We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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I have decided to put more time and energy into my research. It’s been a pleasure to answer your emails and to help you through some of life’s tough journeys. Everyone who has participated in my Dear Eugenia column has enriched my life and I hope I have improved yours as well.

For those of you who wish to contribute birth data to my research, please enter your information to my medical astrology research listed on my home page. This research is explicitly dealing with cancer and mental health – addiction illness. The focus is on early diagnosis and preventative medicine.

I want to stress how important it is to submit complete and accurate birth data – the time and place of birth.

The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Opt Out

Dear Eugenia,

This is my third letter to you in the last few months; I would be so grateful if you could respond, either via email or on the site. I was born on 4/14/71 at 4:41 PM. In the summer of 1997, I broke up with my long-term boyfriend (of approximately 7 years). I have been alone ever since, but for a few guys passing through. I am really feeling ready for a relationship, but it seems like the universe is against me. I rarely meet anyone, and when I do, it ends quickly. I am still connected to my ex (born 2/25/69, at 9:41 AM) although he is married now. Happily, I do not know, because he still contacts me and admits that he dreams of me. He took me out for dinner a few months ago, and didn't tell his wife. I, of course, would never do anything to harm his union, although I still love him. Does it seem like anything is on the way for me romantically? Should I sever my ties with my ex completely?

Thanks in advance, Eugenia.
Meant To Be

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Dear Meant To Be

Do yourself, your ex and his wife a favor. Opt out on this one. Your comparison with your ex wasn't all that great. The fact that you went out to dinner with him is already hurting his marriage. Just think how his wife will feel if she finds out. You should tell your ex to get his life together and not to call you anymore. Chances are good that if he did come back into your life you would probably break up again. As for you, regarding relationships you appear to be a little self-deceptive about what you really want. You actually match up to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo, Libra and Aquarius. Better opportunities for love and romance will be yours next year and you are likely to meet someone through a work related event. Your ex's chart indicates that he is looking for an affair. For you to get involved in a love triangle would only result in you missing the chance to meet someone special as well as feeling terribly guilty. Remind yourself why this relationship ended. Don't be his escape because he isn't happy. Move on and refuse to engage in his deceptive plans. It takes two to tango, I urge you not to be his partner.

Eugenia

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Article: Push Or Pull

Hi Eugenia,

I am now in a state of anxiety and emotionally unstable. I was born on September 9, 1973. I always fail when it comes to love and romance. I had one-sided love affair for 5 years. The guy was born in February 28. 1973. I have never told him that I loved him and he got married last year.

At the end of the year 2000, I fell in love with a guy born in October 6, 1966. We have a sexual relationship and I want to marry him. But I now found that he always tells lies and cheats on me. He is not serious. If I treat him well, he would feel annoyed and leave. If I am cool, he may pay more attention to me. Recently, I met my old classmate. He was a 1973 Taurus. He treats me very well. But I am a conservative girl. Since I have had a sexual relationship with my boyfriend, I don't know how to face this Taurus guy.

Although I visit your website every day, I still cannot find a way to release this feeling. I wish you could help and tell me what to do.

Confused

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Dear Confused

I can see your attraction to your October partner however the comparison wasn't that good. I believe that you can do much better. Without your Taurus friends complete birth date I cannot really comment on your connection with him. I can tell you however that you do need to make some personal changes. You are in a high cycle where love and romance are concerned right now however if you are with your Libra friend it isn't likely that you will meet someone new. You need to reevaluate your motives. I believe you are with your Libra because you fear being alone. You must let go and move forward if you want to achieve happiness. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Sagittarius and Aquarius.

Eugenia

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Article: Loving Yourself

Dear Eugenia

I have been a member of astroadvice for a while. I do not check my horoscope that often because I like using Tarot Cards more. But since I am amazed about your work. I have to ask you a very personal question: I am, unfortunately, a homosexual. I do have a crush on someone. He is a homo-phobic person.I did use the romance compatibility on him and. It is sort of accurate. His birth date is 10/29/83, mine is 11/18/83, at 10:46 AM. I have never sunk so low in my life. I never loved anyone this much. It's killing me writing this letter because this is not a cool look. But this is how much I like him and I do want to know what is going on? Even if he doesn't want me, I just don't want to just get on with my life and forget that he ever existed. We like the same type of things, he likes to draw, we both like video games, we both like same type of movies. And we both (if survived) will obviously walk along the same path after High School. I think I'm going to stop. I was just telling you myproblem, I didn't really know what to ask. But after telling you my situation may be you can clarify something for me. It would be a biggest favor for me if you reply to this letter. If you want to post the answer on the website please do not give out my name. And if it is not ok, or disturb you in anyway about me being homosexual or that I should change myself (which I can't), Please tell me.

In Love

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Dear In Love

You do have a great deal in common with your Scorpio friend however I feel that the best thing that you can do is to form a long and lasting friendship with him. Keep in mind that lovers come and go and friends are there forever. You are still very young and although you want more I?m afraid that it will ruin the current relationship that you have right now. You will be coming into a high cycle regarding between August and the end of the year. During this time you would have a better chance of taking your friendship to the next level if that is possible. If it isn?t, I suggest that you are open and receptive to more likely partners. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Leo and Aquarius. By the way some of my best clients and dearest friends are gay. You started out your letter stating that it was unfortunate that you were homosexual. You need to love yourself and who and what you are before you can expect anyone to love you as much in return. You have an interesting chart and you certainly have a lot to offer anyone you get into a relationship with. So don?t sell yourself short. Believe in yourself, be fun to be with and you will find what you are looking for.

Eugenia

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