We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I'm am so lost in knowing what love is I'm always making the wrong choices where love is concerned I was born June 26, 1959, at 10:26 PM. I'm in my second marriage and we constantly fight all the time. I got married 6yrs ago after I lost my son who was murdered. I still have such a void and it's still painful to bear. I got married a year later in 1994 on my son's birthday. I thought this guy was the one but I found out things about his life style that bothers me. He was so wrong to hide such a thing from me. I still believe he is hiding more than he has already let out of the closet. He is a Capricorn born Jan 19th 1960.I cannot deal with his lifestyle. He says he is not gay he just likes to wear women's clothes. Back in May of this year I left him because I feel like such a fool to have trusted him. I believed he loved me and now I'm sorry that I was so vulnerable. In 93 when I lost my boy and I was looking for love and comfort I made a huge bad choice. I'm still married to him but things are not right anymore. I care about him because he took care of my daughter and I when I needed someone, but we fight constantly over him wearing women's clothes. I did not get married for this reason. I am so hurt by all this and have been trying to keep it together but I'm emotionally tired. I've been deceived, lied to and hurt. Yes I'm a big fool for getting married after I lost my son. Now I don't know what real love is, who to trust, or what to do. I'm getting so withdrawn my family says you made a vow before GOD when you got married so honor it. Yes I did and had I of known this before I would not be married to him. Please help I don't know what to do.
There is this guy who likes me at work and I told him to get away from me I didn't mean to hurt him he was born February 1st Aquarius man. He knows I'm married and I believe he wants to be more then friends. He is so shy kind and he make me happy to be around him but I didn't tell him that most of the time when he is near me I tremble. I can feel how his heart beats or when something is bothering him I'd love to be friends but its too hard right now. I don't trust to many people right now and I don't want to hurt anyone. Sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do or who to believe and most of all it hurts not being able to be friends with this guy at work. It has to be this way. He has three wonderful kids but I'm sorry to not be able to help him with advice or anything because I have enough to deal with myself. Can you tell me if the man I'm married to is withholding more secrets I would be appreciative. I'm so afraid to try again but then again I'm married forever so what difference does it make. If Mr. right is still out there he's gonna pass me by. Do you have any help for me?
Desperately Lost
Dear Desperately Lost
The comparison with your husband is not bad. Yes there is some deception in an area regarding his and your beliefs and ethics but that doesn't mean that it can't work. You need to be supportive, talk to him about the way you feel and ask him to go to counseling with you. Regarding your friend at work, you did not mention his year of birth making it difficult for me to assess your comparison however he does fall in an area of your chart that deals with work, secret affairs and probable difficulties that could easily result in you losing your job. I would be extremely careful with your Aquarius friend. If you become intimate with him while you are both still in your present marriages you are never going to be able to trust one another in the future. For now you should be putting more effort into making your marriage work and less into worrying about the man at work.
Eugenia
Dear Ms. Last,
Thank you for your wonderful website and your free readings for members. You have the magic touch especially for me. I was born 6:20 am on 04/08/1975 and my husband was born on 10/03/71 I am unsure of the time. I am under a lot of stress and pressure at the moment. You see I am 36 weeks pregnant and my husband has been away for 6 months. He went to work in another part of the country and he has been staying with another woman. In the last 9 months of our marriage this woman has desperately wanted to rip my marriage apart. My husband had been playing games with me, saying that he was never cheating on me until I found out that he was. This woman was born on 04/01/1976. I thought that she had succeeded until I recently spoke to my husband this week. He spoke to me for 2 hours on the phone and on the ICQ chat room on the internet telling me what he had done was a big mistake and he wants to come home to his family.
We already have a little boy who is 15months old and he really misses his daddy. He adores his father. I would love nothing more than for my husband and I to reunite and start all over again but I am concerned that what he is telling me is all lies. This woman has played some very nasty mind-games with me throughout this time and she is now starting to call herself my son's mother. She has sent so many e-mails to me pretending to be my husband saying that "they" are both coming to my home to take my son away from me. She even went to the extreme of telling me that she was pregnant with my husband's child. She has 2 children of her own and is still married. She ran away from her husband so that he could not see his son grow up (one child is not his). She has wrecked 4 marriages as well as her own and is only out to chase men that have a lot of money. My husband and I have our own business and that's what she is after. She has never worked a day in her life, unless you count being a prostitute work, but she only wants money to drink her self stupid, as she is an alcoholic.
