are at the point now where we just feel we should give up. We have tried every option under the sun that has been recommended to us such as; me lying in bed for up to 30 minutes after sex, taking baby asprin to thin out my blood and promote better circulation, taking 2 tbsp. of Robitussin Cough Syrup to thin out cervical mucus, drinking red-raspberry tea and various others. Everything has left us down right exhausted. I'm beginning to lose all hope in this matter and I feel as though I'm not meant to have children. It appears as though God doesn't want me to give the gift of life and bring a child into this world. At several times I thought I was pregnant but, a false- positive pregnancy test proved wrong. To be truthful... this issue is starting to take it's toll on the relationship the more and more the months go by. It appears that these troubles are causing me to push away from my other half and he in turn is beginning to get more and more frustrated and depressed as well. My birth date is December 11, 1978---- 9:00 AM and my other half's is March 17,1980---- unfortunately I am unsure of his time of birth. Please... anything you can tell me would be greatly appreciated and respected. I thank you for your time.
Babyless
Dear Babyless
Both you and your partner are born under mutable signs (Sagittarius and Pisces) These signs often go through difficulties with getting pregnant, having children, dealing with children and so on but that doesn't mean that it won't happen. In your particular case opportunities for prenancy will be in affect for the next couple of years. You are still young and you shouldn't be putting so much pressure on yourself. I have worked out your fertility cycles for the next twelve months so that you can try to optimize the most auspicious times to conceive. July 9 at 5 PM until July 13 at 5 PM, Aug. 8 at 11 AM until Aug. 12 at 11 AM, Sept. 7 at 3 AM until Sept. 11 at 3 AM, Oct. 6 at 9 PM until Oct. 10 at 9 PM, Nov. 5 at 1 PM until Nov. 9 at 1 PM, Dec. 5 at 1 AM until Dec. 9 at 1 AM, Jan. 3 at 5 PM until Jan. 7 at 5 PM, Feb. 2 at 1 AM until Feb. 6 at 1 AM, Mar. 3 at 11 AM until Mar. 7 at 11 AM, Apr. 2 at 7 PM until Apr. 5 at 7 PM, May 1 at 3 AM until May 5 at 3 AM, May 31 at 11 AM until June 2 at 11 AM, June 28 at 12 AM until July 2 at 12 AM.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I am dating one guy, and I have feelings for my best friend. My best friend recently confessed his feelings for me. But my boyfriend and I have a decent relationship. Also I feel me and my boyfriend may be drifting apart just a little. I came to this conclusion because we use to just sit and talk for hours on end but now we rarely talk about anything. I need help on what I should do in this situation. Oh I also forgot to mention I have had feelings for my best friend since I met him 12 years ago, and that he is in the military and he confessed his feelings for me after he came back from overseas saying how he realized that he " has a great person who cares for him right in front of him." Thank you for your time and help! By the way my boyfriends birth data is: Nov 21, 1984 I am not sure of the time or the birthplace though. And my friends birth data is August10, 1984 I am also not sure of the birth time or place for him either. I was born September 25, 1983 at 11:25 AM.
Libra
Dear Libra
Quite the dilemma - you actually match up astrologically to both men. Your best friend a little bit better. Your best friend falls in an area of your chart that deals with your status, position in society and choice of friends. I've always believed that the best relationships are those that start out as a friendship and build. Your current boyfriend falls in an area of your chart that deals with hidden matters, secret affairs etc so I'm sort of wondering how you managed to turn this one into a long term relationship when it was probably meant to be a short but sweet love connection.
Your chart indicates that you are going through a period of change. Especially the way you view your relationships with others. This started to hit your chart at the end of last year and has probably left you somewhat confused. I don't know that you will ever feel totally satisfied in your current relationship especially now that you know that your best friend feels the same way you do.
Your chart indicates that you are moving through a period of change. That it may be time to take a break from your current relationship so that you can sort out your thoughts and discover what it is you really need when it comes to a one-on-one relationship. Don't feel bad but don't live a lie either. If you truly want to find out if your relationship with your best friend can be more you are best to end the relationship you are in first. I feel that given time your friendship with your Leo man will turn into a long-lasting relationship.
Eugenia
February 13th 2026
Happy Birthday: Stick to what you know and do best this year. Letting the unfamiliar or someone’s enthusiasm command your attention. Listen to your inner voice and common sense, and do what feels right and is meaningful to you. You can dream big if you size down to fit your budget, time, and capability. There is a shift taking place, but it requires marksmanship, detail, and an honest assessment of right from wrong. Your numbers are 5, 16, 21, 24, 30, 37, 49.
