We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: From cancer in distress

Dear Eugenia,

How's this for a love triangle with an international flavor as we were all born in different countries, with two Cancers potentially battling it out? I'm a Cancer born July 9, 1963 at 11:30 am, married for many years to a Gemini man (b. 6/10/1955) who I fear might be seriously interested in another Cancer (someone in our social circle). I understand from mutual friends that he does flirt with this woman when I'm not around and that she is equally interested in him. I learned from one close friend in particular that the only thing stopping her at least is the fact that he is married. I'm hoping that this woman does respect my marriage, but I fear that I may be losing my Gemini man to a possible midlife crisis. It took some doing but I found out that her birthday is 7/5/1959. I hope this is enough information for you to chart us and give me some guidance. Please Eugenia, is my marriage about to come unglued?

Cancer in distress

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Dear Cancer in distress

Your comparison with your husband is better than his comparison with the other Cancer in question. However he has been going through emotional confusion the past couple of years and this has probably contributed to his obvious midlife crisis. Generally your husband is a good guy and even though he is a Gemini and they can tend to wander as well as marry more than once in a life time I have to say with his natal Venus in the sign Taurus it does give him some stability. Your chart indicates that you may be overreacting to this whole situation and that could in fact push him away. There is also evidence that by the fall of this year you will be in a high cycle regarding love and winning back the heart of your husband should you actually have lost it to another. Your Cancer friend is not trustworthy when it comes to respecting your marriage. She may be born under the sign Cancer but unlike you she is predominantly a Leo with her natal Mercury, Venus, Mars and Uranus in that sign and her Moon positioned in Gemini therefore the challenge of the chase is probably what she is enjoying. Protect yourself, your heart and your marriage by being fun to be with, paying special attention to your husband and keeping a close watch on who he's with and what he does without being overbearing or smothering.

Eugenia

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Article: Counselling Confused

Dear Eugenia

There is so much going on in my life that I don't know where to start. I can not believe that I have chosen to write this letter, but I guess I am hoping for confirmation that I am correct. My life has never felt more confused and not my own then it does right now. I want to focus my attention on my education and let go of all the other things in my life that I feel are holding me back. I am being pulled in all different directions. I am trying to fight the distractions and need to find a way to balance my life in order for me to achieve the things I want (have) to achieve on this earth. I have been searching for a counselor that can shed some light and provide the reassurance of love. I have only encountered counselors with no energy resembling that love.

I feel as if the only way I can accomplish my goals is to have some solace. I feel like I need to take a break from the energy I create and turn into myself so that I may become more confident in my energy and use it for what it is intended. I am ready to use it for whatever purposes are intended, but I do not know which way to go to achieve this goal.

I am looking for someone who understands, and someone who will be able to make me understand. I think the person who is really able to understand me will be able to communicate their energy to me. I don't need anyone to tell me how to run my life; I would just like confirmation that I'm on the right path. I was born on June 21, 1961, at 12 AM.

Confused

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Dear Confused

You are on the path that you have to follow right now and even if it doesn't necessarily take you where you think you want to go much will be gained from the experiences and challenges you encounter. It is apparent that there are some issues that have arisen over the course of the past year and a half that have left you questioning what is right for you. From what I can establish by your chart in order to make the most of your transits you should be resolving issues concerning a parent or close friend. Difficulties in areas that deal with communication and secrets have clouded the perspective of yourself as well as of others. Many changes are apparent regarding your home and family and these can be favorable if you follow your heart and do what's best for you this time. The educational area of your chart has been and still is being negatively transited and this can cause problems when it comes to accomplishing your goals. This problem is lifting this month and although you may continue to have some issues with faculty or your educational choices you should find it easier to push ahead. You are very hard on yourself you know and it's time you cut yourself a little slack. Rome wasn't built in a day; you will accomplish your goals. You have the determination, stamina and dedication that will enable you to reach the success that you are looking for.

Eugenia

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Article: An Over Indulgence

Dear Eugenia,

I hope very much that you can help me. I was born on 26 December 1963 at 3.35 AM and my ex-boyfriend was born 10 January 1967. We have been together for four or so years and he has just told me that we are finished. He has always been a 'closed book' as far as feelings go or showing them at least. He told me that while he misses me and 90% of the time he is happy with me, there are certain characteristics of mine that he cannot stand. The main being, and I admit this - I tend to overindulge in alcohol on occasions. He feels that I have a problem with this and will not tolerate it any longer.

We don't live together and I have always felt that I was the one giving a lot more than him. We live in a small country town where gossip is rife and unfortunately a lot of people have nothing more to do than embellish.My childhood was odd and I have recently lost my brother and I feel that these things influence my behavior at times.

I asked him if I had lost him forever and he replied that we both had a lot of thinking do.

Please help me. I am so lost and sad and while I believe in taking responsibility for my actions - is there any chance for us?

EllyMM

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Dear EllyMM

Your comparison was certainly good enough to make it work however I worry that too much has happened for him to turn back. Your chart indicates that you are and have been going through a period of over indulgence that does need to be stopped. I believe that he is truly concerned for you and just can't take how you react when under the influence. It's time to pull your act together and hope that it's not too late to win him back. You do have a transit moving through your chart until the Spring of next year that indicates that people from your past are likely to come back into your life but you will have to work hard for it to be him. He will be experiencing a similar transit so the possibility if you take all the right steps is present. I suggest that you stop indulging all together in order to save yourself a lot of grief in the future.

Eugenia

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