We've all experienced times of conflict and personal struggle.  Times when the assistance and advice of a friend always seemed to lend comfort and ease the burden. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if that friend was one of the world's most revered astrologers, with over 25 years of experience?

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The following are our 'Dear Eugenia' letters archive:

Article: Too Much Too Young

Dear Eugenia,

I have a problem. I am sixteen years old, and I feel like I am forty. My mother is very sick, and I must take care of her, as well as attend school and achieve honor role. I work part time, but the income just isn't always enough to make ends meet. Lately my marks at school have been slipping... the stress is really getting to me, but I need good marks in order to get a scholarship, so I can get a decent education.

My problem is that my mother is mentally ill. She has the mental capacity of a three year old. I do have older brothers and sisters, but the responsibility of taking care of my mum has been put on my shoulders.

I really need some advice on my situation. A reply would be much appreciated. I was born August 18, 1982 at 7:27 PM.

Thank you,
Moly

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Hi Moly

Your situation is not great and you have all the right in the world to feel sorry for yourself. You must put added pressure on your siblings in order to make them help out. It is their duty to do so. I suggest that you do consider talking to your mother's doctor regarding your options of a nursing home. I fear that if you don't get some support from family members that you may find yourself working full time and putting your education on hold and that would be a shame. Please write back and tell me more about your situation. Where is your father and do any of your siblings still live at home. What are their situations regarding age, marriage, position to help.

Eugenia

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Dear Eugenia,

Thank you for answering my letter. You asked for more information about my family: my father passed away, when I was a little girl... too little to remember him, and after him, my mother never married again. I have eight older brothers and sisters, and though none of them live at home, they all live in the same city. They have their own problems - I am not blaming them for not helping me out... I just wish that they were a little more compassionate about my situation.

As for school, I haven't told any of my teachers about my present situation... although I am thinking that it might help quite a bit. Maybe there are some programs or something outside of school, so I can get a full time job, to support my family.

Well, I really don't know what to say... I am really starting to feel the stress, and none of my brothers or sisters are willing to help me out. I have tried to reason with them... but they have their own lives, and their own problems. I think part of it has to do with the fact, that none of them get along with my mother, they just don't have the patience. Only two of my siblings are married, the rest are either full time workers, or full time students.

Regarding the nursing home issue, I just don't feel right about it, no matter which way I look at it. I love my mum way too much to let anything happen to her. I suppose it would probably be better in the long run, but I am really hesitant about that. I am making it sound as though I have no support. In truth, a very special friend at school has been helping me out. We are in a Social Justice group together (that's how we met), and he's the only other person that knows about my situation. He sometimes comes over to take care of my mum when I am working, and he always has a shoulder to cry on. I just feel kind of bad, because he is such a good friend to me, and I have nothing to offer him except problems.

Thank you once again,
Moly

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Hi Moly

You are offering your friend lots just by being a friend. You should talk to your teachers they may be able to help you out or at least have suggestions as to how you can continue to study and deal with your home situation. You can't give up your education to take care of your mom. She wouldn't want you to. There would still be the issue of how you would take c

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Article: Nothing to Lose and Everything to Gain

Dear Eugenia,

Sometime during the first half of February 1995 I met this man. His birth date is 4.4.1967. He was my supervisor; I was a phone sales associate. When I first saw him I disliked the way he looked and assumed I wouldn't care whatever his personality was, either. It turned out that he was a wonderful mentor, a really good boss and just naturally inclined at helping people out. I did very well on that job due to his excellent guidance, and I'm sure a lot of the people there, even though they didn't say anything to my face, thought that he was playing favorites. I didn't mind because I wanted to achieve much and get along with everybody at the same time, so my stance was basically a neutral one, which they had loved to call "being professional".

My confusion started when he began acting as if we were really close. In that place where men out number women in selling and dealing with auto parts, I didn't have difficulty eventually becoming one of the guys where handshakes, arm linking hugs, back pats (or slaps) and even shoulder holding were just normal, friendly ways of interacting so it wasn't an issue of unwanted advances or sexual harassment. What bothered me was that we couldn't seem to talk about ourselves except when it had to do with work. He was starting to grow on me, and during those times when he seemed to be making passes at me, I was delighted with it but didn't want to take him up on it, until he leveled with me on what his intentions were. I just couldn't allow it to sweep me off my feet because it didn't feel honest, and one thing I've always wanted more than anything else was to be in an equal relationship. We went on like this until he left the company to pursue other opportunities. Even though nothing officially intimate happened between us, I still felt really sad, as though a lover had left. I was depressed for a while, all the time thinking I was crazy and totally out of my head, that I didn't initiate things. What did it matter if you love a person yet you're both engaging in some sort of power play where it seemed like the affection was with held by omission?

