We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I feel so hopeless at this point in my relationship and was looking for some guidance. My husband and I have been married 20 years and together 22 years. Last year he just upped and left the house and said he wanted a divorce. We've had our ups and downs but basically a good relationship and especially a good friendship, or so I thought. After being gone for 9 months he decided he wanted to make a go of it and came back into my life.
Please understand that when he left I was so distraught and even considered suicide. I allowed him back in my life and we agreed we'd take it one day at a time. It's only been two months and he has just informed me that he cannot stand the guilt he's feeling and had to confess that he feels like he came back for all the wrong reasons. I have been to counseling and he has agreed to also go talk to someone. I just can't tell you how sick I feel right now. I can't believe he would give up after only two months knowing we have so much to work through. I love this man with all my heart and know in my heart we can get through this.
I was wondering if there is any way to help me in my sole search for the right path. We've been told several times that we were meant to be together, but I know that doesn't mean it will happen or even be easy.
His birthday is 4/24/58 and mine is 12/6/58. My birth hour is 4:08am but I don't know his. I don't know what to do and cannot emotionally handle another broken heart. Could things work out between us if we put forth the effort and will he put forth the effort needed to get us through this?
AKA Broken Hearted
Dear AKA Broken Hearted
You do have a decent comparison with your husband both mentally and emotionally however physically there do appear to be some problems. Your chart indicates that your relationship will be unstable until mid February however deception and disillusionment will continue to haunt you right through next year. The final outcome will be apparent October/November of next year. You do have to give this relationship a chance but unless both of you do so it isn't likely to work. Your husband's chart denotes that he is totally confused about his personal life and that isn't about to change any time soon. He is likely to experience a change of heart around May/June of next year. The one thing that I don't want you to do is to be a doormat. Opportunities for romance can be yours in May/June so if your husband isn't trying to rekindle his relationship with you at that time don't be afraid to get out and meet someone new. It will also be the time to clear up any legal matters or financial concerns. You have to start looking out for yourself. It would be nice if you could to sort through your differences but if you can't be prepared to do what's best for you. If you don't communicate with one another or you both see different therapists you may never figure out what the real problem is. You have to work together in order to come to a workable agreement.
Eugenia
Hi, Eugenia!
I am curious about something. I have been dating a guy with my exact same birth date, March 9, for the past two months. It hasn't been totally easy or anything, but overall, it's been great. Did I just find a really great guy, or is there an added astrological bonus when you find someone who's sun is exactly conjunct your own? I was born March 9, 1980 at 1:10 A.M. He was born March 9, 1978 at 6:40 A.M.
Thank you!
Curious
Dear Curious
I have always liked to see the same sign relationships. I think that they can be very good however that is not always the case. In your case the comparison shows a lot of deception, disillusionment and sorrow so don't get too comfortable. Pregnancy also shows up so be very careful. Your boyfriends chart has a lot more Pisces in it, having his natal Sun, Moon, Mercury and Venus along with his ascendant in that sign. You on the other hand have more planets in the sign Virgo (polar opposite to Pisces) having your natal Mars, Jupiter and Saturn in that sign and only the Sun and Mercury in Pisces. Every chart and each comparison is a different set up and although I believe that you will learn something from this relationship I do not necessarily feel that it will be the best or the longest lasting union that you encounter.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I need some serious advice" my husband has serious health problems" and he is also a very bad alcoholic which is getting worse every day" he has been charged with drinking and driving five years ago " but he is starting to do it again " my life is hell with him my question should I start making plans to leave or stay a bit longer? I am Cancer born July 3, 1946, at 2:45 PM; he is Capricorn Jan. 18 1946. Hope you can help me thank you.
Cancer
Dear Cancer
Hey girl it's time to move on - what are you waiting for. The comparison was anything but good and although I could see your reason for being with him initially once the spark was gone so was the relationship. You are both coming into your Saturn return next year and I feel strongly that you must re-evaluate your position and make the necessary changes. I fear he will not make the effort on his own but should you leave he may be forced to. Regardless you cannot stick around in hopes that he will improve - this relationship has been over for a long time. You are in a high cycle right now for meeting someone new and you are wasting this opportunity by staying in the situation you are in. Take a deep breath, get moving and don't look back.
Eugenia
