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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I'm am so lost in knowing what love is I'm always making the wrong choices where love is concerned I was born June 26, 1959, at 10:26 PM. I'm in my second marriage and we constantly fight all the time. I got married 6yrs ago after I lost my son who was murdered. I still have such a void and it's still painful to bear. I got married a year later in 1994 on my son's birthday. I thought this guy was the one but I found out things about his life style that bothers me. He was so wrong to hide such a thing from me. I still believe he is hiding more than he has already let out of the closet. He is a Capricorn born Jan 19th 1960.I cannot deal with his lifestyle. He says he is not gay he just likes to wear women's clothes. Back in May of this year I left him because I feel like such a fool to have trusted him. I believed he loved me and now I'm sorry that I was so vulnerable. In 93 when I lost my boy and I was looking for love and comfort I made a huge bad choice. I'm still married to him but things are not right anymore. I care about him because he took care of my daughter and I when I needed someone, but we fight constantly over him wearing women's clothes. I did not get married for this reason. I am so hurt by all this and have been trying to keep it together but I'm emotionally tired. I've been deceived, lied to and hurt. Yes I'm a big fool for getting married after I lost my son. Now I don't know what real love is, who to trust, or what to do. I'm getting so withdrawn my family says you made a vow before GOD when you got married so honor it. Yes I did and had I of known this before I would not be married to him. Please help I don't know what to do.
There is this guy who likes me at work and I told him to get away from me I didn't mean to hurt him he was born February 1st Aquarius man. He knows I'm married and I believe he wants to be more then friends. He is so shy kind and he make me happy to be around him but I didn't tell him that most of the time when he is near me I tremble. I can feel how his heart beats or when something is bothering him I'd love to be friends but its too hard right now. I don't trust to many people right now and I don't want to hurt anyone. Sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do or who to believe and most of all it hurts not being able to be friends with this guy at work. It has to be this way. He has three wonderful kids but I'm sorry to not be able to help him with advice or anything because I have enough to deal with myself. Can you tell me if the man I'm married to is withholding more secrets I would be appreciative. I'm so afraid to try again but then again I'm married forever so what difference does it make. If Mr. right is still out there he's gonna pass me by. Do you have any help for me?
Desperately Lost
Dear Desperately Lost
The comparison with your husband is not bad. Yes there is some deception in an area regarding his and your beliefs and ethics but that doesn't mean that it can't work. You need to be supportive, talk to him about the way you feel and ask him to go to counseling with you. Regarding your friend at work, you did not mention his year of birth making it difficult for me to assess your comparison however he does fall in an area of your chart that deals with work, secret affairs and probable difficulties that could easily result in you losing your job. I would be extremely careful with your Aquarius friend. If you become intimate with him while you are both still in your present marriages you are never going to be able to trust one another in the future. For now you should be putting more effort into making your marriage work and less into worrying about the man at work.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
I wrote in a few months back and (thankfully!) I got a reply from you suggesting that I take advantage of my high cycle regarding educational pursuits during from July till next year and I've done just that.
I've been offered a place in a teachers training college and will be doing a BSc (Education) from this July on for 4years. After which I'll have to fulfill another 4years bond teaching. Everything seems too good to be true and I'm all ready to take it but there's this nagging thought that I'm rushing into things. Is this chance of furthering my studies (and later a teaching career) a real break for me or it is just another illusion I've created for myself? I'm actually kind of lost. I've got tons of reasons why I should grab it (circumstances and financial support rendered if I take it up), but also tons of negative thoughts of 'What if's' popping up. My mind is basically a yo-yo between 'grab it' and 'leave it'.
What I'm really into is child psychology and I somehow feel that teaching being rather close to that subject, might be a good experience if ever I want to do a deg. on that area. Does my chart show that it's possible for me to do another deg. in psychology after this? Will I have another high cycle for education, 4yrs later?
Being a firm believer in astrology but having only limited knowledge of this art to do an accurate casting of my own fate, I really hope to hear from you again.
Thanks. :)
Disillusioned
Dear Disillusioned
Take the opportunity and run. You have the planet Uranus in an area of your chart that deals with higher education and that is an indication that you will be a student of sorts throughout your life. What ifs are the very things that hold you back. It's time to forge ahead and learn all you can. Both teaching and child psychology are well suited to you and I do believe that you can and will do both. Stop pondering and get on with your life and your future. You will be in a high cycle regarding love and romance beginning in July. If you aren't already in a relationship keep an open mind and an open heart. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio Capricorn and Pisces.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia!
This is kind of a long story, and question, but I'm really truly at a loss for what to do. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 yrs (a Cancer man 22/6-68), and feel good about it! The relationship turned into a friendship, and we decided to call it quits. I'm now single and loving it, most of the time anyway, but there is a guy (Scorpio, 29/10-67).. I met him when I was still together with my ex, but I couldn't really do anything with him at the time. I ended up staying a night at his house, and loved every second I was with him. But I was in a relationship, and hadn't seen the light yet, so we lost touch. I never really stopped thinking about him, and he was always playing in the back of my mind. But suddenly after 4 months he calls me, and we end up having the best phone conversation ever. It's like we never lost touch, and I realize as we're talking that "shit I really really like him." But as it seems I'm prone to bad luck in love, I tried hitting the breaks with my self emotionally. I know he likes me too, we have a chemistry that blows me away, we talk on the phone for hours, about everything between heaven and earth. And the sexual chemistry I experienced with him in September (we didn't have sex, but we did get very intimate) knocked me to my feet!!! But, his life is very very complicated now, his father just died, and their relationship was strained, and there seems to be a long lost sister trying to get her share of the estate left after his dad. And he is so focused on doing the right thing all the bloody time, always, that I know there's no room for any emotional/relationship thing at this point. I am not a very patient person, but I find myself, for the first time, willing to wait for his life to settle back. I've offered him my friendship and he seems to want it, and appreciate it! But, what is this thing with us? What does this "thing" have in store for me? Is friendship all he wants forever? I'm falling slowly, and it's basically for his personality (haven't seen him in person for 4 months..) and he just intrigues me, he makes me wanna get a grip of my life.. I really do hope you can help me understand this guy and what he thinks. I've never felt this unsure about myself or the future of my feelings for this Scorpio man. Thanx,
Anett.
Dear Anett
There are a lot of oppositions in your comparison with your Scorpio friend and although this can make the pull between the two of you very dynamic it isn't always the best when it comes right down to everyday life. The major sign of sorrow does show up in your comparison and this worries me. I do believe that he is very attracted to you but I also feel that he is extremely practical having his natal Moon, Venus, Jupiter, Uranus and Pluto in the sign Virgo and is probably questioning the age difference between you. People with a lot of Virgo in their charts do tend to marry later in life. They want to be one hundred percent certain that they have chosen wisely and he probably fears that at some point you will move on. You on the other hand are a very strong Taurus and they are usually true blue beginning to end but you also have three planets in Libra and one in Sagittarius and this can cause problems when your partner's looks depreciate. Offer your friendship but unless you truly believe you can go the distance and do life with this very serious and loyal man I suggest you let him go. As I mentioned the comparison has a real push/pull to it and I'm afraid that you will probably hurt him in the end. I know that your ex was also quite a bit older and your comparison to him was comparable to that with your Scorpio friend. This really isn't an age thing on your side right now but it certainly could be in the future. Some people do well with those much older when they are young and those much younger when they are old. Think about it.
Eugenia
