We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.

I want to stress how important it is to submit complete and accurate birth data – the time and place of birth.

The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Uncertainty in Relationships

Hi Eugenia

I participated in the Seoul Forum. It was great to see you in Seoul Forum but it was a pity that I couldn't talk to you personally. I had a lot to ask that night, about astrology and most of all, about my personal problems. That's why I'm writing to you. Please listen to my problem. I don't know whether our distance is too far away. Please help me.

I was born on Aug 17, 1976 at 4:45 am. What I'd mostly like to know is about love. I recently broke up with my boyfriend whom I had been going out for 5 years. You had implied that we would split up in my horoscope but I wasn't ready to do so but it happened anyway. However, the problem is that I want to know if this is my fate, should I let him go. I thought I could get over him but my heart says no. Are we really over? What can I do to get him back? What should I do if I have to forget him? Please help me. I don't have the confidence to live alone, without him. I can't imagine him being happy without me. I even have thought about death.

Please tell me what I should do. If there is a way, how long do I have to wait and what should I do? Please tell me how I can see him again. Or at least the way I can make him think of me. If our fate is over,...no ...you know I don't want that. Please give me advice..... Wish you happiness and hope you give can give me some hope. It is a blessing that you have the ability to help others. I'll pray for you while I wait your reply.

Upset and Emotional

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Dear Upset and Emotional

It would have helped me considerably if you had mentioned your boyfriends birth date. Looking at your chart I can tell you however that there is a lot of deception, disillusionment and uncertainty moving through an area of your chart that deals with your personal relationship. I believe that it is possible between now and the middle of next summer to rekindle the flame with your ex if that is what you want to do. I would first however ask you to run a compatibility check on my astroeast.com web site in order to be sure that he is the one for you. If your comparison is not great I suggest that you get out and start meeting new partners that will be better for you. Over the course of the next ten months you will be in a high cycle for love and romance and if you stay at home crying over this man you will miss the opportunity to meet someone who you could potentially love even more. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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Article: From Virgo

Dear Eugenia,

I am going through a breakup in my marriage of 15 years. It has been a very rocky marriage with control and mistrust on my part, and dishonesty and no loyalty on her part, and we haven't been friends in a long time, to name the most major problems. We were in turmoil for 4 weeks before we had an argument and then have been separated for 5 weeks now and have really had some nasty times. Some of the things she has said are very hurtful, and I don't know what is true and what is not. I think that most men would not stick around to hear the things she has been saying, but for some reason I can't seem to stop loving her and wanting her to come back to build on what we have or had. I have heard that she hasn't been in love with me in years- she was just "settling" or "getting by". I do now recognize some signs of her feeling this way, but I have a hard time seeing it being as much as she says. When we weren't mad at each other, there was always holding hands, cuddling, kissing, that type thing that after 15 years a lot of partners don't do as much as we did. I have really come to the realization that my mistrust and controlling manners have to change no matter what- and we're very misplaced with her. Basically, I realize that she came home to me every night, and now she doesn't- that's all that matters to me now. She wants some space to figure out who she is and has sometimes said things that give me hope (false hope is how she words it). She has also said several times that it is over and she just wants to move on. I can't seem to get my head into "moving on" as every one tells me to. I also can't seem to leave her alone and give her space. I am obsessed with trying to talk to her to start becoming friends- but it just makes her angrier and turns into a nasty fight sometimes. I don't know how to control my urge to not leave her alone because my whole life seems to be just falling apart without her beside me.

Can you guide me into a more secure or comfortable place?

Sorry I don't know the time of her or my birth. Her day was May 2/60 and mine is Sept. 11/66.

Virgo

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Dear Virgo

The comparison does indicate trouble. There is a lack of trust and communication along with deception and anger. Uncertainty will always be a problem between the two of you regardless of whether you stay together or not. You need to let go. You have a good chart and if you can only realize that you were totally mismatched regarding your values and hers you might be able to move on. You match up to people born under the signs Taurus (not her - I'll explain later), Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. She may be a Taurus but only by Sun sign. She has her natal Mercury and Venus in the sign Aries and this sign does not match up to you at all. Mercury and Venus represent the way she thinks and communicates along with her morals, ethics and Venus represent the way she loves etc. What actually drew you together was the fact that you both have your Moon in the sign Cancer but that isn't enough to make a relationship work. She is erratic and can change her mind very rapidly. She wants to have fun and she needs freedom to come and go as she pleases. You need companionship, trust and someone who wants to be with you all the time. This connection just won't work that way. We are who we are and as much as either one of you may want to change I fear that the same problems will continually surface. You are headed toward lots of changes and you have to wrap your head around that and accept the inevitable. Should she even entertain the thought of getting back together it wouldn't be long before she would want to move on again. Let go and start anew. I believe that she has decided to do just that. The only time I see a possible reconciliation is this fall however as I mentioned before - should you get back together it would only be for a short period of time be

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Article: From Heidi

Dear Eugenia

I am currently faced with a crisis situation, which involves my 16-year-old son. Two years ago he was accused of having sexually molesting his 3-year-old stepsister. He has insisted and maintained his innocence. I am a believer looking at reality and I know that there is a possibility he may have committed this act but evidence having been tested came back negative and the authorities have basically closed the case but now his stepmother has had a nervous breakdown and is undergoing psychiatric care. She has been working on this situation in her mind for two years now trying to figure out the truth that has basically greatly affected her mental and emotional health. I have been trying to keep myself on a balance trying to get facts and am absolutely not fooling myself that this couldn't possibly have happened and I would like to help my son in any way I can. My own lifestyle includes a twelve-step program, as I am a recovered alcoholic for just about ten years now. I have tried to detach to a certain extent and take it one 24 period at a time but I feel so bad for my son and everyone else I don't know what to do. If you have some advice that may help give me some semblance of serenity I would greatly welcome it. In the meantime I will continue to pray and meditate. I was born March 10, 1959, at 8:35 am.

With sincerest thanks
Heidi

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Dear Heidi

I can see your struggle and the pain and endurance you have had to go through but I really need your son's and his stepmothers birth data to give you the answers that I believe you are looking for. As for you, I feel that you are putting way too much pressure on yourself. You can't account for everyone else. If you can supply me with the information I need I will try to accommodate you as I'm sure all my readers would like to know more about your situation. You are a strong woman who took a detour in life that was definitely a learning experience but the fact that you picked yourself up and took the high road is proof enough that you have what it takes to move forward and not let the dilemmas of those around you drag you down. The area in your chart that deals with children is undergoing changes right now and this probably has something to do with your eldest son however not knowing how many children you have or how many might be living with you I can't be sure. Your home environment and the area of your chart that deals with legal matters or getting help is in a high cycle until the end of the year so take advantage of this if possible. The changes coming your way I believe are good and with a little effort and focusing on yourself for a change much can be accomplished. Please send in the remainder of the data I require so that I may assist you further.

Eugenia

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