We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have a problem. I am sixteen years old, and I feel like I am forty. My mother is very sick, and I must take care of her, as well as attend school and achieve honor role. I work part time, but the income just isn't always enough to make ends meet. Lately my marks at school have been slipping... the stress is really getting to me, but I need good marks in order to get a scholarship, so I can get a decent education.
My problem is that my mother is mentally ill. She has the mental capacity of a three year old. I do have older brothers and sisters, but the responsibility of taking care of my mum has been put on my shoulders.
I really need some advice on my situation. A reply would be much appreciated. I was born August 18, 1982 at 7:27 PM.
Thank you,
Moly
Hi Moly
Your situation is not great and you have all the right in the world to feel sorry for yourself. You must put added pressure on your siblings in order to make them help out. It is their duty to do so. I suggest that you do consider talking to your mother's doctor regarding your options of a nursing home. I fear that if you don't get some support from family members that you may find yourself working full time and putting your education on hold and that would be a shame. Please write back and tell me more about your situation. Where is your father and do any of your siblings still live at home. What are their situations regarding age, marriage, position to help.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Thank you for answering my letter. You asked for more information about my family: my father passed away, when I was a little girl... too little to remember him, and after him, my mother never married again. I have eight older brothers and sisters, and though none of them live at home, they all live in the same city. They have their own problems - I am not blaming them for not helping me out... I just wish that they were a little more compassionate about my situation.
As for school, I haven't told any of my teachers about my present situation... although I am thinking that it might help quite a bit. Maybe there are some programs or something outside of school, so I can get a full time job, to support my family.
Well, I really don't know what to say... I am really starting to feel the stress, and none of my brothers or sisters are willing to help me out. I have tried to reason with them... but they have their own lives, and their own problems. I think part of it has to do with the fact, that none of them get along with my mother, they just don't have the patience. Only two of my siblings are married, the rest are either full time workers, or full time students.
Regarding the nursing home issue, I just don't feel right about it, no matter which way I look at it. I love my mum way too much to let anything happen to her. I suppose it would probably be better in the long run, but I am really hesitant about that. I am making it sound as though I have no support. In truth, a very special friend at school has been helping me out. We are in a Social Justice group together (that's how we met), and he's the only other person that knows about my situation. He sometimes comes over to take care of my mum when I am working, and he always has a shoulder to cry on. I just feel kind of bad, because he is such a good friend to me, and I have nothing to offer him except problems.
Thank you once again,
Moly
Hi Moly
You are offering your friend lots just by being a friend. You should talk to your teachers they may be able to help you out or at least have suggestions as to how you can continue to study and deal with your home situation. You can't give up your education to take care of your mom. She wouldn't want you to. There would still be the issue of how you would take c
Dear Eugenia,
I am a Taurus, 17 May 1971, 2:28 GMT Newcastle upon Tyne, England. For the past year I feel as though my life has been shaken to the very foundations. I divorced my womanizing, lying, cheating Arian husband and I resumed my Masters Degree at university. I am normally such a reserved person but these days I seem to be controlled by higher things. I know my Saturn return is coming up and my chart may be affected by the recent build up of planets in my sign.
However, after all of this cosmic clearing out in my life I feel as thoughit's all been an anti-climax. What is the likely affect of these planetary configurations on my chart? I feel something good will come of it but feelas though I'm denying myself the true experience of it all. Thanks for the great site by the way, I've been here since 98.
Starting Over
Dear Starting Over
I feel that you will see the affects of the planets moving through your sign when transiting Jupiter and Saturn conjunct your natal Sun and Saturn. You have obviously been doing what you are supposed to be doing with your Saturn return, that being, reevaluating your life up to this point and making the changes necessary to make your life and yourself better. Your chart will be going through some nice cycles throughout this year where legal and financial matters are concerned. Educationally you are coming into a really nice high cycle for the course of the next few years and you should be following this direction through apprenticeships, travel, courses or self-improvement. You have a lot to look forward to. It's time to focus on yourself and that is exactly what you are planning to do. The sign Aries isn't necessarily a bad sign for you to get involved with however this sign can bed bounce. If you meet another one, don't rule him out but do a comparison and make sure that you don't have any negative or deceptive aspects. You also match up well to those born under the signs Cancer, Virgo and Capricorn.
Eugenia
Hi Eugenia
My live-in boyfriend of almost 4 years and I are no longer living together as of the end of February. His birth date is 8/14/1960 time unknown. I truly love him but we seem to clash occasionally. We've decided to move separately but I don't want to lose him as my man. Do you see us eventually getting together for life? I have another Leo who has been in and out of my life for eight years born 8/13/1957 time unknown. Why do I keep meeting Leos, I love them, but can't seem to keep them. What am I doing wrong? I was born October 12, 1952 at 12:08 pm.
Libra
Hi Libra
To begin with you actually match up quite well to both Leo's that you have been involved with. One slight problem however and that is that the sign Leo falls in an area of your chart that deals with dead ends. In other words trying to hold on to this sign is futile. You actually match up to those born under the signs Aries, Gemini, Cancer, Libra, Sagittarius, Capricorn and Pisces. You will be in a high cycle beginning late this year where love and romance is concerned so don't despair - put time and effort into you and the things you like to do for the time being and this time next year you will be singing a different tune.
Eugenia
