
We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
In January of 97 I became romantically involved with my teacher (his birth date:Aug.19,1950). He is married (his wife born Aug.10,1955). He had assured me that there was no romantic involvement with her and that he loved me, that the only reason he didn't leave her was because of his child, that theirs was a "business relationship." I believed him and loved him deeply, but recently found out that he still was having relations occasionally with her. He said that all along his feelings had been conflicting, that he didn't want to give her up, so when I said I wanted fidelity, he dumped me. His wife told me she plans to "punish" him. I am hurting terribly because I still love him very much. It is also going to hurt my studies, because he won't allow me in his classes any more. He had also gotten me a job at one of the places where he works. The day he ended the relationship (because I "pushed" him too far, he said), May 3rd (this year), I was angry and said I wanted to quit that job, so he cancelled my involvement in a joint project we were working on, which hurt my students as well as myself. I feel so hurt I cry all the time and wish I could die. I wish I had never said anything, and that our relationship had continued. Now I feel like my whole life is falling apart, because everything I did revolved around him. I have been to the counselor at school; she has been sympathetic but has no suggestions. He calls me sometimes, he says because he is sorry he hurt me, but he offers me no hope. He said he still doesn't know how he feels about anything, that I should do nothing and let time work things out. But I feel like I need to make some decisions about my life. Can you please help me? I don't even know what question to ask you, but perhaps you have some ideas. Thank you for reading my letter. It feels better just to know that you have "listened."
Sincerely,
Teachers Pet
Dear Teachers Pet
What were you thinking? Your comparison with your philandering professor wasn't all that great, for that matter his comparison with his wife wasn't earth shattering either. You are both dealing with a man who is full of himself and very capable of having secret affairs with women who are vulnerable or na?ve enough to believe his dribble. You unfortunately have been going through a very rough couple of years where love and relationships are concerned. Although your chart does denote that you could have someone from your past waltz back into your life, I certainly hope that you have enough will power to say no this time around. You should feel sorry for this man and even sorrier for his wife, whom I must say has also gone through similar transits to you regarding her relationship. I must mention that your chart and his wife's have an uncanny resemblance. I know that you are confused, hurting and you just want to be happy but strength and control will be necessary. I think that the more you back away from this man, the more he will want to come closer. It's hard to control what's in your heart especially when you are as sensitive and loving as you are. You were looking for that white knight who could stimulate you mentally and physically and we all know how hard that is to find. Please try to put this relationship in perspective and move on with your life. You will be in a high cycle for love and romance in June and I would hate to see you waste it on this man. You deserve better and I know that if you get out and join groups or organizations that you believe in you will meet like-minded people who can turn your crank. You match up well to those born under the signs Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia
I am very confused and concerned about my current relationship. I was born 11-30-77 at 11:38am and my boyfriend was born 12-14-75 at 1:08pm. We have a very strong physical attraction for one another, but our fights are often and our comments are brutal. He has a very quick and explosive temper, but treats me very well otherwise. He is not jealous or controlling, but very sensitive. What type of connection do we have that makes us so inseparable? We cannot spend more than two days without one another, almost as if we are the same person. We are both becoming very dependent on each other and neither of us have ever had that type of personality. We both were "bachelors" of the zodiac breaking hearts left and right and partying all the time until we met each other. Is this relationship healthy? What is it about our signs that have made us completely different people enthralled by each other? But almost TOO passionate?
Two Archers
I like same sign relationships. I believe however that you are both going through the rush of love and that the physical connection is so powerful that neither one of you can get past it at the moment. The rest of the comparison isn't too bad. I feel that you both tend to evade issues and neglect to be completely honest with one another. The fact that you fight a lot doesn't surprise me either. It isn't unusual for people to point a finger at their partner especially if they themselves are guilty of similar things. Your Sagittarius partner, like yourself, will always be a bachelor even if you live together, get married and so on. Over the course of the next two years you will both experience a need to settle down and this could help the relationship progress positively. Keep in mind however that it is impossible to curtail, confine or restrict an Archer without causing problems. Your Sagittarius partner does have a temper and that should concern you. I believe that he is intense and that you can bring out the worst in him when it comes to arguments. The combination between the two of you can become quite volatile at times. Take your time and try to build a closer friendship if you really want this union to last.
Eugenia
Dear Ms. Last:
I don't know how many letters you have received regarding gay relationships, but I'm sure this won't be your first. I've been with my boyfriend for three months now, he is an Aquarius born on February 12, 1979. I am a Cancer born on July 8, 1978, at 2:11 in the afternoon.
We've been experiencing some difficulties within the integrity of the relationship. As a Cancer, I tend to be very smothering, and sometimes I can inundate an individual too much. My boyfriend recently told me that he wants to take a break because he is confused. He became very cold and insipid in the last week, and seemed to be very standoffish. As a typical Cancer, my emotions have been running the gamut lately, and I am just wondering if this break will be permanent or temporary. I am willing to give him the space he needs, after all, I need my own identity as well. I am willing to compromise and make this work. When I've asked him SEVERAL times if he would rather be with someone else, he has replied that he can't think of touching anyone else but me. I really believe David to be a person of pure heart and good intentions, and my trust, which wanes at times, is restored in him. I just hope that fate has something planned for us. I would also like to know, that despite the low reading on the compatibility between David and I, the connection feels much stronger. Thank you for your insight...Your site and work is wonderful!
Hoping this is true love,
Cancer
Dear Cancer
The area in your chart that deals with relationships is going through a make it or break it period. The summer is a perfect time for you to take a break from your confused Aquarius partner. You need time as well. You are correct to say that your comparison wasn?t great, workable yes, but not easy. I can tell that you will be coming into a high cycle next summer that should bring someone into your life who is probably better for you. If you let this Aquarius fill the void in your life he will only be standing in the way when someone terrific wants to be with you. This could cause you to miss out on a relationship that could be the love of your life. Your Aquarius is going through a period that is extremely confusing. He is uncertain about himself and his future. He doesn?t really know what he wants and although he is capable of remaining loyal it is not one of his priorities. You are sensitive and willing to be blind to the problems that the two of you are facing. You will not win in this situation if you do try to make it work. Your Aquarius will not compromise or give as much to this relationship as you will and in turn you will eventually feel used. Please consider moving on. Focus on work, making money, investments, your home and so on until next summer when you will be in a much better position to fall in love. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Leo and Sagittarius.
Eugenia
November 2nd 2026
Happy Birthday: Keep life simple, stick to facts, and choose common sense regardless of what others do. A straightforward, no-nonsense approach to whatever comes your way will help you navigate your way forward with the least amount of drama and setbacks. Pay attention to what others expect of you and put your responsibilities first and foremost to ensure you maintain your reputation. Walk away from temptation, excess, and vulnerable situations. Your numbers are 4, 18, 22, 30, 36, 43, 48.