We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia
Please let this be one of the letters you answer this week. I am absolutely in awe of my new friend of eight months. I was born July 2, 1973 at 4:57am and he was born January 4, 1965, I don't know his birth time. But, I do know that I have never respected, admired and been infatuated with anyone like this in my life. I would like to know if you look at both of our charts, can you explain this magnetic attraction that we have for each other that has not seemed to fade? Please write me back.
Enamoured
Dear Enamoured
Hold on, the fact that you are polar opposites can create the type of magic that you are both feeling however that doesn't always last. I call the stage that you are in right now the rush of love and although we would all love that feeling to last a lifetime it usually doesn't last much more than a couple of years if you are lucky. When the rush slows down you have to hope that you have built a strong base of friendship, sharing, caring and all the other things that make a relationship lasting. In your particular case the comparison was okay but that doesn't mean that it won't take work. You are both very different and it will be important that you allow one another to remain unique without shutting the other out because of lack of interest in the same things. Tread carefully, but enjoy what you have at the moment. There is no greater feeling than the rush of love.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
My life is a mess. I really hope that you will choose my letter as I really don't know what to do anymore. I know that you can't give me all the answers but maybe you can give me some direction.
I was born April 11, 1964 1:07AM, and I currently live abroad. I have been involved in a relationship since 1989 and last March I was told it was over. My fianc?e was born July 3, 1965 1:45PM. I have spent over 1 year trying to work things out with her but she maintains that it is over. I believe that she is the one for me and that is why I have tried so hard to work things out.
I am now at the point where I feel like giving up. If I do, I don't feel that I can stay here anymore. It would hurt too much. I have been here so long that I really don't have a home anywhere. Where I grew up, no longer feels like home.Therefore my question really comes down to whether or not I should keep trying to work things out and if not should I return to my birthplace or go somewhere else?
Up in the Air
Dear Up in the Air
The comparison was quite good however I believe that it is possible that too much has happened during the ten years you were together such as not committing one hundred percent through marriage. Her chart indicates that she may have found some outside interest early last year that made her realize that she wasn't happy with you. That may sound harsh but I feel that it's reality. Your chart indicates that you are coming into a period that could bring someone from your past back into your life between now and October. This could be her or someone from back home perhaps. My suggestion to you is that you take a month and travel back to your routes just to see what's happening. You may meet someone who urges you to move home. The other scenario might be that if your Cancer fianc?e feels that she may lose you forever she might be inclined to change her mind. Your charts indicate that you have been going through a make it or break it period for a few years and it was only natural that something had to give. I believe she truly loves/loved you but that you probably frustrated her regarding marriage and children for a number of years and now you are paying the consequences.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I know I've met my soul mate, but we keep having conflicts that end with me not wanting to deal with him. He's a Taurus born May 4, 1971 and I'm a Cancer born June 25, 1962. Nine months ago he came back into my life after a 5-year separation, and I believed he wanted a second chance and that he truly loved me. His actions say otherwise when it comes to my feelings. I've gone out of my way, once again, to make sure he is happy, comfortable, and to give all the support he needs. He's done nothing for me and he makes me feel that he has taken advantage of me again and only cares about himself.
I've just recently asked him to leave, because he had hurt my feelings again and that was the last straw for me. I miss him desperately, but I don't know if it's my self-destructive behavior that won't completely let go! I don't want to go through this back and forth emotional roller coaster with him forever. Am I lying to myself? My Cancer logic is slipping away...
Destined
Dear Destined
The comparison does lack some qualities that I would like to see and deception and disillusionment are present in areas of your chart that deal with the home and chores that you share with one another. The unfortunate thing is that once you do too much for someone it is hard to back off and stop doing without causing problems in the relationship. This person is taking advantage of you but you have allowed it to happen. Your chart indicates that you do have problems when it comes to relationships. Your natal Saturn opposite your natal Venus both adversely aspected by your natal Neptune can make it difficult for you to choose properly. It is important for you to have an astrological comparison done before you give your heart to someone. You are in a high cycle for romance right now and will also be during the first half of next year. It is important for you to move on and free yourself of this man who has little to offer you but grief. Keep in mind that as long as he is in your life it will be difficult to take advantage of the opportunities you have for meeting someone new. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
