We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I'm am so lost in knowing what love is I'm always making the wrong choices where love is concerned I was born June 26, 1959, at 10:26 PM. I'm in my second marriage and we constantly fight all the time. I got married 6yrs ago after I lost my son who was murdered. I still have such a void and it's still painful to bear. I got married a year later in 1994 on my son's birthday. I thought this guy was the one but I found out things about his life style that bothers me. He was so wrong to hide such a thing from me. I still believe he is hiding more than he has already let out of the closet. He is a Capricorn born Jan 19th 1960.I cannot deal with his lifestyle. He says he is not gay he just likes to wear women's clothes. Back in May of this year I left him because I feel like such a fool to have trusted him. I believed he loved me and now I'm sorry that I was so vulnerable. In 93 when I lost my boy and I was looking for love and comfort I made a huge bad choice. I'm still married to him but things are not right anymore. I care about him because he took care of my daughter and I when I needed someone, but we fight constantly over him wearing women's clothes. I did not get married for this reason. I am so hurt by all this and have been trying to keep it together but I'm emotionally tired. I've been deceived, lied to and hurt. Yes I'm a big fool for getting married after I lost my son. Now I don't know what real love is, who to trust, or what to do. I'm getting so withdrawn my family says you made a vow before GOD when you got married so honor it. Yes I did and had I of known this before I would not be married to him. Please help I don't know what to do.
There is this guy who likes me at work and I told him to get away from me I didn't mean to hurt him he was born February 1st Aquarius man. He knows I'm married and I believe he wants to be more then friends. He is so shy kind and he make me happy to be around him but I didn't tell him that most of the time when he is near me I tremble. I can feel how his heart beats or when something is bothering him I'd love to be friends but its too hard right now. I don't trust to many people right now and I don't want to hurt anyone. Sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do or who to believe and most of all it hurts not being able to be friends with this guy at work. It has to be this way. He has three wonderful kids but I'm sorry to not be able to help him with advice or anything because I have enough to deal with myself. Can you tell me if the man I'm married to is withholding more secrets I would be appreciative. I'm so afraid to try again but then again I'm married forever so what difference does it make. If Mr. right is still out there he's gonna pass me by. Do you have any help for me?
Desperately Lost
Dear Desperately Lost
The comparison with your husband is not bad. Yes there is some deception in an area regarding his and your beliefs and ethics but that doesn't mean that it can't work. You need to be supportive, talk to him about the way you feel and ask him to go to counseling with you. Regarding your friend at work, you did not mention his year of birth making it difficult for me to assess your comparison however he does fall in an area of your chart that deals with work, secret affairs and probable difficulties that could easily result in you losing your job. I would be extremely careful with your Aquarius friend. If you become intimate with him while you are both still in your present marriages you are never going to be able to trust one another in the future. For now you should be putting more effort into making your marriage work and less into worrying about the man at work.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
This is a little dramatic (I'm a LEO born August 8, 1980 at 2:07 pm!) but I feel as though I am having a bit of quarter life crisis. I have only been doing the 9 to 5 thing a couple of years and already I just don't see myself being able to do it another 30+ more. I have thought of pursuing more creative endeavors such as writing or even astrology, but then there is also the matter of having to make a living. So my question is about my career path: Is this just a temporary rut and more a matter of finding the right 9 to 5 or should I be going a different route altogether?
Thanks!
Leo
Dear Leo
Some people just don't do well with major routine. I believe that you can fit into a schedule if you like what you are doing however currently you are going through restlessness in an area of your chart that deals with how you earn your living. I feel that you may make a mistake if you are impulsive due to the type of transits that you are experiencing. My suggestion is to try something creative on the side but don't give up your day job. I worked in a routine job for the first seven years while I built up my astrological business. That is quite often what it takes - you have to support your addiction to your art. I do believe that you have creative talent and that you can obtain recognition for whatever you decide to pursue but not without hard work, dedication and paying the bills so that you don't have to worry about the roof over your head. You do show some talent where writing is concerned. If you really hate your 9 to 5 job consider another position that allows you to travel about more like a sales position or something that isn't quite as confining while you work on your own goals. I believe that if you work hard you may begin to see some recognition in about 4 years.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
My live-in boyfriend of almost 4 years and I are no longer living together as of the end of February. His birth date is 8/14/1960 time unknown. I truly love him but we seem to clash occasionally. We've decided to move separately but I don't want to lose him as my man. Do you see us eventually getting together for life? I have another Leo who has been in and out of my life for eight years born 8/13/1957 time unknown. Why do I keep meeting Leos, I love them, but can't seem to keep them. What am I doing wrong? I was born October 12, 1952 at 12:08 pm.
Libra
Hi Libra
To begin with you actually match up quite well to both Leo's that you have been involved with. One slight problem however and that is that the sign Leo falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead ends. In other words trying to hold on to this sign is futile. You actually match up to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Cancer, Libra, Sagittarius, Capricorn and Pisces. You will be in a high cycle beginning late this year where love and romance is concerned so don't despair - put time and effort into you and the things you like to do for the time being and this time next year you will be singing a different tune.
Eugenia
