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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I feel so hopeless at this point in my relationship and was looking for some guidance. My husband and I have been married 20 years and together 22 years. Last year he just upped and left the house and said he wanted a divorce. We've had our ups and downs but basically a good relationship and especially a good friendship, or so I thought. After being gone for 9 months he decided he wanted to make a go of it and came back into my life.
Please understand that when he left I was so distraught and even considered suicide. I allowed him back in my life and we agreed we'd take it one day at a time. It's only been two months and he has just informed me that he cannot stand the guilt he's feeling and had to confess that he feels like he came back for all the wrong reasons. I have been to counseling and he has agreed to also go talk to someone. I just can't tell you how sick I feel right now. I can't believe he would give up after only two months knowing we have so much to work through. I love this man with all my heart and know in my heart we can get through this.
I was wondering if there is any way to help me in my sole search for the right path. We've been told several times that we were meant to be together, but I know that doesn't mean it will happen or even be easy.
His birthday is 4/24/58 and mine is 12/6/58. My birth hour is 4:08am but I don't know his. I don't know what to do and cannot emotionally handle another broken heart. Could things work out between us if we put forth the effort and will he put forth the effort needed to get us through this?
AKA Broken Hearted
Dear AKA Broken Hearted
You do have a decent comparison with your husband both mentally and emotionally however physically there do appear to be some problems. Your chart indicates that your relationship will be unstable until mid February however deception and disillusionment will continue to haunt you right through next year. The final outcome will be apparent October/November of next year. You do have to give this relationship a chance but unless both of you do so it isn't likely to work. Your husband's chart denotes that he is totally confused about his personal life and that isn't about to change any time soon. He is likely to experience a change of heart around May/June of next year. The one thing that I don't want you to do is to be a doormat. Opportunities for romance can be yours in May/June so if your husband isn't trying to rekindle his relationship with you at that time don't be afraid to get out and meet someone new. It will also be the time to clear up any legal matters or financial concerns. You have to start looking out for yourself. It would be nice if you could to sort through your differences but if you can't be prepared to do what's best for you. If you don't communicate with one another or you both see different therapists you may never figure out what the real problem is. You have to work together in order to come to a workable agreement.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I wrote to you years ago, when I was in a very serious relationship, which you predicted, would come to an end due to our young age, but you added that I would be lucky in love again. You were right, my boyfriend (14/02/1974) and I (07/08/1973, at 7:20 am) were in love at 17. He was a fantastic person who truly cared for me. But at 21, I decided I needed time to explore my life. And so, I finished college (PR) and wanted to travel. Before my boyfriend and I officially split, I had an encounter with a mature man (03/10/1950?) who would leave a profound impression on me. This Libra happened to be my manager. He had a huge crush on me, but he never did anything to breakup his marriage or anything. Yet, he made such an impact in my life because of his sophisticated Libra ways--plus, he showered me with compliments. Nevertheless, my boyfriend and I broke up and I got on the plane for my European adventure, after innocently kissing the boss farewell. When I returned, I contacted my old boss for a reference and job leads. He was very helpful and a joy to talk to. I managed to get myself a great job and ended up doing creative work--which he always inspired me to do. With 19 months of work in my portfolio, I was eager to see my old manager to show him what I've done with my life. He wouldn't meet me, even for a lunch. Knowing that he was still married (I was single), I didn't press him. Nearly eight years later, I was now married to (24/06/1971). Life added another twist, bringing me back to the "old" neighborhood where my manager and I worked. On a lunch break from a day seminar, I ate in our old spot. Feeling nostalgic, I couldn't help writing a thank you note to my mentor, as the course I was on that day continued the career path he had set me on. Spontaneously, I scribbled a letter on napkins. I stuck it into my purse and forgot about it for almost a year. Spring-cleaning had me clearing out my closet and... well, I just had to find my old boss and I did, and I was sure he'd be over the middle-age crisis crush and meet me for a coffee. No! He still had feelings for me, saying he would have to sit on his hands--he was still attracted to me. I laughed it off and retorted: "you're such a flirt". Settling for e-mailing, we ended up in constant cravings for e-contact. Our conversations flowed naturally. He told me he was separated. I felt I had to see him. I did. I hugged him for an eternity and suddenly we shared a kiss. I was thrilled to see him--and felt wonderful to have him back in my life. I value his opinions and cherish industry information and valuable support he gives me. Problem: I had no idea I had feelings for him also. I soon found myself day dreaming about him. We meet a few times after, and each time our emotions got the better of us (nothing beyond hugging, kissing). I told him I was very much in love with my husband and he said he couldn't resolve his feelings for me, and decided for both our interests to ignore me--we both disagreed to an affair. I agreed and months later, I miss him sooooooooooo much.!
I'm in love with my husband, but I need to know how my manager is doing? is he happy?, how's he managing with life, career, love, and family?--he's got his kids and he's such a great dad. Will we ever see each other again? Can we get over this "puppy love" and continue to love and cherish each other in a platonic relationship?
Leo
Dear Leo
I can see why you are in such a state. First of all you continue to match up the best to your boyfriend from way back when (Feb. 14/74), and there is nothing wrong with that. You were both too young and had too much life to live before settling down however even though you did manage to get out and do your own thing you somehow got caught in a whirlwind romance with your manager and even though it was platonic, in mind it definitely was not. You match up to both your husband and
Dear Eugenia,
I have been in love with my husband for a very long time. Our relationship has weathered many ups and downs but the past few years have been particularly difficult. He has been unfaithful and is currently unable to make a decision between staying and recommitting to our marriage or not. I was born on april29/55 (@ 5:55pm). He is a Scorpio (November 17/55). With all that we have been through (on a variety of levels) my heart still hopes for an honest chance at happiness. I can't bear this pain.
Together or Not
Dear Together or Not
I can understand your position. As a Taurus with a strong Cancer and Scorpio influence you don't really relish disruptions of any kind especially when it has to do with your home, family and security. The comparison with your husband was okay but it did lack some pizzazz. He may be a Scorpio but when it comes to love and romance he has his natal Venus in the sign Sagittarius and that is usually an indication that married or not he will always be a bachelor at heart. I think it's time to set him free and get on with your life. You have a lot to offer and can still find love and romance with someone more worthy of your loyalty, dedication and devotion. You need to start doing the activities you used to enjoy, get back into the swing of things. It may be frightening at first but you will be fine. Keep in mind that it can be extremely lonely living with someone who pays little attention to you. You deserve more and you can have it. Your chart indicates that it's time to focus on yourself and your future. I feel that if your husband saw you as a challenge he may want to reconcile, however if I were you, I'd think long and hard before I'd jump into that situation again. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. Take note that the Scorpio in your husband's chart is what initially attracted you, not the Sagittarius. Another Scorpio with his natal Venus in Scorpio, Capricorn or Virgo would probably match up quite nicely.
Eugenia
