We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Opt Out

Dear Eugenia,

This is my third letter to you in the last few months; I would be so grateful if you could respond, either via email or on the site. I was born on 4/14/71 at 4:41 PM. In the summer of 1997, I broke up with my long-term boyfriend (of approximately 7 years). I have been alone ever since, but for a few guys passing through. I am really feeling ready for a relationship, but it seems like the universe is against me. I rarely meet anyone, and when I do, it ends quickly. I am still connected to my ex (born 2/25/69, at 9:41 AM) although he is married now. Happily, I do not know, because he still contacts me and admits that he dreams of me. He took me out for dinner a few months ago, and didn't tell his wife. I, of course, would never do anything to harm his union, although I still love him. Does it seem like anything is on the way for me romantically? Should I sever my ties with my ex completely?

Thanks in advance, Eugenia.
Meant To Be

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Dear Meant To Be

Do yourself, your ex and his wife a favor. Opt out on this one. Your comparison with your ex wasn't all that great. The fact that you went out to dinner with him is already hurting his marriage. Just think how his wife will feel if she finds out. You should tell your ex to get his life together and not to call you anymore. Chances are good that if he did come back into your life you would probably break up again. As for you, regarding relationships you appear to be a little self-deceptive about what you really want. You actually match up to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra and Aquarius. Better opportunities for love and romance will be yours next year and you are likely to meet someone through a work related event. Your ex's chart indicates that he is looking for an affair. For you to get involved in a love triangle would only result in you missing the chance to meet someone special as well as feeling terribly guilty. Remind yourself why this relationship ended. Don't be his escape because he isn't happy. Move on and refuse to engage in his deceptive plans. It takes two to tango, I urge you not to be his partner.

Eugenia

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Article: An Issue of Commitment

Dear Eugenia,

About 7 years ago I fell in love with a man and got hurt very deeply. I have consulted astrologers, psychics, and have utilized every possible resource to find out what went wrong. I gave my heart to this man and I am not a person who trusts people in the first place. I am wondering how two people can be so close emotionally and yet drift apart so easily. He is 19 years older than I am but we were like soul mates. I thought about suicide many times but God and my family have helped me to get through my grief. I have never loved anyone this much in my lifetime. Will he ever get in contact with me again or was I just used by him? His birth date is 8/28/1948, mine is 8/03/1967, at 8:38 PM.

Betrayed

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Dear Betrayed

You do match up quite well to your Virgo man. You have that sign in an area of your chart that deals with relationships. You are going to be going through a period in the fall that could bring people from your past back into your life however I have a feeling that the reason that your Virgo left the last time was due to commitment problems. He was born with his natal Moon in Gemini adversely aspected to his natal Mercury in Virgo and his natal Jupiter in Sagittarius. This can cause him to be emotionally unstable when it comes to settling down. This is not something that is likely to change. He could very well be a confirmed bachelor. I believe that you need to move on. Your chart indicates that you are very sensitive, loving and loyal and that you want to be involved in a long-term commitment. During the fall of this year you will have some opportunities to meet potential partners if you get out and do things that you enjoy. You match up well to those born under the signs Virgo, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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Article: Where to go from Here?

Hi Eugenia,

I have in the last several years come out of my denial as a person and become more conscious. In the past however, I have not always made the best choices in relationships. I either stayed too long or left too soon. I am attractive and interesting but am wondering if astrologically there will be better times in the future for relationships than the present. Things seem to be difficult for love and money at this time. In the past things seemed to happen more naturally but now I just seem to be sitting on the "fence of life" When will I jump off. I was born July 27, 1951, at 5:30 AM.

Fence Sitter

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Dear Fence Sitter

You are going through a period that can cloud your perception especially where relationships are concerned and therefore sitting on the fence may not be a bad idea for now. You can however put your efforts into areas that are positive in your life. Consider making new friends by getting involved in organizations you believe in. Perhaps volunteering to help campaign for a political group. You need to be spending time with others and that doesn't mean looking for love. Building solid friendships is where it's at for you right now. That can be with either gender. You will be in a much higher cycle regarding love during the fall of next year and throughout the first half of 2002. You should also make some creative changes to your living quarters. Consider initiating a move or redecorating. This will lift your spirits. When it comes to finding love you match up to the signs Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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