There are a lot of other things that she has done to me, including: trying to get me so stressed out that I miscarried our baby. A legal representative has only now told me that I can have her charged for stalking as well as causing mental anguish. All I would really like to know is should I trust my husbands word or is he just playing games with me too? We have been married for almost 3 years and even though my husband has done the wrong thing, I am still very much in love with him, and I always will be. He keeps telling me how much he loves and misses me, but if he does- he would not have done what he did in the first place and if he wanted his family back so badly he would have been back by now. 6 months is a very long time and I have had to raise my son and go through this pregnancy practically on my own. His parents live right next door to me, and they have been wonderful as they are supporting me 100% and they are not very happy with what he has done either. I guess I am lucky that I have his family here to support me.
Please help me Ms. Last, as you are my only hope left. I hope you can give me the strength and guidance that I need.May the stars be bright and beautiful and shining in your life.
Thankyou.
Nowhere left to turn.
Dear Nowhere left to turn.
Your comparison with your husband far outshines that of the comparison with the other woman. Your husband's chart indicates that he is coming into his Saturn return. What that does is it makes him reevaluate his life up to this point and make the necessary changes in order to turn things around. Although he is a smooth talker and extremely charming I do believe that he is sincere about wanting to be with you and the family. He isn't your most likely candidate however to be true blue and he doesn't do well in relationships that he finds confining or restrictive. My suggestion is that you with
Dear Eugenia:
I had watched your show about a woman with cancer making preparations for her family. You said her illness was not going to go into a remission that she needed to prepare.
I hope you may be able to better enable me and my family in the passing of my father.Recently he has been diagnosed with an aggressive cancer and it is terminal. Radiation has been given to him to help him in quality of life and to slow the inevitable. I fear he doesn't have long. His birth date is Feb 13 1936.I don't live close to my father and have financial struggles. I was able to fly out for a week. We shared happy memories and also said our good byes. He has just had a "step down" in his health and response to his pain medications. This happened while my brothers were here for a visit. They immediately flew back home (they live in the same city), to be with Dad. I too want to go to him, but I must time my visit and budget. I also have three small children, ages 10 months, 2 years and 6years. I need to make sure they are taken care of.
I guess my question is, when should I go...or how long does my Dad have? When should I go?
As I mentioned, I do need to know rather quickly as I don't think he has very long.
Dad's birth date is Feb 13 1936, 2:00 pm
My birthday is Oct 16th 1970
My brothers are April 19 1963 and July 7 1965
My children are Sept 8 2002, Feb 2 2001, July 7 1997
Thank you for helping us through the last chapter of a great man's life. He will be missed greatly.
Daddy's little Libra
Dear Daddy's little Libra
It is the time you spend with him while he is still coherent that counts my dear so what are you waiting for. Once he's gone there is nothing you can do for him it will only be to comfort yourself and other family members. The quality time however is now while you can bring him joy by sharing fond memories and make him feel more comfortable by taking his mind off his deterioration. It is difficult to tell you when he might pass - only God has the answer to that question. According to his chart however the possibility of living another year and a half is present but it certainly would not be a great quality of life and for his sake and that of the family some of the transits he is experiencing between now and the end of the year could be enough to take him which would probably be a blessing. It is never easy to lose someone you love but having experienced that love and the obvious connection that the two of you had will allow him to live on through you. You matched up well with your Sun signs being at a precise trine to one another. Your chart indicates that you should be going to see him in August/September of this year. It will do you both a lot of good to have this time together. Without the rest of your families birth times it is hard for me to be more specific regarding his passing but it is apparent that the aftermath will hit you and your Cancer brother first and your Aries brother later on. Hold together as a family and take time to share the different memories that each one of you has with your dad so that you can all understand the dynamics of your family and your roots much better. With this your father will be remembered in a much deeper way by all of you.
Eugenia
