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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I was born on Aug. 13 1980 11:45am and I've been dating Michael (Aug. 1 1977 6:52am) for 8 months. Throughout our whole relationship, we have been lacking trust and even cheated on each other on several occasions. I feel a deep hostility and some competition between us, but I love and care for him so much that I agreed for him to stay at my place for 4 months. I broke up with him a month ago because I couldn't bear the lack of trust/jealousy any longer. I miss him a lot and I believe he does too... we haven't discussed our emotions or feelings for each other since we broke up but he calls me almost everyday to see how I'm doing. We both know we have tension between us but we deny it and try to avoid bringing up any issue that will cause emotional stress. I just want to know if there is any hope for us in the future and whether or not "any" type of relationship will work out between us.
Tug of War
Dear Tug of War
Communication is what makes a relationship work and from what I can see he isn't likely to tell you the truth even if he does talk to you. I believe that this relationship shows signs of sorrow that will continually cause you grief. He has the chart of a playboy who will never face emotional problems honestly and who obviously has plenty of opportunity when it comes to picking up women. Please do yourself a favor and move on, you deserve better. Although you did cheat on him as well I do believe that you can and will be honest and loyal if you are with the right partner. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I wrote to you before and my letter was not answered. I believe that persistence will bring success. I am now very confused in the affairs relating to love as well as career. I was born in November 11, 1977. My boy friend was born in April 8, 1975. At present, we are far apart. He does not like to write or call me. Maybe it is the character of an Aries. I am worried that we would not have common languages after a period of time. I found that my life is boring. Is it because I am a Scorpio and I'm too focused on love affairs? Am I losing self-esteem? My character is quite strong, but when it comes to love, I am weak. Is it my own problem? When I think of my future, I feel lost. At work, I am not an outstanding figure, no one cares about my presence and the work is not challenging. Will my life continue to be like this? I am afraid to think of my future. I wish you could help me.
A Lost Scorpio
Dear A Lost Scorpio
Your comparison with your Aries friend is nice however it can be difficult at an emotional level. Although I like the combination Scorpio and Aries, as the Scorpio you must not show weakness, jealousy or try to confine your Aries man. As a matter of fact Aries men tend to do better when a relationship is more of a challenge. So don't be too easy or accommodating. Your chart indicates that you will be in a high cycle regarding love and romance in July, August and September of this year. You could easily meet someone through work or work related events. If you are not happy with your job you may also want to consider sending out your resume and looking for a better more challenging position during the last half of this year and the first half of next.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I will be marrying a German guy this September. His birthday is August 28, 1970, at 6:20 pm. My date of birth is May 5, 1975, at 3:00 PM. Our wedding is scheduled for Sept 23, Sunday. We've been going out for 1 yr and 2 months and overcome our language barriers. We finally decided to get married. However, what I'd like to know is...should I marry him?
When I first met him, I was attracted to him. He spoke to me first in poor English and that's how he took my heart away. He's tall and good-looking. He's always nice to women so I'm always worried. Also, he doesn't tell me what he thinks. We have been living together for about one year. Since both of us are working, when we get home, he just stays in his computer room. About sex, I always have to ask him because he doesn't take initiative. We have sex about 4 to 5 times a month. Sometimes, I want to have it but it seems that he doesn't care. I feel like I'm asking too much. And I'm worried...
However, I saw him browsing through porn sites several times. Plus, when we need to make a decision, he always lets me do everything. It doesn't matter whether he likes it or not. In the beginning, I thought that he was nice so he let me do whatever I want. But now, I'm sick of this... When he said that he had to go to workshops for his company, I'm always worried too. He always says that I'm pretty but he doesn't take initiative for sex, I 'm afraid that some other beautiful women might ask him out. Sometimes, I can't sleep because of this but it seems he doesn't realize my situation. Our wedding day is coming soon but I'm still worried. I don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that I may give up because I'm too tired. If possible, please give me some advice.
At Odds
Dear At Odds
I don't know why either one of you is pushing to get married. It is apparent that you have issues to resolve before you decide to step into matrimony. The comparison does indicate a lack of sexual attraction. His chart denotes sexual confusion at an emotional level with his natal Moon square his natal Jupiter in his eighth house. With his natal Venus in his eighth house as well sextile to his natal Mars I would imagine that he definitely has sexual desires. The question is how they manifest themselves with his natal Saturn and his natal Neptune squaring his natal Mars. He needs to determine what turns him on and whether or not you can provide him with what he desires and vise versa. I suggest that you get into sexual counseling as a couple before you take the next step. Communication is required in order to sort through your problems. It doesn't mean that your relationship can't work but like any other relationship nothing is perfect and it's best to sort out what you can before you decide to make a life long commitment to one another.
Eugenia