The definite upside on the whole thing was that it prompted me to look for answers instead of letting it eat at me by becoming bitter. A lot of interesting things came up during my self-studies, but somehow I couldn't accept that it would've worked out nicely if only one of us had been up front to the other. Clearly he could've seen that I was focused on my work yet everybody had found me easy to talk to, to relate to, to connect to. It just didn't make any sense, partly because there were a lot of things that I didn't know about him, even though his actions spoke louder than words. It was strange too, that judging from what pathetic little I knew about him, I could feel that he was very familiar to me I couldn't help but think that past lives might be a valid concept. The chemistry and "magic" were all certainly there, but then again, I didn't want to think that his actions were spurred by those factors alone.

I know solidly now at this point that I'd throw caution to the winds and tell him what I feel about him if I was lucky enough to be given another chance at seeing him again. But since I'm not sure about it happening, I'm faced again with the task of finding an answer as to how to make my peace with the whole thing. Through sheer will I tried hard not to let it affect me so much as to disrupt the normal goings on in my life, and I'm proud to say I succeeded in doing so. I've talked to some people about it, but somehow I get the feeling that they don't really understand, and I don't blame them.

Astrology was one subject that really helped me make sense of it on my own. However, I've never gotten any insights from astrologers, except from interpretations I read in books. I was born March 24, 1973, at 4:04 PM. I hope my letter will be interesting enough to merit your attention and consideration. T

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Article: The Right Place at the Right Time

Dear Eugenia,

I received an email from an astrologer regarding my soul mate. She said that in the next 56 days I need to be in the right place and time in order to meet this person, but the detailed information came with a price tag of ($60). Can you give me a little more insight on where and what I need to look for so I don't to miss my opportunity? I was born Apr.25, 1973 at 2:51pm.

wondering

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Dear wondering

You currently have Neptune at an adverse aspect to your natal Venus. This can result in attracting someone who is not necessarily good for you. It can be someone who is dishonest, escapist or overindulgent so I don't know where this person is getting her information. I can tell you however that it does not mean that you can't meet someone who is good for you as well if you are careful. Although your chart indicates that June 27 and July 1 are opportune days for love and romance Mercury is in retrograde until July 16 and this usually means that you are best not to start something new. Your chart also indicates that you can find love around the end of September beginning of October and although you will continue to have the poor Neptune transit the Mercury retrograde will not be present. You match up well to those born under the signs Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn and Pisces. You need to get involved in organizations that you believe in and you will have a better chance of meeting someone with similar interests and beliefs. Where your chart really shines over the course of the next few years is pertaining to your work and money. You should be focusing on climbing the career ladder for now and the rest will fall into place.

I don't blame you for wondering about the email your received. A colleague who works for my syndicate brought this method of selling astrological or psychic goods to my attention earlier this year. She had been sent an email out of the blue and found it alarming because it made her feel compelled to pay money for information she didn't ask for. She contacted me immediately and the following article was written to try to help people like yourself avoid this kind of scam.

Fortune-Telling Scam Hits Web U.S. FEATURE (Evergreen)-- The oldest psychic-astrology scam in the world has hit the Internet. E-mail arrives in your mailbox from someone who claims he has stumbled across your name or e-mail address while looking for a friend. The sender happens to be a "psychic-astrologer" and feels a connection to your name. The so-called psychic knows something big will happen in your future and, for a small fee, he will consult the stars and do a reading. That's what happened to Darla Walker, an employee for a Kansas City-based Internet company. "This stranger approached me by e-mail to say that, when she stumbled on my name in a directory, she got very strong vibrations about something big that was about to happen in my life. She encouraged me to get a full astrological reading immediately and suggested a visit to her Web site where readings are advertised for $60. "The e-mails didn't stop with the first one. She built a sense of impending crisis, telling me I would miss the opportunity of a lifetime if I didn't get a reading immediately. I'm not normally superstitious, but it was effective. I was both curious and concerned, but not desperate enough to risk the money or my credit card information to a complete stranger on the Web." It's hard to remain objective when someone appeals to your sense of curiosity, says Eugenia Last, a professional astrologer with over 25 years of experience. Last studied at The Institute of Astrological Studies and others. Her column, "The Last Word in Astrology," is syndicated all over the world through Universal Press. She has written five books, has her own Web sites and makes frequent media appearances.

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