We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle. Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?
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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:
Dear Eugenia,
I have a problem. I am sixteen years old, and I feel like I am forty. My mother is very sick, and I must take care of her, as well as attend school and achieve honor role. I work part time, but the income just isn't always enough to make ends meet. Lately my marks at school have been slipping... the stress is really getting to me, but I need good marks in order to get a scholarship, so I can get a decent education.
My problem is that my mother is mentally ill. She has the mental capacity of a three year old. I do have older brothers and sisters, but the responsibility of taking care of my mum has been put on my shoulders.
I really need some advice on my situation. A reply would be much appreciated. I was born August 18, 1982 at 7:27 PM.
Thank you,
Moly
Hi Moly
Your situation is not great and you have all the right in the world to feel sorry for yourself. You must put added pressure on your siblings in order to make them help out. It is their duty to do so. I suggest that you do consider talking to your mother's doctor regarding your options of a nursing home. I fear that if you don't get some support from family members that you may find yourself working full time and putting your education on hold and that would be a shame. Please write back and tell me more about your situation. Where is your father and do any of your siblings still live at home. What are their situations regarding age, marriage, position to help.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
Thank you for answering my letter. You asked for more information about my family: my father passed away, when I was a little girl... too little to remember him, and after him, my mother never married again. I have eight older brothers and sisters, and though none of them live at home, they all live in the same city. They have their own problems - I am not blaming them for not helping me out... I just wish that they were a little more compassionate about my situation.
As for school, I haven't told any of my teachers about my present situation... although I am thinking that it might help quite a bit. Maybe there are some programs or something outside of school, so I can get a full time job, to support my family.
Well, I really don't know what to say... I am really starting to feel the stress, and none of my brothers or sisters are willing to help me out. I have tried to reason with them... but they have their own lives, and their own problems. I think part of it has to do with the fact, that none of them get along with my mother, they just don't have the patience. Only two of my siblings are married, the rest are either full time workers, or full time students.
Regarding the nursing home issue, I just don't feel right about it, no matter which way I look at it. I love my mum way too much to let anything happen to her. I suppose it would probably be better in the long run, but I am really hesitant about that. I am making it sound as though I have no support. In truth, a very special friend at school has been helping me out. We are in a Social Justice group together (that's how we met), and he's the only other person that knows about my situation. He sometimes comes over to take care of my mum when I am working, and he always has a shoulder to cry on. I just feel kind of bad, because he is such a good friend to me, and I have nothing to offer him except problems.
Thank you once again,
Moly
Hi Moly
You are offering your friend lots just by being a friend. You should talk to your teachers they may be able to help you out or at least have suggestions as to how you can continue to study and deal with your home situation. You can't give up your education to take care of your mom. She wouldn't want you to. There would still be the issue of how you would take c
Hi Eugenia
I was born June 10, 1980 at 11 pm. I recently meet a guy (Birth date: 11/07/1983) and we started dating. I think he is a sweetheart but self-conscious because I make more money than he does and I am self-conscious because he is younger then me (Birth date: 06/10/1980). We get along great but the problem is that I have secretly started seeing an old flame (Birth date: 11/21/1980). My old flame is someone I have had a crush on for years even after we broke up. The problem is that my old flame has a girlfriend as well whom he is having problems with. I am confused now on what to do. I like the new guy but I think I am curious to see if there is still something with my old flame. I am confused on whether I should stay with the new guy or dump him for my old flame and see if there is more to it then just friends. Please help.
Confused
Hi Confused
This is a bit of a no win situation. Both comparisons are very different however they both show signs of sorrow as well. You have a tremendous number of planetary connections between your chart and that of your younger Scorpio friend but I believe that being the Gemini that you are you will not be able to leave well enough alone causing an insatiable urge to find out if you still have something going on with your ex Scorpio. This in turn will cause sorrow with your young Scorpio - he will not take lightly to you engaging in any relationship be it platonic or not with your ex. Please don't lose sight of what was wrong with your relationship with your ex Scorpio the first time around and why you aren't still together. The same problems will crop up time and time again. Your young Scorpio has his natal Venus in the sign Virgo so age shouldn't be a problem considering he probably acts quite mature when it comes to love. You have your natal Venus in Gemini and that often causes you to be fickle and flirtatious when it comes to romance. Your ex has his natal Venus in the sign Libra and although he can be very charming etc. he can also be as fickle and flirtatious as you. All this being said I do believe that you should probably set your young Scorpio free before you really hurt him. Give yourself time to rediscover your old partner and prepare to move on to new potential partners around the end of the summer or early fall of this year. You match up well to those born under the signs Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius and Aquarius.
Eugenia
Dear Eugenia,
This is my third time sending you e-mail with the same content and I'm very sorry if it bothers you. Twice I had also sent you letters in the past, years ago. In those letters, you mentioned that I was more of a late bloomer regarding my sexuality and you advised me to experiment a little. For the years have changed, my vision towards my sexuality have also changed, I no longer consider homosexuality as my enemy, I consider it as a part of me and I began to accept this. Years ago, I mentioned my birth date wrongly, later I found out that I was born on the next day which was August 20, 1981 rather than August 19,1981. I was born at 2:00 AM. Would it have a major impact of your analysis if the birth date were wrong? And could you tell me something about my sexuality? Also, I've met this guy from the net, I've also met him face to face and I believe that he's one good guy. I think I'm in love with him. He's younger than me he was born on November 19, 1985. On the last letter, I told you that he already has a boyfriend. Surprisingly he broke up with his bf few days ago because his parents found out that he's gay. I still don't know the whole story. Though I feel sad for him, but I think this is the best shot I have to take to be his bf (not in the nearest time). If so, he would be my first love (I haven't had any bf or gf before and it's so saaadddd). Later today, a fortune teller told me that he might deceive me though I feel that he might not, she also told me that I could still change my sexuality (and again, I feel that I really can't). What I want to ask is.. Is he the "one"? Because I really love him. And if he's not, when will be the right time to meet the "one"? Please help me I'm depressed and I really need a clue from you... Thank you very much
Leo
Hi Leo
I remember your original e-mail and yes it does make a difference being born on the 20th instead of the 19th. It confirms that what was a possibility regarding your sexuality is in fact reality. Your chart does indicate more homosexuality. Regarding your boyfriend I do believe that you match up enough to have a relationship however sorrow is evident so I can't say that I feel it will be a lasting union. I do feel that it will be a very important learning experience for both of you and therefore think that you should proceed. Right now he probably needs your support regarding his sexuality. Open the doors of communication and help him through his uncertainty and obvious upset that is happening in his parental household. He could go through a period where his past boyfriend tries to come back into his life so be prepared. He is also a bit conceited so don't get swept up into his world. Be yourself and refuse to become a chameleon. By late summer early fall of next year it will be a much better time for you to move into high gear regarding finding the right partner. If your current friend happens to stick around it could be him but if things unfold in such a way that the sorrow prevails keep your eyes open for someone more suitable at that time.
Eugenia
