We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
This is my third letter to you in the last few months; I would be so grateful if you could respond, either via email or on the site. I was born on 4/14/71 at 4:41 PM. In the summer of 1997, I broke up with my long-term boyfriend (of approximately 7 years). I have been alone ever since, but for a few guys passing through. I am really feeling ready for a relationship, but it seems like the universe is against me. I rarely meet anyone, and when I do, it ends quickly. I am still connected to my ex (born 2/25/69, at 9:41 AM) although he is married now. Happily, I do not know, because he still contacts me and admits that he dreams of me. He took me out for dinner a few months ago, and didn't tell his wife. I, of course, would never do anything to harm his union, although I still love him. Does it seem like anything is on the way for me romantically? Should I sever my ties with my ex completely?
Thanks in advance, Eugenia.
Meant To Be
Dear Meant To Be
Do yourself, your ex and his wife a favor. Opt out on this one. Your comparison with your ex wasn't all that great. The fact that you went out to dinner with him is already hurting his marriage. Just think how his wife will feel if she finds out. You should tell your ex to get his life together and not to call you anymore. Chances are good that if he did come back into your life you would probably break up again. As for you, regarding relationships you appear to be a little self-deceptive about what you really want. You actually match up to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra and Aquarius. Better opportunities for love and romance will be yours next year and you are likely to meet someone through a work related event. Your ex's chart indicates that he is looking for an affair. For you to get involved in a love triangle would only result in you missing the chance to meet someone special as well as feeling terribly guilty. Remind yourself why this relationship ended. Don't be his escape because he isn't happy. Move on and refuse to engage in his deceptive plans. It takes two to tango, I urge you not to be his partner.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia:
I am a Taurus (May 6, 1971: 1:36pm), and I fell in love with a Capricorn (January 14, 1971 - don't know his birth time). He is perfect for me in every way, and is everything I have ever asked for in a man. However, we had to break up because of a very important obligation that he has in his life; he told me this because he doesn't want to complicate my life, and I realized that, due to his unique situation, we don't have a future together, even though we are both in love with each other and continue to see each other. My question is this: I have a feeling that he's trying to get out of his obligation (of which he's wanted out way before he met me) because he wants to be with me so badly. I don't know if I can love anyone like I love him, so I'm having a very hard time. Do I wait a little longer, or do I continue "playing the field," hoping to find a love that will rival or even surpass the one I have with Mr. Capricorn? Hopefully, you will have some positive words to guide my heart and soul, because, right now, I'm not sure as to what I should do.
Thank you -
Emotionally Ravaged
Dear Emotionally Ravaged
The comparison isn't bad but there is an element of emotional deception, limitation and restriction that's apparent. I believe that under normal circumstances this relationship could work but that is not the case so move on. You need to get out and have fun. Join clubs or organizations that you have an interest in and you will meet like-minded people. You are coming into a high cycle where love is concerned so don't miss out because you are waiting for your Capricorn to get his act together. The fact that you move on may push him to deal with the pending problems that face him. You match up well to those born under the signs Leo and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
I have been in a relationship with a man for 18 years. He is a cancer born July 12, 1959 and I am a Pisces born March 16, 1959 at 10:54 pm. We have been lovers and friends for 16 years and decided to try living together for the last 2 years. He's going through something right now that has caused him to end our relationship. I don't really understand why we can't work things out together. I feel that since we moved in together he hasn't been straightforward or honest with me in what he expected from our "live in" relationship. He feels that if after 2 years we weren't going to get married that I should leave him. In turn, he dumped me. I am devastated, but am not the type to hang around and keep waiting for him to decide what he wants. Do you think we will ever get back together? I believed he was my soul mate. Was I wrong? I'm beginning a new chapter in my life on November 12th. I will be moving into my own place....I will truly miss him, though.
Pisces
Hi Pisces
Your Cancer partner has been going through emotional confusion that has lead to a change of heart on his part. The comparison between the two of you is actually quite good except his natal Sun falls in an are of your chart that deals with dead end project and unfortunately Saturn has been moving through that part of your chart as well resulting in a spilt up situation. You began to go through your second half life Saturn around the time the two of you moved in together and this resulted in an on going make it or break it cycle. I believe that he may have regrets when things settle down for him in 2006 and that it is possible that he may come back into your life October/November of next year but I must warn you that you have to protect your heart and take your time if you decide that you still want to be with him. You will be in a high cycle regarding love and romance at that time and it is quite possible that you will meet someone who is more certain about what and who he wants in his life. You match up well to those born under that signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra Scorpio, Sagittarius and Aquarius. Your Cancer partner only has his natal Sun in the sign Cancer therefore he does match up to you because of the strong Leo influence in his chart. This means that he does have a lot of common ground with you and you do get along but also that you may have been together to teach one another a life lesson. I wouldn't rule this man out of your life but I certainly would be using the upcoming year to get out and meet new partners. You are youthful, sensitive, giving and there is every indication that you will have more than one soul mate throughout your life. They say that we all have eleven perfect matches on the planet. Just think - you have another ten to find. By joining organizations or through friends, dating services, travel and educational pursuits you are likely to meet someone very special over the course of the next ten months so don't sit around feeling badly because he is confused. Get on with your life and if he happens to come back and you've already met soul mate number two he will be out of luck.
Eugenia
