We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Opt Out

Dear Eugenia,

This is my third letter to you in the last few months; I would be so grateful if you could respond, either via email or on the site. I was born on 4/14/71 at 4:41 PM. In the summer of 1997, I broke up with my long-term boyfriend (of approximately 7 years). I have been alone ever since, but for a few guys passing through. I am really feeling ready for a relationship, but it seems like the universe is against me. I rarely meet anyone, and when I do, it ends quickly. I am still connected to my ex (born 2/25/69, at 9:41 AM) although he is married now. Happily, I do not know, because he still contacts me and admits that he dreams of me. He took me out for dinner a few months ago, and didn't tell his wife. I, of course, would never do anything to harm his union, although I still love him. Does it seem like anything is on the way for me romantically? Should I sever my ties with my ex completely?

Thanks in advance, Eugenia.
Meant To Be

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Dear Meant To Be

Do yourself, your ex and his wife a favor. Opt out on this one. Your comparison with your ex wasn't all that great. The fact that you went out to dinner with him is already hurting his marriage. Just think how his wife will feel if she finds out. You should tell your ex to get his life together and not to call you anymore. Chances are good that if he did come back into your life you would probably break up again. As for you, regarding relationships you appear to be a little self-deceptive about what you really want. You actually match up to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra and Aquarius. Better opportunities for love and romance will be yours next year and you are likely to meet someone through a work related event. Your ex's chart indicates that he is looking for an affair. For you to get involved in a love triangle would only result in you missing the chance to meet someone special as well as feeling terribly guilty. Remind yourself why this relationship ended. Don't be his escape because he isn't happy. Move on and refuse to engage in his deceptive plans. It takes two to tango, I urge you not to be his partner.

Eugenia

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Article: Lost Hope

Dear Eugenia,

Please...Eugenia...how long do I have to wait to get your reply? Do I need to write in English? I'm waiting for your help.

I was born in Sept 18, 1956 (9:10 PM) and he was born in Dec 26, 1961, my ex-husband was born Dec 26, 1957. I'm not sure about his birth time. He is the most precious person in my life and I would not trade him for anyone else. He is not afraid of anything. We were happy as if we had both found the love of our life. We told each other that we could not find the another person that we could love more.

However, he changes his mind now. He is still going out with me but it's different from what we used to be. He even wants to break up with me but we both know that we love each other. My life is in total darkness now. I lost hope. I am trying to overcome this difficult feeling, but sometimes I don't want to be alive anymore. I cry almost everyday.

If I wait for him, will he come back to me? At this moment, I'm going to wait and endure this hardship. For your reference, I'm taking care of my children (1 son & 1 daughter) alone. What does he mean to me? Is he my man? If not, when will I meet Mr. Right? Or is it better to live alone?

Eugenia...how many times do I need to write to you? It may be hard for me to wait another week.

From a person who needs God's help.
Virgo Lady

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Dear Virgo Lady

You do match up better to your younger Capricorn then you did to your ex-husband but this relationship is still lacking some of the basic qualities that one should have in a serious partnership. There is some sorrow that is present and that falls in an area of your chart that deals with your home and family. This man may not be completely honest with you regarding how he feels about your children. Your chart indicates that you are going through many changes in your personal life and that this man is probably a stepping stone in your life. I belief that both the Capricorn's in your life have been there to teach you something. Both men have their Sun sign placed in an area of your chart that deals with dead end projects and therefore it is difficult to have a long term relationship with either one of them. You actually match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Leo Scorpio, Aquarius and Pisces. You will be in a high cycle where love is concerned during the first half of next year. During that period you may find that your younger Capricorn will want to rekindle your relationship but I must caution you not to be too quick to take him back. You are best to keep your options open and meet new men who will probably match up to you much better.

Eugenia

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Article: A Weak Woman

Dear Eugenia

This is my third attempt to connect with you. I think this is a wonderful feature that you offer, and your generosity is so very much appreciated!! I have been having some intense problems with my lover of almost 2 years. We are both passionate people, and fell in love with each other over night. We've been together ever since we met (Sept. 9th, 1999). Neither of us has ever experienced love like this before. BUT, I have never experienced such emotionally "brutal" fights in my life. This man that I love can also be cruel, merciless, and manipulative. I need to know what his chart says about this streak in him (I know it has to do with Scorpio) because I am now trying to be very realistic about what I am getting myself into over long term. You have said before that Scorpio men hate any sign of weakness....well, that is a tall order, seeing that every woman or man has their weaknesses. Piscean's tend to show their weaknesses even more so...or at least they appear weak to many people.

I am one of these Piscean's. I have had a very hard life, and in my 27 years have come a very long way from how I was raised. People often see me as angelic, youthful, darling, blessed, and sheltered. It is so ironic, because my background was one of deep sadness, nightmares, and abuse!! Many things happened, but one that I can say just a few words about and gain some understanding is that my mother went into a mental institution when I was six, came out shortly after, and raised me, herself an unmedicated paranoid schizophrenic until I was 11. I lived in a very different world until other adults got involved and took me out of that situation. Obviously this has a tremendous affect on my ability to relate to my peers. My father begrudgingly took me in to live with he and his new wife. They threw me into school (I had not been to elementary school in two years) and punished me for not doing well. My Dad and stepmother treated me like a leper (my stepmother was a very jealous young woman) for years. They made a great income, but did not buy me clothes unless they were from the goodwill or Salvation Army. I always felt like I should ask them to forgive me for imposing on their life. Truly.

Well, I never got past the ninth grade. I worked, starting at 14, in restaurants. I had great dreams of traveling the world, escaping my sadness, becoming something extraordinary. The idealistic dreams of youth always seem to elude us all. I just kept struggling, trying to go back to school and dropping out. It was awful, and by this time, my beloved mother was a homeless woman. Anyway (I am writing much more than I intended) I am now working in a high tech job. My personality is what got me in the door, plus some white lies on my resume. Looking at my current life, my job included, no one who would meet me now would ever even imagine where I came from. I think this is pretty good. I am sad that I have not gone to see the world yet. I would like to write books. I love to write, but self-discipline is very hard for me.

Ok, so my current love belittles me and says that I am weak (I do cry a lot) and that he does not want a weak woman. Other times he tells me I am the best thing that has ever happened to him. He is going to Europe (leaving tomorrow) for 3 months without me. I am incredibly hurt by this. Please tell me what our charts say about our ability to work through things. He is: December 22, 1967, 4:56 AM. I am: March 5th, 1974, 7:16 AM.

Pisces

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Dear Pisces

You are actually only a Pisces by Sun sign having your natal Mercury, Venus and Jupiter in Aquarius, your natal Mars and Saturn in Gemini and your natal Uranus and Pluto in Libra. This gives you a strong air influence in your chart. To top it off the other remaining influences are definitely fire with your natal Moon in Leo and your natal Neptune in Sagittarius with Aries r

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