We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Too Much Too Young

Dear Eugenia,

I have a problem. I am sixteen years old, and I feel like I am forty. My mother is very sick, and I must take care of her, as well as attend school and achieve honor role. I work part time, but the income just isn't always enough to make ends meet. Lately my marks at school have been slipping... the stress is really getting to me, but I need good marks in order to get a scholarship, so I can get a decent education.

My problem is that my mother is mentally ill. She has the mental capacity of a three year old. I do have older brothers and sisters, but the responsibility of taking care of my mum has been put on my shoulders.

I really need some advice on my situation. A reply would be much appreciated. I was born August 18, 1982 at 7:27 PM.

Thank you,
Moly

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Hi Moly

Your situation is not great and you have all the right in the world to feel sorry for yourself. You must put added pressure on your siblings in order to make them help out. It is their duty to do so. I suggest that you do consider talking to your mother's doctor regarding your options of a nursing home. I fear that if you don't get some support from family members that you may find yourself working full time and putting your education on hold and that would be a shame. Please write back and tell me more about your situation. Where is your father and do any of your siblings still live at home. What are their situations regarding age, marriage, position to help.

Eugenia

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Dear Eugenia,

Thank you for answering my letter. You asked for more information about my family: my father passed away, when I was a little girl... too little to remember him, and after him, my mother never married again. I have eight older brothers and sisters, and though none of them live at home, they all live in the same city. They have their own problems - I am not blaming them for not helping me out... I just wish that they were a little more compassionate about my situation.

As for school, I haven't told any of my teachers about my present situation... although I am thinking that it might help quite a bit. Maybe there are some programs or something outside of school, so I can get a full time job, to support my family.

Well, I really don't know what to say... I am really starting to feel the stress, and none of my brothers or sisters are willing to help me out. I have tried to reason with them... but they have their own lives, and their own problems. I think part of it has to do with the fact, that none of them get along with my mother, they just don't have the patience. Only two of my siblings are married, the rest are either full time workers, or full time students.

Regarding the nursing home issue, I just don't feel right about it, no matter which way I look at it. I love my mum way too much to let anything happen to her. I suppose it would probably be better in the long run, but I am really hesitant about that. I am making it sound as though I have no support. In truth, a very special friend at school has been helping me out. We are in a Social Justice group together (that's how we met), and he's the only other person that knows about my situation. He sometimes comes over to take care of my mum when I am working, and he always has a shoulder to cry on. I just feel kind of bad, because he is such a good friend to me, and I have nothing to offer him except problems.

Thank you once again,
Moly

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Hi Moly

You are offering your friend lots just by being a friend. You should talk to your teachers they may be able to help you out or at least have suggestions as to how you can continue to study and deal with your home situation. You can't give up your education to take care of your mom. She wouldn't want you to. There would still be the issue of how you would take c

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Article: Spare Your Heart

Dear Eugenia

I know that I am only 16, but I'm sure that I love the guy I'm with. His birthday is May 30, 1985. The only thing I want to know is if this relationship is worth all the work and emotion that I'm putting into it? I hope you answer, because I don't want to make a fatal mistake!

Sara

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Dear Sara

All relationships take work however the problems begin when neither or only one of you is willing to put in the effort. In your particular case I believe that you are putting up with too much. Although you do match up I believe that he can be a little fickle and that he is a bit of a player. Spare your heart and avoid trying to take this relationship to the next level. You are too sensitive for the likes of this guy. You match up well to those born under the signs Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces.

Eugenia

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Article: Don't Stop Moving

Dear Eugenia

My birthday is May 30/75, at 10:40 AM, my boyfriend's is Aug.24/72 I just found out that I am pregnant with my third child. This is my fifth pregnancy, but I had previous miscarriages. My question is I am just finishing up my upgrading and will be graduating this June. My baby isn't due until January. The thing is my school counselor's thinks I should put off continuing into a trade for about a year. I am not so sure I would like to do that. You see I struggled to get this far, I don't seem to want to stop. I am trying to go forward and become a financial advisor, but first I need another year of schooling. Do you have ANY SUGGESTION FOR ME?

I have two boys and one on the way that I need to support financially. My boyfriend doesn't seem to want to realize that this is something I need to do for myself. For four years of our six year relationship we have been living with his mom, and I want to be able to move out and have our own place, going forward into getting a job I may be able to move us. That is one of many reasons I need a job.

Thanks for reading my complaint.
Struggling

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Dear Struggling

You should give yourself a pat on the back and keep on moving in the direction that will bring you the highest rewards. The more education that you can get the better. You have to put yourself in a position that will allow you to support your children and your boyfriend should understand that. If he is not able to support your desires and wishes you should question how much he truly cares about you. Your chart indicates that you should continue your studies however it would not hurt you to take time off until after the baby is born. The educational area of your chart will be in a high cycle for the next few months but by October you will move into a period that might be difficult to pursue your goals. You will find however that if you wait until the spring of next year that you will once again have the ability to do well in your educational pursuits. Set your goals and your priorities and don't look back. You do match up well to your boyfriend however emotional deception may be a problem. He might find your desire to improve yourself threatening and therefore you must compensate for this in order to put his mind at ease.

Eugenia

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