We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Hi Eugenia
I participated in the Seoul Forum and I was fortunate enough to shake hands with you. You seemed a bit tired that day, I hope you are fine now....
I didn't have a chance to ask you about my problem. Although it is a bit late, I think now is the chance, so I'm writing to you. I'm working in a company right now, but I'm thinking of changing my career because I don't think this is the right direction for me. I'm thinking of starting to do counseling in hypnotized psychology. I'm learning bit by bit and I've been counseling the people I know. They all said it was interesting and it was helpful. Thus, I'm satisfied with it. I feel like this is my calling. I don't know whether it will bring me a better future or not...Or should I still continue to work in a company? Please let me know whether this is the right way or not. I was born December 12, 1972, at 8:30 AM. When you return to Seoul in February I hope to give you a hypnotized counseling session.
Faithful Member
Dear Faithful Member
I'm glad you attended the forum and yes I was tired from the rigorous schedule that I had been on for the past couple of weeks. Regarding your question, I do believe that you have chosen a direction that is good for you. Your chart indicates that you have considerable talent in this area of work and that you are in a high learning cycle regarding such work for the better part of the next year. The area of your chart that deals with work and money is coming into a particularly high cycle beginning in April and I feel that you should be able to build on your business from that point on. I must tell you however that building up your clientele does not happen over night and that you may want to continue working for the company you are with until you feel confident that you are making enough doing your hypnotic counseling. When I first started taking on clients many years ago I worked for a company doing a job that didn't really interest me while I built my business. It meant working long hours but it was well worth the effort to finally be able to do the work that I love to do. Hang in there and I do believe that you will achieve the success that you're looking for over the course of the next five years. I would be honored to sit and have a hypnotic counseling session with you on my return to Seoul in February. Maybe I can offer you an astrological counseling session in return.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I am going through a breakup in my marriage of 15 years. It has been a very rocky marriage with control and mistrust on my part, and dishonesty and no loyalty on her part, and we haven't been friends in a long time, to name the most major problems. We were in turmoil for 4 weeks before we had an argument and then have been separated for 5 weeks now and have really had some nasty times. Some of the things she has said are very hurtful, and I don't know what is true and what is not. I think that most men would not stick around to hear the things she has been saying, but for some reason I can't seem to stop loving her and wanting her to come back to build on what we have or had. I have heard that she hasn't been in love with me in years- she was just "settling" or "getting by". I do now recognize some signs of her feeling this way, but I have a hard time seeing it being as much as she says. When we weren't mad at each other, there was always holding hands, cuddling, kissing, that type thing that after 15 years a lot of partners don't do as much as we did. I have really come to the realization that my mistrust and controlling manners have to change no matter what- and we're very misplaced with her. Basically, I realize that she came home to me every night, and now she doesn't- that's all that matters to me now. She wants some space to figure out who she is and has sometimes said things that give me hope (false hope is how she words it). She has also said several times that it is over and she just wants to move on. I can't seem to get my head into "moving on" as every one tells me to. I also can't seem to leave her alone and give her space. I am obsessed with trying to talk to her to start becoming friends- but it just makes her angrier and turns into a nasty fight sometimes. I don't know how to control my urge to not leave her alone because my whole life seems to be just falling apart without her beside me.
Can you guide me into a more secure or comfortable place?
Sorry I don't know the time of her or my birth. Her day was May 2/60 and mine is Sept. 11/66.
Virgo
Dear Virgo
The comparison does indicate trouble. There is a lack of trust and communication along with deception and anger. Uncertainty will always be a problem between the two of you regardless of whether you stay together or not. You need to let go. You have a good chart and if you can only realize that you were totally mismatched regarding your values and hers you might be able to move on. You match up to people born under the signs Taurus (not her - I'll explain later), Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. She may be a Taurus but only by Sun sign. She has her natal Mercury and Venus in the sign Aries and this sign does not match up to you at all. Mercury and Venus represent the way she thinks and communicates along with her morals, ethics and Venus represent the way she loves etc. What actually drew you together was the fact that you both have your Moon in the sign Cancer but that isn't enough to make a relationship work. She is erratic and can change her mind very rapidly. She wants to have fun and she needs freedom to come and go as she pleases. You need companionship, trust and someone who wants to be with you all the time. This connection just won't work that way. We are who we are and as much as either one of you may want to change I fear that the same problems will continually surface. You are headed toward lots of changes and you have to wrap your head around that and accept the inevitable. Should she even entertain the thought of getting back together it wouldn't be long before she would want to move on again. Let go and start anew. I believe that she has decided to do just that. The only time I see a possible reconciliation is this fall however as I mentioned before - should you get back together it would only be for a short period of time be
Hi Eugenia
I know I'm a Leo born August 22, 1942, at 12:42 PM and for the most part I have all of the traits, however, I seem to lack self-confidence in-group and social situations. I seem to be fine in a one on one...is this an astrological issue that is happening with my sign at this time?
Secondly, it seems that I am having more difficulty in focusing on where I want to go in my life... I have been recently working as a consultant in the accounting profession. My contract ended in February 2003. I felt burned out, and decided to take some time off. I am now having these anxiety attacks as to what my future holds.
Do I sell my current Condo home and move to a retirement park setting (Mfg. Home) this is all for financial reasons.. Do I continue to work on a consulting basis (assuming I can find a job)? What does my future hold as far as real estate, job, and investments, health... I know I'm all over the map, but thanks for your help.
Aussie
Hi Aussie
Yes you are a Leo in Character, looks, and love etc. but you think and act like a Virgo especially when dealing with groups etc and especially over the course of the past couple of years while transiting Saturn was adversely positioned to your natal Virgo planets. To top it off your natal Saturn is also adversely positioned to your natal Virgo planets as well making this even more significant as of late. The good news is that Saturn is moving off mid to late June and it will give you some relief in this area of your life. You just went through your second Saturn return about a year to a year and a half ago and this is why you are feeling the urgency for change in your life. You have been re-evaluating what you've done and you are looking to the future regarding what to do now. Changes in your home environment are present over the course of the next year and a half so you don't have to move immediately if you don't want to. As a matter of fact I believe that you will probably continue to take on contracts until the end of this year or even possibly the spring of next when you will feel that you are in a better financial position. During the second half of next year you will have a better chance to do well with real estate. Where health is concerned you may have some problems regarding your stomach, skin, bones and teeth or arthritis over the course of the next year especially if you are under stress. As long as you keep on top of any of these minor or chronic ailments everything should be just fine.
Eugenia
