We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Continual Grief

Dear Eugenia,

I was born on Aug. 13 1980 11:45am and I've been dating Michael (Aug. 1 1977 6:52am) for 8 months. Throughout our whole relationship, we have been lacking trust and even cheated on each other on several occasions. I feel a deep hostility and some competition between us, but I love and care for him so much that I agreed for him to stay at my place for 4 months. I broke up with him a month ago because I couldn't bear the lack of trust/jealousy any longer. I miss him a lot and I believe he does too... we haven't discussed our emotions or feelings for each other since we broke up but he calls me almost everyday to see how I'm doing. We both know we have tension between us but we deny it and try to avoid bringing up any issue that will cause emotional stress. I just want to know if there is any hope for us in the future and whether or not "any" type of relationship will work out between us.

Tug of War

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Dear Tug of War

Communication is what makes a relationship work and from what I can see he isn't likely to tell you the truth even if he does talk to you. I believe that this relationship shows signs of sorrow that will continually cause you grief. He has the chart of a playboy who will never face emotional problems honestly and who obviously has plenty of opportunity when it comes to picking up women. Please do yourself a favor and move on, you deserve better. Although you did cheat on him as well I do believe that you can and will be honest and loyal if you are with the right partner. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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Article: From Gemini

Hi Eugenia

Over the past 4 years or so my life has been going in a downward spiral. I lost my father; my wife (through divorce) and I don't see my daughter. I lost my job as a software engineer. I know, like most, that you take the rough with the smooth in life. Now I'm at a stage where I feel completely lost and without direction. My finances have hit rock bottom. This is in stark contrast to about 12 years ago when life was almost great! Over recent years it seems that whatever I do just doesn't work. My question is will my life ever improve? Any help or guidance you can offer will be appreciated. I was born June 18, 1969 at 6 am.

Gemini

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Hi Gemini

Several planets have added to your down spiral the past eight years and although these transits in your chart aren't completely gone things do appear to be getting better. Part of the problem the past four years is that transiting Saturn has been passing through an area of your chart that can cause major depression and if your state of mind is bad because of this you will in turn attract negativity. This will lift off towards the end of the summer when you should start to feel some relief, but that doesn't mean that everything will turn around instantly. It will take work, effort and time on your part to make the difference. You appear to be lonely and this has also contributed to your depression. Trying to get involved with someone the past several years would have been difficult. With your natal Venus being adversely aspected by transiting Neptune sorrow within relationships was likely, not to mention the confusion you must have been experiencing. This is now lifting off and by the fall you will be in a much better position to meet someone who will be good for you and help to brighten your life. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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Article: Too Soon For Marriage

Hi Eugenia

I'm sure you are busy replying letters. I will consider your advice carefully if my letter is answered. I have been going out with my boyfriend for 8 years. I was supposed to marry my boyfriend last year. But, I'm the one who suggested reconsidering our marriage. I am negative to marriage, that is, I was afraid that I might lose my freedom. His parents want us to get married soon. However, considering his conservative parents and my non-conservative parents, I think I will have to face some problems after we get married. Am I too selfish? I'm working in the computing machine area. I want to go abroad to continue my study and I want to do many other things. Thus, marriage is not my first priority.

My boyfriend is a conservative man. He wants to take a dominant position in our relationship. I have to do everything for him if I marry him. If there is an exit, I want to escape. However, at the same time, I wonder whether I can live without him. What kind of person am I? Am I too selfish?? He was born on Nov 5, 1974 and I was born November 26, 1974, at 5:30 AM.

I can do things for him but to be frank, I just want him to do whatever he wants and set him free. And set myself free.

Feeling stifled

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Dear Feeling stifled

Although the comparison was workable I do believe that your feelings are warranted. Yes, he and his family will stand in the way of your career and if that is what you want to pursue you are best to back out before it's too late. I believe that your future with this man does show some signs of sorrow as well as deception and that you are best to consider moving on. You actually need someone in your life that will allow you the freedom to live life and who is willing to share the same lifestyle that you desire. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius. Your current boyfriend is very set in his ways and can be a little jealous. Although it could work it would mean that you must sacrifice a great deal in order to take care of his needs. Think carefully before you make your decision and consider the fact that you may be with him out of habit. Reevaluate your motives regarding this connection. You are moving through a period that can make or break this union and I believe that you are ready to move on.

Eugenia

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