We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: An Over Indulgence

Dear Eugenia,

I hope very much that you can help me. I was born on 26 December 1963 at 3.35 AM and my ex-boyfriend was born 10 January 1967. We have been together for four or so years and he has just told me that we are finished. He has always been a 'closed book' as far as feelings go or showing them at least. He told me that while he misses me and 90% of the time he is happy with me, there are certain characteristics of mine that he cannot stand. The main being, and I admit this - I tend to overindulge in alcohol on occasions. He feels that I have a problem with this and will not tolerate it any longer.

We don't live together and I have always felt that I was the one giving a lot more than him. We live in a small country town where gossip is rife and unfortunately a lot of people have nothing more to do than embellish.My childhood was odd and I have recently lost my brother and I feel that these things influence my behavior at times.

I asked him if I had lost him forever and he replied that we both had a lot of thinking do.

Please help me. I am so lost and sad and while I believe in taking responsibility for my actions - is there any chance for us?

EllyMM

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Dear EllyMM

Your comparison was certainly good enough to make it work however I worry that too much has happened for him to turn back. Your chart indicates that you are and have been going through a period of over indulgence that does need to be stopped. I believe that he is truly concerned for you and just can't take how you react when under the influence. It's time to pull your act together and hope that it's not too late to win him back. You do have a transit moving through your chart until the Spring of next year that indicates that people from your past are likely to come back into your life but you will have to work hard for it to be him. He will be experiencing a similar transit so the possibility if you take all the right steps is present. I suggest that you stop indulging all together in order to save yourself a lot of grief in the future.

Eugenia

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Article: Getting Better

Dear Eugenia

I think I have too many burdens in my life. I'm a 20 yr old male. As I failed in all my exams and could not enter any college, all of my best friends left me. I didn't have many friends to begin with, but focused on developing a deep friendship with just one or two.However, they left me. You can imagine how depressed I am. Anyway, I was really quiet as if I was hiding in a cave for a year. And then, this year, 2001, I went to an art college but I found it difficult to make new friends while I was there. I couldn't find anyone who could share with me. Besides, I lost hope in music and in my ability to do well in the courses I was studying. I feel so depressed... I think things won't get better if I don't make changes to myself. However, it's hard to change and improve if I don't know where to start. Eugenia, please give me your advice. I was born August 30, 1981, at 5:30 AM.

Depressed

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Dear Depressed

I believe that part of your problem is that you are focusing on the wrong things right now. Your chart indicates that you should be in the work force learning on the job or through an apprenticeship. The area of your chart that deals with work and money looks quite good as does getting recognition for what you do. If your interest in music happens to lead to playing in a band or singing or something of that nature you may want to get a job and start to push your own musical talent during your off hours. You are in a high cycle over the course of the next couple of years regarding getting ahead and following your dreams, hopes and wishes. Although it is always good to get an education not everyone is a good student. That doesn't mean however that you can't do well and excel at something that you love to do. Regarding friends and lovers you have to be patient. Many of your friends have moved in a different direction but there is some opportunity around you regarding making new friends. The possibility of meeting someone special is also apparent however both friendships and emotional relationships appear to be made at or through work. You match up well to those born under the signs Gemini, Sagittarius, Aquarius and Pisces.

Eugenia

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Article: Lost Hope

Dear Eugenia,

Please...Eugenia...how long do I have to wait to get your reply? Do I need to write in English? I'm waiting for your help.

I was born in Sept 18, 1956 (9:10 PM) and he was born in Dec 26, 1961, my ex-husband was born Dec 26, 1957. I'm not sure about his birth time. He is the most precious person in my life and I would not trade him for anyone else. He is not afraid of anything. We were happy as if we had both found the love of our life. We told each other that we could not find the another person that we could love more.

However, he changes his mind now. He is still going out with me but it's different from what we used to be. He even wants to break up with me but we both know that we love each other. My life is in total darkness now. I lost hope. I am trying to overcome this difficult feeling, but sometimes I don't want to be alive anymore. I cry almost everyday.

If I wait for him, will he come back to me? At this moment, I'm going to wait and endure this hardship. For your reference, I'm taking care of my children (1 son & 1 daughter) alone. What does he mean to me? Is he my man? If not, when will I meet Mr. Right? Or is it better to live alone?

Eugenia...how many times do I need to write to you? It may be hard for me to wait another week.

From a person who needs God's help.
Virgo Lady

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Dear Virgo Lady

You do match up better to your younger Capricorn then you did to your ex-husband but this relationship is still lacking some of the basic qualities that one should have in a serious partnership. There is some sorrow that is present and that falls in an area of your chart that deals with your home and family. This man may not be completely honest with you regarding how he feels about your children. Your chart indicates that you are going through many changes in your personal life and that this man is probably a stepping stone in your life. I belief that both the Capricorn's in your life have been there to teach you something. Both men have their Sun sign placed in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects and therefore it is difficult to have a long term relationship with either one of them. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Leo Scorpio, Aquarius and Pisces. You will be in a high cycle where love is concerned during the first half of next year. During that period you may find that your younger Capricorn will want to rekindle your relationship but I must caution you not to be too quick to take him back. You are best to keep your options open and meet new men who will probably match up to you much better.

Eugenia

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